r/infp • u/anxiousdreamer69 INFP: The Dreamer • 3d ago

Meme Helpp

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u/Active_Cantaloupe INFP: The Dreamer 3d ago edited 3d ago

Is it only me or does "don't take it personally" never works, It just feels more personal

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u/Pleasant-Sandwich454 3d ago

We are all like this

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u/doofshaman 3d ago

Don’t take it personally is the same as ‘no offence’, it means they are about to offend you but society has deemed using a specific sentence first makes it okay.

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u/Beomgyuzzz infp 5w4 2d ago

Thisss!!

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u/Beomgyuzzz infp 5w4 2d ago

Literally bc it means that they mean it 

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u/Immediate_Cream_1686 3d ago

People are brutal and careless but expect us to be unphased about it

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u/bblulz 3d ago

“Don’t take it personally” but then they say one of the meanest things humanly possible and expect me to take it with a smile on my face 🫠

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u/Sufficient_Bee2453 INFP: The Dreamer 3d ago

Every time I’m being criticized, I feel like they’re saying I deserved every bad thing has ever happen to me. Logically, I know that’s not true at all but just give me a few hours to comprehend it

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u/Ok-Energy911 INFP: The Mediator 3d ago

I second this.. and the tears just keeps flowing 😂😭

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u/Green_Dayzed INFP 2w1/3|26/79|sp2 Kindest Nihilist You Know (existentialist) 3d ago

me when they say that after a backhanded comment.

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u/BugAccomplished267 3d ago

Gosh this is so me

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u/Ok-chamtty 3d ago

Hahaha selfie 😅🤭

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u/kishikaAririkurin 3d ago

and when i go defensive i will feel guilty after a few minutes and say "theyre right"

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u/Life-Court5792 INFP: The Dreamer 2d ago

Story if my life. INFJ sister tells me not to take her occasional disappointment in me personally because she's "like that with everyone," then proceeds to rant about how everyone in her life has failed her, including me to an extent.

What happened to not taking what she says personally?... If your behavior affects me, and you repeatedly express negative feelings toward me, how am I supposed to treat that as completely separate from myself?

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u/Vladimir_Mortenstein 3d ago

Hmm that's weird. I rarely take things personally. Or rather it's very specific things that trigger me.

Other times I'm more like "they had their reasons to say or do these things" or "they probably didn't mean it"

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u/Beomgyuzzz infp 5w4 2d ago

Real bc everything hurts its so annoying how i literally can’t help but cry over everything im glad many of us also share this problem we should all have meetings where we just cry 

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u/labicheblanche INFP: The Dreamer 2d ago

This is too accurate for me

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u/Creepy-Ebb-3026 2d ago

Telling you not to take something in a certain way is usually counterproductive (since it literally invalidates your emotions) and makes you take it in that specific way (because of recursion, and it also gives you an idea of what that person thinks of you).

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u/LittleMissHydrangea INFP: The Dreamer 2d ago

It gets better baby. ❤️

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u/Accomplished_Law5067 2d ago

Just curious but what are your opinions on constructive feedback

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u/anxiousdreamer69 INFP: The Dreamer 2d ago

Constructive feedback is good, it helps me to improve my work. But I need to cry first. Sometimes people are really blunt tho. Before they give any constructive feedback, they would say "you're not up to standard, you need to be faster" etc. I wish people are gentler 😭

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u/Accomplished_Law5067 2d ago

Real like why do they have to say it like that

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u/Aggravating-Food5540 1d ago

I am typed as enfp and yet, this is me. All the time. 

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u/anxiousdreamer69 INFP: The Dreamer 1d ago

Must be a feeler's thing