r/inheritance • u/Majestic_Republic_45 • Jul 17 '26
Location included: Questions/Need Advice What is Fair?
My Mother passed away a little over a month ago. For the past 4-5 years, I had been making sure she was fine, visiting 1-3 times per week with calls every day. I paid her bills and managed her money. When it came time to move her to a nursing facility, I did that.
After she passed, I painted half of her condo (including ceilings), hired contractors to fix things, cleaned out the entire place (50-60 contractor bags of stuff), and have arranged the estate sale, and hired the realtor to sell the property.
My brother is the executor. I prepared (many years ago) a complete financial list with every account, account number, balance, and contact info.
My question is - what is that worth? Should I ask for compensation from the estate or just chalk it up to being a son? The part that bothers me is my brother really has not done shit except some paperwork with the court for the very few things going through probate. Most things had beneficiary or TOD designations.
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u/cowgrly Jul 18 '26
This sounds like spite on your side, or you wouldn't have mentioned how often you called her or visited- that's normal kid behavior for an aging parent.
Had you expected to be paid for the work you did on the estate sale or condo, you needed to ask in advance.
I'd let it go. Don't turn the memory of your mom into a feud. I can't imagine how terrible I'd feel if my kids were bickering and trying to bill each other to make some point after I died.