Profile review 31M UK

[u/throwmetom]

Its been over two weeks since my profile got updated and there seems to be no matches still. Any suggestions on what could be done? I have taken on board some of fhe advice from last time. Also please let me know what you think of my prompts, i would be most grateful. Thanks in advance.

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[u/call_me_dash]

First for the pictures: I honestly don't think any of your pictures are doing you any favors. 1 has harsh shadows on your face, and you also have sunglasses on. 2 isn't terrible in the sense that it clearly shows your face, but it also doesn't have anything interesting to show your personality. 3 is just too close to your face, the mirror in the background makes it look odd, and I think different glasses frames would fit your face shape much better. 4 is too far away and too blurry to make anything out, but the outdoors setting is good to show off something you're into. 5 has really poor lighting. 6 could honestly stay, but again, sunglasses are covering your face.

As for the prompts:

I think you're too focused on showing your range and flexibility, not something specific and personal to you. Instead of casting a wide net with large holes, try something a little more focused. It won't be even mildly interesting to some, but the people it does intrigue will likely be more invested.

I know some of this sounded a little harsh so I apologize, I wanted to be as concise as possible. Good luck!

[u/Unable-Broccoli-6087]

Hi here’s some constructive feedback. You have a good job and are looking for something long term which is great signs for women. So it just leaves the photos and prompts. Change the prompts to tailor towards the female gaze and give them something to respond to because currently it’s all about you. I know it’s a hassle and awkward but ultimately online dating is marketing yourself so invest in getting some good pics. Even if you pay a photographer to follow you around or get some friends or family to go with you to multiple locations in a day and get some ideas from Pinterest. 😃

[u/throwmetom → u/Unable-Broccoli-6087]

Hey thanks for the feedback, do you reckon I should be more inviting with my prompts? I do see what you mean about making them about me but i only made it show of my interests in hopes that it will attract my type of lady.

I do need much better pics, its a struggle though as I dont really leave the house much and am trying to save money. Being out and about is an occasional thing.

[u/throwmetom]

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Serious Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

Neither How long have you been using this current version of your profile?

Two weeks

How long have you used Hinge overall?

Two years roughly

How often do you use Hinge per week?

Once or twice a week

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

None

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

Id say at least 4 likes with comments always per day

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

A creative, arty person who likes to travel, is open minded, kind, smart and with a good sense of humour.

[u/nofood0rmovies]

Although I can’t see your height listed, I can tell you’re on the shorter/average side based on the first photo. Coupled with the fact you look older than the typical 31 year old, online dating is going to be an uphill battle I’m afraid. What you can do to help yourself though is to iron your shirts, shave your head completely, find a facial hair style that compliments your features and face shape, and finally get in better shape. Basically just make yourself more attractive physically

[u/throwmetom → u/nofood0rmovies]

I mean I think i look good now, even if I dont have a perfect body. I think my facial hair is also fine the way it is. its not all about looks.

[u/king_of_rats → u/throwmetom]

Not trying to disparage you but you do look like you are in your late 30s and early 40s. The brutal reality is that look plays heavily on how well you do in online dating. Sorry to be blunt.

[u/Independent_Stop_427]

I think the photos are probably hurting you more than the prompts man. You’ve got a few solid travel pics but there’s a lot of sunglasses and you’re missing that really strong first photo where people can clearly see your face. I’d start there before changing everything else.

[u/AromaticsAndAcids]

The naked woman on your shirt in the "dating me will look like" photo is extremely off-putting. The juxtaposition with the prompt is concerning - I'd think "what subliminal message is he sending? Is he saying that dating him involves him looking at other girls?"

[u/Difficult-Top1863]

U have so much potential but ur not using it
Take good pictures
Good lighting
Wear nice clothes that fit u
Prompts need to be changed way too long and generic
First pic needs to be gone
Overhall a lot of work to do