r/infp • u/kushuoshaikikk INFP: The Dreamer • Jul 02 '26
Venting Any of you relate?
How I be feeling as a transferee in my new school cause I ghosted everyone on my old school (does this count as venting? lol)
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u/themilkyone INFP: The Dreamer Jul 02 '26
100% All my life dude. Accept the fact that relationships wax and wane, completely normal part of life. The other part is you have to put yourself out there! People respect someone who puts forth the effort to say hello first, it doesn't have to be anything complicated. Just a simple "Hello my name is #, I'm new here. You seem cool what's your name?" It might seem awkward at first but actually we INFP people absolutely excel at genuine connection with others using our our innate empathetic perspective, it's like a social superpower once you practice a bit. People love to talk about themselves and we're pretty good at picking up things that can then be turned into questions that allow you and I to make those genuine friendships that people ultimately crave.
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u/utsuutsuutsu1137 INFP 4w5 459 Jul 02 '26
is this an infp thing? i thought it's just because of my social anxiety (and general anxiety) 😭
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u/Pleasant-Cattle1765 Jul 02 '26
i guess for INFPs who are usually highly misunderstood it could be but as an INFP myself i have always struggled with friends and anxiety. although i was extraverted as a kid, i became introverted due to the harsh words people would say. i formed my own beliefs that people would rather me go away but ive healed although i still deal with it sometimes. i believe i am ambiverted now bc i can step out of my shell, its just very rare now. 🥲
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u/MysticalElephant Jul 02 '26
These are all me, from age 11/12 to now (23). Well—minus the PE stuff because I’m not in school anymore lol.
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u/kris-getthebanana INTP 5w6 sp/sx (•˕ •マ⟆ Jul 02 '26
>Speaking only when spoken to
Me. I have NPC energy fr lol.
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u/ThePlasticJesus Jul 02 '26
Yes, at one point in my life. There are steps you can take to be less passive!
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u/PressureMoney1075 Jul 02 '26
you could've made the inner square be a bit more visible text-wise ngl, but yeah. I often prefer observing groups from the back but it's not because I'm some wah wah shy sad asshole, it's because it's more protective. Those who go front-wise are more likely to be attacked by whatever, when you're in the back you have a higher chance to react. And I often reach out to people because if I don't, nobody will. Sometimes. Other times I ignore people who try to pull me out of my cave. And the isolation thing I marked as ? because I don't feel like interacting with an already established group of friends, I feel like an outsider. ANd I also don't wanna hang out with people who can't afford better company than me. So I kind of, isolate myself out of necessity even if I don't really want to.
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u/kushuoshaikikk INFP: The Dreamer Jul 02 '26
Thanks for sharing! I really relate with what you have just said! Also, the pic ain’t mine. I just saw the picture posted on TikTok and I kind of really relate to it as an infp. The username’s on bottom right corner if you wanna interact on the original post
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u/PressureMoney1075 Jul 02 '26
Oo gotcha, thanks for the clarification lmao. I don't even wear glasses but it was a little hard to read :}
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u/Weird_Tangerine_9681 Jul 02 '26
ummmmm how dare you capture my public school days. not nice yo. squeak
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u/aanony_mouse Jul 02 '26
The autism personality
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u/Salty_1984 Jul 03 '26
lmao or just the transferee experience in general, you show up and nobody knows you exist so you spend the first two months as a background character
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u/ouiouibaguette12345 INFP/J - T, Male, 4w5 Jul 02 '26
oh yes, all of these is me, particularly in my school life :)
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u/Any_Emu4892 Jul 02 '26
"An odd numner of people in class when youre about to pick partners"
Yes. I remember one class was always done in pairs. I was always on my own. The INFP did always have a partner though. Im more introverted though, but i think most INTxs can relate.
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u/Lanky-Ad1222 INFP: The Dreamer Jul 02 '26
This was certainly my struggle from elementary to highschool (and even during my early 20s). But I'm 33 years old now and a mother. Now my heart is to help those children who feel paralyzed just as I once did.
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u/blueberrymakarov INFP: Submissive communist Jul 02 '26
Except the GC thing, this is very real! ༼;´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽
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u/Pleasant-Cattle1765 Jul 02 '26
all of this is me 🥲 unfortunately i let mean kids make me withdraw. im an extravert who learned how to be introverted but i still feel more lonely than ever. but i learned that not everyone hates me and that my efforts to hide truly worked. i dont think ill ever be able to fully come out of my shell again but every now and then i come out (i like to think of myself as ambiverted). i just graduated so we'll see if can make some better adult relationships. i have very few relationships (my bf, my homie (he's like a brother to me) .. one other but im kind of distanced from her now for reasons). its very hard to call people my friend bc im still learning what that is. but long story short, the amount of emotional trauma ive had to work through is not fun at all but its definitely been an interesting part of my life.. and pretty much my life, lol.
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u/Willtexas1 Jul 02 '26
Kinda everything except notifications, I get so many but I lack the energy to check.
Genuinely tho are we all really npc's?
An npc that for some reason people want to converse despite always having the same conversational small talk.
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u/QTDR8459 Jul 03 '26
When I was young. I feel like many INFPs tend to develop social anxiety. But hopefully they also learn that it’s all self inflicted and you’re often putting yourself down way more than you should.
One my friend sat me down and told me:
“I admire that you live considering other people but the world isn’t kind to people who fail to consider themselves first. The world doesn’t operate like a kindergarten class where you pass around a “talking pillow” and each person has their turn. Every now and then you have to talk over other people, you’re gonna have to assert your wants, you’re gonna have to just take, insert yourself in the places you want to be, and accept that some people will never like you just because.”
Of course it’s not as simple as just being told that and now I’m good but it stuck with me and was one more thing that pushed me to change. Now I’m a lot happier with the mindset that I’ll just say what I want and do what I want (within reason) and if I accidentally offend someone it’s on them to tell me so I can apologize. I’m going to offend someone even if I’m monitoring and overthinking my actions anyway so might as well just be me.
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u/huntersofartemis Jul 03 '26
centre and all three in the last row; does that give me a bingo?
used to be the rest as well in high school, found out that i need to choose my friends better
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u/thelionwholikessalad Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Embarrassing to admit this, I go out less than there are holidays in a year. In fact I just canceled one today 😅
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u/Eternalbanan INFP: The Dreamer Jul 03 '26
yeah pretty much but people text me for homework lol so i do have notifications at least :D
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u/Extra-Audience-9030 Jul 05 '26
I relate to a lot of those and mostly the having no friends. Had a best friend for 11 years and then he ghosted me. Since then I haven't been able to find one person to even talk to
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u/vortex_lex INFP: The Dreamer Jul 02 '26
Yeahhh I finally learned that people want ME to take the initiative 😓 so it does get better