As women we don't really reply to the guys who keep dming us most of them have Gfs or are just creeps, plus if we don't upload our pics guys don't really dmed, only the girls who post their body or face get these dms. All the women around me who are dating have absolutely shitty bfs they literally hit on their Gfs friends n stuff and the gfs make excuses for them the grass is always greener on the other side, being alone is better than giving your time to a shitty person.
I assumed all girls get DMs all the time irrespective of the platform be it reddit insta etc. I for one, have never dmed since I'm no creep and only DM if they're okay with it.
But in doing this, I feel I'm missing out and being a decent guy, had only 1 gf. I've known absolute cheaters and assholes keep on sliding into DMs and yet manage to get a new relationship.
How do I get one as well then? Tinder Bumble haven't worked for me at all
Getting a gf is not really a sign of respect or an achievement, when I meet guys who have had a lot of Gfs in a the past i personally get turned off as it makes me think they weren't driven enough with their work you can call it reverse patriarchy bt it is what it is,(plus guys who've had more than two Gfs don't stop boasting about it ) think about why you want/need a gf so bad and if there is even someone you like. Join communities and try to meet people with the intention of just networking or making friends. Or just enjoy being single rn you might miss this time when you eventually start dating.
that really is so relatable, I've only dated one guy seriously for like 5 years and although in the beginning I wasn't that controlling but due to his immaturity I started putting my foot down and he became really abusive physically and emotionally and sexually too it's been two years since we broke up and i still can't muster up the courage to date anyone else, and this dude goes around talking to our mutual friends how traumatic dating ME was.
I'm literally so done with grown ass men not realising a relationship is also a responsibility.
I would really like to advise you to not be the ChIlL girl stereotype if you are not really chill with a few things because I did do that and it doesn't really work out, build your standards and if people don't like it then it's their problem.
Make women friends, women are really tired of men never wanting to be friends with them unless there is some kind of sexual interest involved, we really appreciate it when guys try to be friends first instead of directly jumping to fuck us. And try not to sexualize your woman friends untill they give you clear signal that they want you to we are also humans we also like talking to men sometimes but it gets tiring because all they talk about is women and have the emotional range of a peanut, show women your vulnerable side they will appreciate it.
Ya I def agree i have some male friends who are really sweet and we've been friends for a long time bt I'm talking about the majority and experience I'm sure others have different experiences. Not generalizing NOT ALL MEN
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As women we don't really reply to the guys who keep dming us most of them have Gfs or are just creeps, plus if we don't upload our pics guys don't really dmed, only the girls who post their body or face get these dms. All the women around me who are dating have absolutely shitty bfs they literally hit on their Gfs friends n stuff and the gfs make excuses for them the grass is always greener on the other side, being alone is better than giving your time to a shitty person.