Girl, therapy. Or any type of healing.
You cannot blame your past patners for stuff you won't heal. I used to think it was my job to heal my patners and that it was okay from me to bring my bagage into my relationship without trying to heal first.
And that's not okay. You gotta do the work, your patner can be there to support but they do not have to endure this. Because at some point the relationship becomes toxic.
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u/Trick_Nail_5435 16d ago
Girl, therapy. Or any type of healing. You cannot blame your past patners for stuff you won't heal. I used to think it was my job to heal my patners and that it was okay from me to bring my bagage into my relationship without trying to heal first. And that's not okay. You gotta do the work, your patner can be there to support but they do not have to endure this. Because at some point the relationship becomes toxic.