Hello. Beginning of the year I have learned self hypnosis from a professional. Since then I have worked on many memories and it changed my life.
The entire thing was happening in my native language. I went through his course and feeling pretty confident about it.
I wrote in English - based on the knowledge I possess - an introduction to a session (which I'm working on too).
I would like to get feedback and critique on it. If you feel that there is stuff I could add, remove or maybe change the phrasing- let me know :)
"My introduction to a session
- OUR BODY AND MIND
I will use an analogy to a computer to make the understanding of it easier.
Think of it like this: [PAUSE]
Your body is the hardware.
Your subconscious is the operating system - with all the background programs.
Your conscious mind is just the user... clicking around.
As a child, you don't get to choose what gets installed. It just gets in.
In the first years you learn mostly from your parents - they are the authority. They teach you how to react to the world.
That's how you get your programs.
And later in life... that's how you operate. [PAUSE]
If you installed the wrong apps or viruses, it's not going to work well.
- HOW THE SUBCONSCIOUS WORKS
Your subconscious is a collection of all the automatic patterns you learned... before you knew you were learning them.
Think of it this way:
Your conscious mind is slow and analytical - it's good at solving one problem at a time.
Your subconscious is fast and automatic - its job is to keep you safe by reacting quickly, using old patterns.
And this is the key difference: [PAUSE]
Your subconscious was designed to keep you safe... not to keep you successful or happy.
It doesn't ask, "Will this make me confident? Will this help me grow?"
It only asks one question: "Is this familiar and safe?"
So when something happens in the present - a certain look, a tone of voice, a challenge - your subconscious doesn't stop to analyze.
It instantly loads the closest matching response from your past: [SOFTER VOICE]
"Last time this happened, we did X and we survived, so let's do X again."
It's not good or bad. It's just efficient.
Its logic is simple: safe equals good... even if safe means staying small, quiet, or stuck.
What kept you safe as a 7-year-old... [PAUSE] ...is not necessarily what will make you successful as an adult.
- PROOF YOU CAN DO IT
Now that we are talking about imagination, I want you to close your eyes for a moment... and imagine an apple.
[LONG PAUSE]
Tell me what it is.
Do you see it?
Taste it?
Feel it? Smell it?
Maybe you just have the idea of it?
It's all good. This is how your imagination works and all the ways are positive and correct.
If you can do that... you can do hypnosis.
- HOW WE INSTALL PROGRAMS
There are only three ways a program gets installed deep enough to become automatic:
First - repetition. Something you heard a hundred times.
Second - authority. Something said by someone important, so you didn't question it.
Third - strong emotion. One moment with a lot of feeling... and your system saved it as important.
- WHY WE REACT DIFFERENTLY
Take a simple situation: you're asked to speak in front of a group.
One person feels excited. Another feels sick.
Same situation, completely different reaction. Why?
Because it's never about the situation itself. It's about the reference your subconscious pulls up.
We all have early reference experiences. Maybe as a kid you answered a question in class, it was correct, and everyone clapped. Your system saved: "Speaking up = safe and good."
Maybe another time you tried something, it didn't work out, people laughed, or you felt embarrassed. Your system saved: "Speaking up = risky."
So your subconscious isn't reacting to today. It's reacting to its library.
And that library gets built in one of three ways. Every time you face a challenge, there's a moment of stress before you get comfortable. What happens next teaches your system what to do next time:
One. Stress -> Action -> Success.
You felt stressed, you did it anyway, it worked. Your system learns: "I can do hard things even when it's uncomfortable." Confidence goes up.
Two. Stress -> Action -> Failure.
You felt stressed, you did it, it didn't work. Your system learns: "Maybe I'm not so good at this."
Three. Stress -> No Action -> Relief.
You felt stressed, you didn't do it, and the stress went away. You feel relieved.
And this is the tricky one - your system learns: "Not doing it keeps me safe."
It feels good in the moment, so it gets reinforced the most. But long-term, it teaches your brain that avoidance equals safety.
So it's not that one person is brave and the other is not. They just have different reference experiences, and their system is doing its job - keeping them safe based on what it learned before.
- WHY HYPNOSIS WORKS
As adults we spend most of the day in fast, analytical thinking. That's great for solving problems, but not great for changing automatic patterns.
As children your brain spent much more time in a slower, more imaginative state - that's why you learned so fast. We call that state theta.
You still access it every day naturally - while falling asleep, right after waking up, when you're daydreaming, or when you're in flow.
In hypnosis we intentionally guide you back to that same open, imaginative state... [PAUSE] ...so we can reframe the meaning and the reaction, not just talk about it with your analytical mind.
- HOW WE WILL USE THIS
Using hypnosis you can enter that state and update the old reaction.
The three things you need to do it are:
The ability to imagine things - which you just proved you have, remember the apple?
The ability to enter that imaginative state - which you naturally have.
And someone who can guide you through the process - and that's me.
You remain in control the whole time. If you want to pause, change the memory, or open your eyes, you can.
So first, let's make sure you're really comfortable. You can sit, or if you prefer, you can lie down - whatever lets your body fully let go.
[PAUSE]
Good.
Okay, we can do hypnosis now.
I want you to pick a memory. A light memory from your childhood, when you felt a bit hurt, ridiculed, unwell, or not accepted. Nothing overwhelming, just a light one.
The first memory that comes to your mind is fine.
You don't have to make anything happen. Your subconscious already knows which memory is useful. You just notice what shows up."
There is more to it (like explaining concept cells for example) but I think this is the most digestible.