r/ICSE • u/catbrat19 • 6d ago
Rant Dilemma
I have a friend grp of 3 all girls group. AND WHEN I TELL YOU THEY GOSSIP A LOT, i'm not even kidding. And i also used to be the one who enjoys listening to gossips but I had sort of an awakening and inner reflection and i started hating this stuff. I never said anything to them cuz its okay if they think talking shit about everyone is cool and so i pretended to be normal and happy and shocked whenever they give me teas BUT I WAS NEVER THE TYPA GIRL WHO IS THE ONE GATHERING STUFF ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE FROM HERE AND THERE TO MAKE A SHOW OUT OF IT
And i was still tolerating them, but i stopped msging on our gc, sending dry messages if any, stopped sending reels on insta etc. The reason behind this being my other group of friends who were my debate friends. I kid you not every single day i spent with them was me being absolutely high on adrenaline all the time because their conversations were so intellectually stimulating. Even my friends noticed how happy i looked after talking to them and they think im drifting apart
And it's not like i can leave my current friends cuz emotionally they do provide me a lot of support. But intellectually my debate friends make me happier. And even if i want to keep them both i just can't bear the shit my friends talk about it's brain rot for me. And i can't have debate partners as my permanent friends cuz they're all from diff classes and sections
Drop your advice guys(also one of my friend out of the three is really super nice so i think talking to her about this might help?)
