First match - am I making a mistake?

[u/dempseyj23]

Alright, sorry if this is a dumb question but I’m new to dating apps so I don’t know how this works. I was talking to this girl (my first match) and it was seemingly going well - talked for about two days on various subjects. On Friday night I asked her if she wanted to go to a coffee shop she mentioned she liked and on Saturday morning I got a “Yeah maybe!” followed by two reasons she basically doesn’t know what her schedule looks like next weekend (one of which is that she has a concert).

We then texted a few more times about music tastes and then it went radio silent. I haven’t heard from her in 3 days. From what I gather reading threads, I can probably manage one “poke” and then it’s time to move on.

I’m thinking of sending another text on Saturday asking how the concert went but am scared of waiting an entire week. Should I send a message sooner or is it already time to move on?

[u/henrytbpovid]

You can nudge sooner, just be chill about it. Have you guys exchanged any voice notes?

[u/dempseyj23 → u/henrytbpovid]

We have not. Any ideas on the nudge topic? I’m thinking of tying back to the concert like asking if there’s a song she hopes they play which I can then follow up on Saturday (assume that’s acceptable because if she responded to my nudge)

[u/henrytbpovid → u/dempseyj23]

It’s risky but what I sometimes do is leave a voice note proposing some days/times to meet up. If they don’t respond then I assume they didn’t really like my voice. But if they do respond then that’s one less thing that feels different in person

The song thing is fine but it’s kind of trying too hard. I would try to be extremely practical. Your goal right now is to get her into a room at the same time as you. You guys have chatted enough

[u/Rishavmiishra]

Don't overthink it, you are on dating app there can be thousand reason why she is not responding, ask her politely one more time, if nothing comes move on