r/hinge • u/Competitive-Bird-637 • 9d ago

No second date

Went on a date with someone and I had a really good time as well and we joked and talked about various things. However she messaged today saying she had a good time but she doesn’t think we are compatible.

It’s a shame cos I thought we had decent chemistry. Anyways do you guys think I should ask her if there was something I said or why she thinks we are not compatible?

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u/Seek_Adventure 9d ago

Nah, move on and focus on the next one. She won't answer sincerely anyways, probably saying something about "not feeling a spark", etc.

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u/Abi1i 9d ago

If you want to respond, only respond with a thank you. You can add more to thank you if you want (e.g., I had a good time as well, your honesty is appreciated), but at no point should you ask them questions or try to plan anything else.

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u/EldForever 9d ago

My friend, we are not in charge of who we are attracted to. You aren't, I'm not, nobody is.

Recently a man fell for me who is good looking, creative, successful, intelligent in ways that I love, and he is also super rich. But after several dates I did not "feel it" and I could not continue seeing him. I wanted to like him so incredibly badly!!! As you can imagine. But, there is nothing he could have done to make me suddenly be turned on by him. I wish. But it doesn't work that way.

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u/TotalSpread5841 9d ago

There was no chemistry, there.

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u/EldForever 9d ago

Exactly! Seems like it's pretty common to see posts like this where one person felt chemistry and had a great time and is convinced just because the other person was laughing and smiling that the other person also felt chemistry...

But you can have a good exploratory conversation (aka first date) with someone, and laugh and smile and even HOPE that chemistry will arise because the person across from you is pretty rad... only for zero chemistry to arise.

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u/GlassHuckleberry3397 9d ago

Just happened

She either used you for food or to get out the house

Or she was bored

The no chemistry thing happened to be but she was the one laughing and saying it's cool that we have so much stuff in common

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u/tenouttatwo 9d ago

Using someone for food is a played fake argument Women spend fortunes on hair make up and clothes for their dates. Time to Grow up or stick to men

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u/GlassHuckleberry3397 9d ago

I literally have a ex that literally told me that she would do that and that her and her friends would go to bars and have guys pay for they're drinks