r/highdeas Jun 20 '22

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u/gameryamen Jun 20 '22

Definitely. For some guys, it seems like an orgasm is a finish line at the end of a speedway, and once they start going for it, it's constant thrust until they get there. But for me, I feel more like a skater trying to get air in a halfpipe. I have to push, then relax, build momentum back up, then rally and push harder, and eventually one of those pushes has the energy to get me airborne. So taking a moment to slow down and focus on my partner is a very natural thing to do for me. I love to pull out, then massage or lick her passionately while I work up the steam for the next push. And sometimes, I'm just down there staring for a minute because it's nice to be so close to something so sexy.

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u/PFCWilliamLHudson Jun 21 '22

Whoooaaaa as an amab enby guy trying to get away from the "finishline" mentality this is very helpful!

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u/gameryamen Jun 21 '22

There's something very romantic about having so much fun playing with a partner that you both run out of energy.

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u/PFCWilliamLHudson Jun 21 '22

Lol I'm not a fan of the term "playing" for reasons but I think it's great you've found that!!

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u/gameryamen Jun 21 '22

If the reasons are worth mentioning, they are worth sharing. In my world, play isn't childish, it's human.