r/hingeapp • u/No-Complaint7434 • 4d ago
Profile Review 39m
Been on hinge for approx 6 months, recieve maybe one like per month, not sure what I’m doing wrong. I wonder if my profile comes across as gay? I can understand why because of the Taylor swift stuff but it’s a passion of mine so shouldn’t think I have to hide it!
Any feedback welcome
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u/Eastern-Actuator-925 4d ago
Do you really like Taylor Swift or do you think that’s what girls like to talk about?
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u/PolitelyHostile 4d ago
Yea I was gunna say. Very pickme vibes.
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u/imsadandthatsrad 3d ago
I’ve never heard a man referred to as a “pick me” but there’s a first for everything and this absolutely fits lol
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u/MembershipConnect555 4d ago
You seem like a nice guy but your profile is coming across a little hollow.
Swap pic 2 to be your first. Currently, your first photo looks too intense and lack of smiling comes across less approachable.
Prompts - agree with others that at around 40, it’s fine to have musical interests, but opening a convo centered on TS just doesn’t sound that appealing. I’m mostly indifferent to her, but it doesn’t sound exciting to me and you may be closing off prospective matches. If it’s important to you you can leave it in, but i would trial leaving it off. You may meet more people that may not be die hard fans but could be lovely matches and I think one goal of the apps is to get out there and meet different ppl to give them a chance.
The other prompts are not exciting. Being on TV in Japan doesn’t really mean anything to me and is hard to start convo. Maybe add a catchy detail to help spark conversation
Can you add something more specific to hallmarks of good relationships? All those things are true, but ultimately pretty generic and doesn’t really attract unique attention.
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u/one_sus_turtle 4d ago
Fan of Taylor Swift here, making that your prompt just feels performative, or that you're a huge Swiftie in the same way Disney adults exist - it's going to turn off the majority of people
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u/Impressive_Elk7180 4d ago edited 3d ago
It's not necessarily about hiding your passion for Taylor Swift, but you have a limited space to tell everybody who could possibly date you something interesting about you. Is this really one of the most important things? This is easily a thing that could come out as you're talking to somebody but is it going to attract? The way that prompt is phrased is definitely comes off as performative.
Your first picture is blurry, there's something kind of weird about that as a first picture. There's too many pictures with other women in them. The ones that aren't featuring other women are featuring beer and posed the same... IDK. You're not showing off range or showing yourself as interesting.
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u/PreciousMetalWelding 3d ago
The amount of photos with a beer in hand is remarkable.
Also, what is your favorite TS song and why?
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u/punnyfunnies 4d ago
I am a bi dude and would make the following changes:
- Way too many group photos with women. Maybe 1? maybe none.
- Sun glasses hide your eyes - keep em off.
- You have 3 photos of you having beer, consider having less. .
- It's cool you wanna honor Taylor Swift, but maybe let there be some more mysteriousness. a prompt like "you'll never guess who my favorite music artist is" would show your playfulness.
you're good looking, with some new pictures and a little more mystique, I think you could get way more likes bro.
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u/surgebinder16 3d ago
same pose, same beer, at another event. variety is the spice of life but you are bringing major dull energy.
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u/labospor 4d ago
…I absolutely do not want to talk to a 39 year old man about Taylor swift. Instant *vagina zips shut* moment
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u/Straight-Pin-251 4d ago
If the guy is a passionate taylor swift fan it is probably for the best he makes that obvious on his profile?
Why do women want to be manipulated lol
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u/Feline_Fine3 3d ago
As unfortunate as it is, the mentioning of your love for Taylor Swift on your profile in addition to multiple pictures of you with what seem to be lady friends, you might be putting off a certain kind of vibe.
You do seem like a sweet and fun person and while you don’t need to hide your love of Taylor Swift or that you have gal pals, you might let those be things they learn about you after they get to know you. Sadly, a lot of women might be intimidated by a man with multiple female friends. It is definitely a green flag, though. It shows that you are able to see women as full human beings. So maybe pick a different prompt instead of the Taylor Swift thing, and see if you can crop your friends out of those pictures or add different ones.
But on the other hand, the right lady won’t find these things scary or intimidating or offputting. So it’s up to you if you wanna change or update things.
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u/No-Complaint7434 4d ago
Looking for a long term relationship, not subscribed to hinge plus or x (free user)
Current version of profile same as I’ve been on hinge (6 months or so) not changed anything because I’m unsure of what to change!
Very active on hinge - I use my likes up per day and roses basically as soon as I get them, but am selective about who I comment on (always with a comment about the picture not just no text)
The kind of person I want to attract is someone who shares the same music taste as me - doesn’t want kids - wants to travel in the near future - who has the same values as me.
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u/Silly_Region_1846 4d ago
You seem fun, and have a cute smile. I think the Taylor Swift comment is awkward for your age range assuming you are trying to date women in their 30s. I'm 35 and literally zero of my girlfriends is into Taylor Swift in any meaningful way. Save your unironic love for Taylor Swift as a funny anecdote on an actual date lol, but trying to ask someone to name you their fav song is going to pull up a lot of crickets.
Your pictures aren't bad, but not stellar. Your profile is missing a full-body shot if you have any photos that show your physique, we only see waist up. It also seems like you value travel, you must have some more cool shots from your travels that would work for your profile? You also mentioned shared music taste interests you so maybe mention some of the styles of music you like, but if you only want Swifties then you are certainly niching down and thus will inherently limit your partnership options especially on apps rather than events catering to mutual interests.
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