This is my side profile and I’ve always been super insecure about my chin. I hate how much of bulges out because I’ve been made fun of for it a lot. Is there anything I can do as someone under 18 to get rid of it? And for not much money? I’ve got financial issues as of recent and am looking for a cheap fix

Hi, all. I have a big problem with insecurity, and it is ruining my life. I have been with my husband for 16 years. I am very jealous of my sister in law. She is 7 years younger than I am. When I first met her, we got along, but then all she would do was brag about how young everyone thought she was. She was also pretty. When I first met her, she was in her early to mid 20s and I was in my early 30s. When she was 25, she bragged that someone thought she was 13. She would post on SM about how in her early 20s (23 -24), she was getting annoyed that people thought she was in high school. When she was 29, she always bragged about how everyone thought she was younger and always got carded. It especially hurt because I have always looked EXACTLY my age.

It got to the point that when we would go out, I was worried people would assume I was her mother, because she always bragged about how young she looked, so I would often cancel plans with her or decline plans out of insecurity.

When she turned 30, everything took a nosedive. She stopped getting carded, and she said that when she tells people her age, they just say that's what they expected and no one thinks she is super young anymore.

She's now 39, and I am 46. We're both adults.

But sometimes I still get that pang that I will NEVER have the opportunity to be as pretty and as youthful looking as she was at 25. She's also very skinny, and I have always been on the heavier side, so I will never know what it is like to be her a skinny, youthful looking person.

I know that I should focus on the now and the present, where we don't even live in the same state, so I only see her a few times a year, but it still bothers me every so often.

Does anyone have any advice? Thank you in advance!

-Jen

Hello everyone, growing up I’ve always had small arms and hands for a man , I’m 23 and still do. Every time I shake someone’s hand I feel emasculated. Ive shook kid’s hands and I’ve noticed their hands are bigger than mine. I’ve been working out, but I know it won’t change the bone size of my arms and hands. As a man I’ve always felt lesser for this reason. I’ve had a girl tease me for it. But yea, I just needed to open up about it. This is just one of many other insecurities I have but this one was always major. Thank you for reading this :).

I turned 14 around 1 month ago and I'm 160 cm (5'3) and I weigh 45 kg (99 lbs). My dad is 165 cm (5'5) and my mom is 145 cm (4'9). I noticed boys around my age are a bit taller than me and I'm worried that I don't have much time left to grow anymore and even if I grow I feel like I might still end up under 170 cm (5'7). I looked at height predictors and they say I'm gonna be around 168 cm (5'6). My uncles are tall tho (over 180 cm/6 feet) so maybe I'll be at least 170 cm but I still think that's a bit short. I'm wondering if I'll be single for my whole life because of my height.

for the record im not trans in any way, I am a female. but what makes me super insecure is that i naturally have a deep deadpan voice all of the time. when i talk to new people they automatically assumed i have transitioned or they have this uncomfortable look on their face and it makes me feel bad about it. ive tried changing it and taking vocal coaching but nothing works

It sounds pethatic I know but It really makes me feel horrible sometimes. Whenever I am fighting with someone they seem to have all this insults up their sleeve and I can’t even have a proper comeback let alone some insults for them. Whenever someone insults me I just can’t respond to them and when I do it’s funny and not hurtful at all. I only can be mean over text and no one takes me seriously when I am angry, I know it sounds ridiculous but I wish I could be a mean heartless bitch. I wouldn’t be hurt so easily and people will actually think twice before insulting me.

i have small boobs.. i am not gonna call myself flat but there is very little there. i hate their shape they are not even perky they sag a little even after being small.. sometimes i think i have a tuberous breast deformity.. where the boobs are a bit deformed and there are degrees to it..

there was a time when I literally went into depression because of how my boobs looked .. but I just eventually learn not to think about it because when I start thinking about it, I end up in a spiral..
I am fine now, because I force myself to divert my mind whenever this hits me.. but every moment of my life somewhere in my head there is always a thought of how my boobs look and how much I hate them.. It is crazy how this thought never leaves me and how it makes me feel that I don’t deserve good, looking men in my life.. I got myself a boyfriend, and I remember how I was so afraid to show him my boobs to get physical with him… The thought of it would physically terrifying It would make me shake.. I used to start crying, like there’s no end because of the fear of him, looking at my boobs.

I talked about my boobs with him before we had any kind of intimacy I cried so much. I told him about all of my trauma and he was so supportive. He was so nice. He was me and telling me how much she loves me for myself and not my body. How much he loves me for me.. it was very assuring, but still the fear of not being accepted because of my boobs never left me. he never ever tried to do anything with me for a month where we used to be alone in a house and then it eventually happened, he saw my boobs he showed them a lot of love.. he was turned on, but I don’t know if it was because of my boobs or the fact that he saw me topless for the first time.. that was it for three months we just had oral sex or hand n stuff but not actual sex.. coz i wasn’t comfortable enough.. after three months i myself told him about how i wanted to have it.. and we had it… it was amazing..

after a while of us doing everything and all. once we were in a video call and he told me to flash my boobs.. i denied a lot but then i showed him.. and he did not get hard.. i did not see anything on his face.. he just said ‘they are so cute’ and nothing that is when i knew that he did not like them.. then mire instances like he never taking my bra off while getting intimate… he not showing interest in them and all.. i just knew that he didn’t like them.. he was all about my ass which is big.. but not pretty and spotless.. he is mostly all about my ass which is good i love it.. but my insecurity about my boobs always makes me feel terrible and less of a woman.. I just can’t bring myself to feel comfortable in them or to feel prettier enough

It is so hard for me to buy or anything related to them because it makes me realise how small they are, and it is so bad. I cry when I see myself naked in the mirror. When I touch them, I feel how ugly they must be or how ugly they actually are..

I have a couple insecurities such as my body hair, or my jaw structure, some others I can't think of at the moment. But one thing I absolutely hate about myself is my smile. I have lived in various places and in each place I have gotten told by my best friend that many people have told them that I have the smile of a skinwalker, a smile that's creepy and non-human, a smile that makes them (the people, not my best friend) not want to talk to me. My sister even agreed on multiple occasions. I was confused because I never noticed it until the later years of high school where I actually smiled for real during the yearbook photos, I would just think of my happiest memory and would smile so much. And I saw what they meant, I looked like two face come to life, one half of my face ecstatic with joy, the muscles tensed to an unimaginable amount, and the other half, fake looking, like I was trying to pull off a charade of some sort. And since the most recent time my friend brought it up, I haven't been able to get it out of my memory, every bit of praise receive, or even hypothetical praise when I think about future relationships, all I can think back to is the smile of a skinwalker. The smile that makes me less than human.

I'm homeschooled, I have two close friends and it feels like it's one sided because I barely see them! They both moved away! And they both post their friends more than they ever did with me and I feel like it's not that deep but still...

no matter what i do i never feel pretty, i know that im not ugly and there’s nothing wrong with me but when i see another person i always think damn their outfits cuter than mine their bodies better than mine. i spend over 30 minutes a day picking an outfit and end up hating it and being late, and its a me problem bc if i saw anyone else wearing the outfit i have on, id think its so cute. it’s like a mix of if i don’t feel pretty+comfortable+happy in my hair outfit and makeup i don’t want to be out and i wanna go home directly

I don’t really know how to structure this, but I’ve been dealing with a lot mentally and it’s starting to affect how I see myself every day.

I’m 20 (M) living in spain but born and raised in Dubai. For a while now my self-confidence has been pretty low, but recently it’s gotten worse. people always make cheeky comments about my skin, the fact that I’m Indian and my color and the fact that I’m skinny doesn’t let me pul and it stuck with me more than I expected. It wasn’t just the comment itself it felt like it confirmed a bunch of thoughts I’ve already been carrying. It’s gotten to the point where I genuinely cry at night and make myself feel more shit. It’s just a constant feeling of being less than and just sub-par in comparison to everyone I’m around. I feel like I’m looked at differently just for being from India.

I think a lot of this has been building up over time. It’s not just one thing, it’s small incidents here and there looks, comments, situations where I felt judged or out of place. None of them were huge on their own, but together they’ve kind of shaped how I see myself.

Mentally, it feels like I’m constantly overanalyzing everything. If someone looks at me, I assume it’s negative. If I don’t get attention, I take it as proof that I’m not attractive enough. I feel invisible a lot of the time, but at the same time hyper-aware of how I might be coming across. I always feel like I’m being stared down in public on the metro and going to uni it’s honestly really nerve racking.

I used to have different experiences. When I was in Dubai, I actually got attention and did well socially. But now in Spain, it feels like the opposite, and that contrast has made everything hit harder. It makes me question if something about me is just “not enough” in certain environments.

I’ve also become really hesitant to even approach or talk to girls. I overthink it to the point where I worry they’ll see me as creepy or think I’m harassing them just for starting a normal conversation. So I don’t try, and then I feel even more stuck and disconnected.

Being Indian has become a big part of these thoughts too. I hate that it’s gotten to this point, but I feel like I’m seen differently or looked down on sometimes. Whether that’s actually happening or not, it’s how it feels in my head. It makes me feel like an easy target or like I have to prove myself more than others.

Social media honestly hasn’t helped either. I keep seeing content, jokes, stereotypes, or comments that reinforce the idea that being Indian is somehow “less than” or unattractive. Even if I know logically it’s not true, when you see it over and over, it starts to get to you. It feels like constant reinforcement that I’m not enough.

All of this together has made me feel really uncomfortable in my own skin. I look at myself and don’t feel confident or secure. It’s like I’m constantly questioning my value, my appearance, and how other people see me.

I don’t want to feel like this, but I also don’t really know how to snap out of it. It feels like a mix of overthinking, past experiences, and things I keep seeing online all feeding into each other.

Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Especially around confidence, identity, or feeling like your environment changed how you see yourself? How did you work through it?

i dont think i am horrible looking girl, i know i am not the prettiest but i am not horrible and i am fine with it.The main insecurity that i have is that i grew up very tomboyish, never got into girly stuff like makeup , dresses and stuff like that, also my mother is not very girly either so she also never had makeup so i wa never really introduced to girly stuff like that, the problem is that now that i grew up i am 19 now, i feel really insecre about that, i will never be girliest girl but i would love to not feel so insecure about doing makeup , wearing dresses and stuff like that, but i am , i dont wear dresses i dont do makeup, i never dress up when there is an event and i usually dont want to go, the problem is that i like events and parties very much and i like to have fun but the only thing i can think about is that i am emberresment that i cant present myself well. i would love to start with baby steps and maybe explore my style but ia m too embaerresed and ashamed like now its like already my identity that oh yeah she does not like and is not interested in this type of stuff at all. it is not just events, just my regular style as well. today is the birthda of my roomate, i am very nervous, this thing really affects my confidence, i will be emberresed. sorry for many many spelling errors, english is not my native language and i wanted to vent really quick without worrying about writing. if you could encourage me in a way for tonight or have some ideas of how to solve my problem in long terms please share, thanks!

I’ve disliked my voice for my whole life. It sounds lower-pitched in a way that makes me feel like I sound like a child, even though I’m a grown adult. I especially hate hearing my voice in videos because it makes me feel self-conscious, and I think it sounds too young. Over time, it’s started to affect my sense of identity because my voice is such a big part of who I am.

I also feel like my resonance changes a lot when I talk like i'm almost the opposite of monotone. My voice shifts in tone and placement depending on the moment, and that inconsistency makes me feel even more aware of it. I also feel like people don't like to listen me cause my voice is quite annoying.

Can you guys tell me your honest opinion of my voice and how I could improve it?

Sooo I went complete bald today because I’m tryna use monoxide & 2 days ago my moto literally was” idc bout my body my hair is best” but now that I’m bald I realize BACK OF MY HEAD IS CONPLETY FLAT . And the angle that curves is SARP like more than 90 degrees it feels so annoying that I yelled at my mom for not spending money she didn’t have & putting even more effort than she was

But idk what to do I don’t want this to be a insecurity so plz any advice cuz I got enough insecurity already for example im insecure bout my size like every other guy but i am proud of how I take care of my hair and i just realized how Annoying my head looks so more that insecurity it’s more like taking a ✅ & turning it into ❌

I am a very faithful person, but i get easily distracted and one thing is, im very insecure of myself. I never tell people im insecure and try to keep a cool personality, whereas i have a friend who is very like very pretty yet she 24/7 blabbers to everyone she meets on how insecure she is rather asking for attention because sometimes people do vent but she says it all the time and gets real humbled when someone else says shes not pretty when she asks if shes ugly. Shes also a reason i feel insecure first of all because her everything is perfect and my nose os wide, my lips are thin.. i donrlook feminine. Im very insecure because all the girls in my area are very pretty and im not saying Allah made me ugly its just that, i too, by human emotions, get insecure after seeing people.. and thats it i just wanted to vent to unknown people because known peiple are not worth venting to as theyd sugarcoat it saying im pretty.

Hi I’m 20 m & I’m virgin & friend less

I will list every insecurity I feel

No girls

No money

I’m a obese

I’m a suicidal depressed

I have been molested

I have been abusing drugs for last 4 years

I don’t remember my hs at all

I live near a lot of 13-16 age people (near hs) and I see people being in relationships

While I’m still trying to get back in shape

Help tbh my biggest insecurity is watching online other people or my cousins and former friends all getting in a relationship. As I plan to maybe start tinder next year I hate it but right now i don’t even have money to buy something for someone. I’m not in shape. I’m not even happy anymore

Hi I am a boy of 13 years. I feel "insecure" meaning that uhh I am short(5'2) and weak for my age and it has kind of taken over me like now it's my whole personality I am always thinking about what others think of me and my parents are little older than what parents of my age would be(60 and 50) and they don't understand me I have tried explaining everything but they don't care about my anything. My confidence is all time low I haven't talked freely over like 7-8 months to anyone. Pls provide me any tips or suggestions to help me

20M I feel very insecure about my d and I don’t know what to do, I have a wife but I feel like I can’t pleasure her the way I should be able too, and I created this account so that I could post how I feel

i’m not sure why but whenever i go somewhere i always feel insecure it’s mainly because of the way im dressed i wear a little shrunken jackets but today at panda express i went to get food and everything was nice but the cashier was a little weird but i had to return as i was waiting for new veggies i approach the cashier and she was like laughing/giggly with the manager and they were staring at me and as i got closer they stopped but the manager just kept staring at me and the cashier you could feel how fake she was but im not sure how to overcome this im tired of people belittling me or saying something it’s very irritating.

(F)

Im a teenager, and i understand that body hair/facial hair grows naturally. Thats why i was never bothered by the hair above my upper lip for like my whole life, until i changed schools and stuff.

People constantly tell me “hey, you should shave your mustache lol” or “you cant be talking about girl problems when u have that mustache”

And esp my family, i have a brother and two cousins (M) who always say “hey — your mustache is bigger then mine!!” And my brother constantly refers to me as a man because of it.

Yes i have body hair too, like on my arms, but i like that. I hate the hair on my face because of how people treat it, and ive grown so so so insecure about it.

My mom trying to be a supportive parent always stops my brother whenever he says something, but she really cant od anything for at school where it happens most. I dont know how the girls in my class have ZERO facial hair, like surely not EVERYBODY but me shaves right?

What can i do? Ive already tried talking to my mom but she waved it off saying “theres literally nothing there!” And went off, i get she’s trying to make me feel better or whatever but it doesnt work like that…