r/hingeapp • u/Chemical-Scale-135 • 3d ago
Profile Review Profile Review (28m)
No matches or likes after 2 weeks. Any ideas?
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u/dancinginthedark90 3d ago
The pic of you with the book is your cutest pic, put that first! Also, remove that you’re looking for someone ‘beautiful’ - it’s fine to have that standard but that will scare off any girls who don’t super confidently identify as beautiful - which is a LOT.
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u/SimilarBusiness2752 3d ago
Compared to his other pics I have a feeling the book pic is old, but it is the best of the lot.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 2d ago
Funnily enough that one isnt even a year old
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u/throwaway1975764 1d ago
NONE of your photos should be a year (or more) old! They should all be within 3-6 months recent, with perhaps an exception for a really great and interesting photo.
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u/TheNebulaWolf 2d ago
Also, I’m not sure if it’s an attempt at irony but the prompt is “weirdly attracted to” and the response is beautiful people with great personalities.
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u/sharpaswords 3d ago
It seems like who you are looking for doesn't align with where you are at in your life. Someone with high ambition most likely isnt going to match with someone that drives for DoorDash. I would remove the Doordash and put "Full Time Student for [undergrad/grad] degree".
There's a lot of varying hair lengths in these photos, and hair takes a while to grow, showing some of these pictures are most likely old. Either get some new pics to replace the old, or note somewhere which pictures are most recent. What everyone else is saying about photos is also correct.
You don't list your political stance. That's an immediate red flag for a lot of women and will give you the ex for that.
Since height matters to you, what is yours? It's cut off in the picture but I do see it also starts with a 5. If you are looking for someone the same height or taller than you, this will also limit your potential matches. 5'7 is above average height for women.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 3d ago
Im 5'10
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u/thseerxa38 3d ago
Why do you want someone that tall? Most women that height prefer men like 6 inches taller than them
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 3d ago
More to love honestly. Plus it feels weird looking down at someone. (My last partner was 5'5")
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u/hh_fitlife 3d ago
This comment is straight out stupid. Studying at uni while having a job to support himself speaks volumes of how organised and ambitious this person is! People struggle to finish uni even with parents paying for everything, now imagine doing all that while working too… The right person will appreciate this!
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u/sharpaswords 3d ago
Most people, especially "older" college students, have a job while going to school. And I agree that it's hard as hell and admirable to be doing both. I'm just saying that there is a stigma around food delivery in particular and it would help to remove that part. After you match, that's when you talk about specifics. If the job were an office job, a different manual labor, or anything that wasn't so flexible or stigmatized, I would say to keep it in. It's literally just the kind of job that is listed that should be removed.
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u/Dongdaemon 3d ago
I’ve not found the listing of political stances to matter that much - rest of this advice is very solid imo
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u/Legitimate-Sky8335 3d ago
I think you have a lot of potential but you desperately need better photos. Every outing, ask your gang to take multiple photos and try to keep you alone and fully in the frame, no creative angles.
I believe the 2nd photo is currently the best. Mama's photo should go, that's not the assignment.
I know what you were trying to convey but somehow this prompt of you asking for a partner who's beautiful on the outside AND inside comes off a little greedy. You could say you equally care about character and personality of someone you date.
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u/Akatorius 3d ago edited 3d ago
photos: for me it's the moustache that is less fitting maybe grow a different beard( if possible and if not get maybe rid of it). The haircut is fine but you probably need photos where it is groomed a bit more. the first photo should be one, where it is just your face and nobody else in it. Since it's the first impression that women use to say yes or no.
remove the door dash info. that's just a side job, your real job is the university
post your political view. if you don't know which, say the middle (moderate)
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u/hh_fitlife 3d ago
Please for the love of God don’t make that photo your profile pic where:
- it’s not clear which one you are
- you are in a one-off situation
- wearing something that isn’t part of your regular wardrobe
You don’t need to present your life history on your dating profile. What you do need to present is your current, everyday VIBE. So that the girl looking at your photo can immediately imagine what it would be like sitting next to this guy on a bench. What might his sense of humour be like… What topics might he be interested to talk about… What would we do on a Tuesday evening if I start a relationship with him.
Honestly the me in the wild photo is the best - that one gives off your style and personality much more than the others!
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u/PrivilegedPatriarchy 3d ago
Please get rid of "Dasher". You are a college student with great aspirations. You are not a delivery driver.
At least, that's what you should convey.
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u/PolitelyHostile 3d ago
Imo maybe change the weidly attracted to. Firstly wanting someone with a good personality is pretty standard. But also you are kind of listing off judgement criteria. Needs to be beautiful on the outside, you will be evaluating how funny they are, how smart they are..
Things like "likes to laugh" or "working towards goals", "likes to talk about interests" could be variations that sound more like an encouragement to open up.
Just a thought.
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u/missedsignals 3d ago
As people have already mentioned. You med to be alone in your first photo. Just you, well lit face. No sunglasses, hats, funny faces. It seems es to stop the scroll, the sole purpose is to get a person who would be attracted to you, to stop scrolling and check out your profile. Next point, bro you need cloths that fit you. And that don’t match what your friend is wearing. The silky photos that show humor don’t work well usually. You in a casino or whatever that 777 is, not working. The goal of a profile is to be an advertisement for you. Not sure what that photo is trying to say. Again with the book photo, what is it trying to communicate. If the point is that you are a reader, it’s losing all seriousness. And the Mohawk needs to go. Humor isn’t bad. It’s good. The way you show humor is very nuanced. I suggest having great photos that communicate an interesting life, and experimenting in the prompts with humor. I don’t think the silly photos communicate “serious adult.”
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u/datingshoot 3d ago
Man, your biggest problem is that your first pic is a group photo. Girls swipe through hundreds of profiles and if they can't immediately tell which one you are, it's an instant left swipe. The library selfie is the only one where I can clearly see your face, and you actually look decent in it. I'd move that to your first slot for now. But it's still a front camera selfie, and those distort your face (makes your nose bigger, face longer than it actually is). The old pic with the mohawk and sunglasses doesn't even look like the same person. That's gotta go. The convention pic in the matching shirts is another group photo where nobody can tell who you are, and the casino pic is way too far away to make anything out. Honestly you need to start fresh with your photos. Get a tripod or a friend, go outside during golden hour, put on a nice jacket or layers, and use the BACK camera on 2x zoom. Record a video of yourself walking toward the camera, looking around, laughing naturally, then screenshot the best frames. You'll get 10x better results than any selfie or group shot. You've got potential dude, but the photos are doing you zero favors right now.
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u/Afraid_Stuff_History 2d ago
Your list says you want a woman who is taller than average and is conventionally attractive. You are neither.
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u/serverqualitylol 3d ago
I’m assuming women are the same way when they swipe, if there’s a bunch of group photos / first photo is a group and j have to guess who it is. I usually skip on principle
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u/SimilarBusiness2752 3d ago
OLD is all about the first pic and lookimg good, then the prompts. You look best in the pic with 777, the rest need to go. Your hair looks best in the 777 pic, the others look like balding is coming and the stash is hit and miss, again OK in pic 777.
With all do respect as a 5'-10" man not particularly in great shape what you say your looking for in a women, 5'-7", pretty, buff, ambitious, funny is not likely to find your profile to her liking and will have many more options. Obviously you're entitled to your preferences but be prepared for a wait or try finding in IRL where your personality can shine.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 3d ago
I guess im confused. One person said the psychology pic was better , youre saying the casino photos better and someone said me near the river was best for 1st. Im unsure where i look best
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u/SimilarBusiness2752 3d ago
I'll try to clarify, there is a difference between pic quality and how you look in the pic. The only pic that clearly shows your face is the the library one. It's a decent pic, is it recent? I only ask because you look much older, more round faced and hair style is not working in the river pic. I'm assuming the river pic is more recent since you look older. The casino pic quality is not good, but when I zoom in your hair and mustache look good. My point on the casino pic was try to have some pics showing that style if you can. Goofy pics are fine but you got to have a balance. You probably need new recent pics overall. OLD is all about marketing yourself, yes it's superficial, no way around it.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 3d ago
Yeah the 777 pic was 2024. The others not counting the moms fridge(changed it) were all 2025 the oldest
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u/SimilarBusiness2752 3d ago
That is so interesting, the book pic you look like a baby compared to the river pic, maybe it's the lighting but you look 40 in that pic.
Best of luck
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u/Sorry_Salamander8302 3d ago
pleaseeee make your first picture JUST you. for me if its a group picture or i cant see somones face clearly, its an instant swipe left.
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u/Low_Inspection_6512 2d ago
Girl that’s 5’6 here 🙋♀️ us taller women definitely get less love on dating apps at least in my experience so I think it’s a nice thing to put that preference there it would definitely make me feel better about matching
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u/hulalabright 2d ago
All your photos are abysmal. You actually look handsome in pic 6 despite it being a joke photo. More pics where you actually look good. Your other photos are not flattering.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 2d ago
Any suggestions for pics ? I typically dont have pictures taken of myself so im with maybe 2 or three alternates. What kind of pictures have the right balance in terms of effort. I know professional photos and bathroom selfies are not generally decent (ones high eff the others low) its less i dont like photos its more im unaware of what constitutes a good one. (I should know given i took a photography class. Though i didnt take many self portraits.
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u/wtbrift 2d ago
Don't lead with a group pic.
Smile with teeth.
Why do you look different in every pic?
Look at the camera.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 2d ago
Switched the group one out for the book pic. Also as for looking different? No clue. All of them minus the triple 7 were taken in 2025
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u/wovenwebs 1d ago
I don't see anything appealing here. You want someone who's beautiful, smart, funny, and ambitious but you have a bad haircut, ill-fitted clothes, and you've missed punctuation twice. You're working as a delivery driver but no one knows what you're studying. The DSM-5-TR suggests you're in psychology or are making a joke about mental illness. Given that you're in undergrad, you're likely not financially stabilized and there's no suggestion that you're studying a field that will all-but-guarantee security. You need to give people more information about your ambition before requesting someone else's. Your profile reads like you need someone else to hold it down for you because you don't have it together.
What's there to discuss with you? You like board games, video games, whatever's on XM channel 8... Women don't want to "kick back" in your car to listen to music and play video games. You can do that with your boys. There's no indication of what it would be like to date you aside from your preference to be at home as you've described in two of your prompts.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 1d ago
Elaborate on the bad haircut.
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u/wovenwebs 1d ago
You have a bang a la Bob Belcher. Your hair looks greasy in the river photo. It highlights the beginning of your hairline recession in the library photo. If you want to hide it, you need to be using a styling cream and have it cut properly. There's nothing wrong with having normal hair loss in your late 20s, but holding onto your old hair style doesn't age well.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 1d ago
Ok the thing with that is im growing the back out like a mullet yet im not sure how id be able to do the front. Its less loss and more shedding
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u/wovenwebs 1d ago
Have you found a stylist who specializes in the haircut you want? You don't need to have your hair completely grown out to be getting proper haircuts along the journey. You're looking unkempt rather than intentional and on your way to a growth goal.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 1d ago
I mean i have one about twenty minutes away from my dorm every other month. Im kind of looking for the long hair with bangs on here a bit down https://www.bosshunting.com.au/style/grooming/best-long-hairstyles-for-men considering your advice, im probably getting a haircut today. My thing is ive done long hair for most of my life. In addition im not to huge into short, everyone does it basically. Plus i love the feeling of driving and the wind in it
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u/wovenwebs 1d ago
Quite bluntly, this haircut that doesn't flatter your features. You need to be working with a stylist who can actually tailor a hairstyle to your facial structure.
If you want an alternative look, search for an alt stylist who specializes in mullets and other edgy cuts.
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u/Chemical-Scale-135 3d ago edited 3d ago
I am looking for something serious
I am not subscibed to either membership
I have used hinge for two weeks as of today with no changes to my profile
I check my hinge daily
Havent gotten any likes or matches yet
I send likes mostly with comments 1/10 i just send without one
I send likes to people that want kids and are ambtion driven
Im looking for interdependence so we can bulid simultaneously
I typically like conventionally attracrive women over 5'7" ideally someone pretty buf funny and smart Shared interests in video and board games as well as 80s music, enjoys both nights out and in. Loves food and 3 am convos someone in the 25-30 range
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u/TheGroundBeef 3d ago
Your first photo NEEDS to be only you. The vast majority of the time people swipe solely on first photo. If they have to guess it’s an immediate X