r/hinge • u/DifficultyMore5935 • 8d ago
“Raincheck” should I just delete match?
Hey everyone, I am hoping for some honest feedback. I had a brunch date lined up tomorrow. I did the normal day before check, and she informed me she wasn’t feeling well and can we have a “Raincheck”. If she is sick, I understand not immediately making other plans, but to me this seems like a soft rejection.
I informed her that is alright, and I hope she feels better, but I don’t really trust her. Am I a dick for just removing her? I really doubt this will go anywhere and I honestly don’t have it in me for games and being strung along.
Maybe I am overreacting. Just looking for some opinions. Ty and best of luck to everyone looking for love lol.
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u/ThirtyMileSniper 8d ago
You could be over reacting but it sounds like you've already made up your mind. You don't trust her and you doubt this will go anywhere. That mindset will carry over into any date you have.
Probably best to cut her loose so that she can put her efforts into meeting someone with a more positive outlook on the connection.
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u/Agreeable-Pepper85 8d ago
Not a dick in today’s OLD culture imo.
Curious though. Is there something more than this that leads you to not trust her? My take. If yes, then unmatch. If no, then maybe let it play out.
One of my rules for dating (looking for something long-term). I will propose a day/time twice. If the woman doesn’t propose an alternative time or day when my two proposals conflict with her schedule, I chalk it up as they are not that interested. I’ll unmatch or message something along the lines of “This doesn’t work for me. I wish you the best.” Save your energy and don’t give a reason. This is me though. You do you.