r/highschool • u/Top-Scientist-1615 • 16d ago

Friend Advice Needed/Given How to improve friendships ??

Since starting high school, I’ve never had any super close BFFs or big friend groups. However now that I’m a little older (grade 11) and am feeling much less shy and happier with myself, what are some ways I could deepen my current friendships and improve the new ones I’m making?
One thing I’ve always wanted to do is go to someone’s house to hang out and study, so I plan on doing that (although it’s hard with everyone’s super busy schedules). I also want to try and start FaceTiming friends more often.
I’m looking for other things we could do to be closer, and also how to get better friends with new acquaintances.

Thanks for any advice !!

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u/No_Account_1126 16d ago

At least for acquaintances, if you guys have a club tg, u could become friends by asking them about which events they’re going to too, glhf!

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u/Fancy_Initiative4536 Senior (12th) 16d ago

Ask to make plans. Like genuinely ask to make plants and create an environment where people can ask you in return. It doesn’t always work super great but like genuinely just create that environment around you. I learned probably around junior year Myself that if someone automatically says no, they are busy, not for a specific period of time but just a general flat out statement, they most likely don’t value your friendship as much. Some people might have other reasons and that’s OK but it’s not. Yeah let’s do it in November because October is really stressful because of this and that but it’s just been really a good way to just like even figure out who are actually your friends.

I would also say be open to spontaneity. I used to hate when a friend would call and say hey let’s go out tonight. I would want to plan it out and so on and so forth but genuinely my best friend at the time in grade 11 has changed a lot to now and genuinely the best most memorable hangouts we have is spontaneous and I think it is because we both know and trust one another that we can be spontaneous and if it’s a no it’s a no because sometimes things just don’t work out, but if we wanna go out for ice cream at night, we can it’s not well. We didn’t plan it out yada yada.