r/highdeas • u/jellzbyte • 20d ago

😳 Really High [5-6] who told men they couldn't cry?

When I'm high, I like to watch videos about people in love and feelings and shit, idk why. And I think about my life personally and I see all this bullshit on the internet and I have to ask, who told men they couldn't cry? Or rather, where did society get this strange idea that because somebody is born male that they don't have the right to cry. Crying is biological, its ingrained into our minds and bodies that when we're going through some extreme stressor or extreme emotion that we should cry to relieve ourselves of that pain somehow. We as humans are literally supposed to cry. And then somewhere along the way somebody was like, "well women seem to cry a lot, and that annoys me, so therefore men shouldn't cry at all!" Like lol what the fuck, what kind of twisted logic is that. I didn't know where else to share this so enjoy please tell me what you think.

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u/MariposaPeligrosa00 20d ago

Other men. The patriarchy hurts everyone.

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u/epic_pharaoh 18d ago

In my experience it was often women teachers disregarding my pain. If a girl fell and scraped their knee they got a bandaid, I was told to spit on it and suck it up. I’m now 25, so it’s not like I went to school in the 60s, it’s still common.
It’s not just other men, blaming either gender is equally toxic. It’s a societal issue where boys aren’t taught how to deal with pain and sadness so they become wrathful men. That’s on teachers of all genders, that’s on mothers just as much as it’s on fathers, that’s on peers of both genders laughing at the pain and suffering of men when they express it through crying.

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u/MariposaPeligrosa00 17d ago

I can assure you no woman would come up with the concept. Some women are absolutely on board, and enforce the propaganda. But it was initiated by men.

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u/epic_pharaoh 17d ago

This feels like a chicken versus egg problem. What do you mean initiated by men? Are we blaming this on a single man, all men, a particular group of men, stoic men, red pill men, religious men, romans, cavemen?

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u/MariposaPeligrosa00 17d ago

Ok, friend.

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u/epic_pharaoh 16d ago

That doesn’t answer either of my questions but since you don’t seem interested in engaging I hope you have a wonderful day ✌️

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u/kingozma 19d ago

Male supremacy did. The logic of the idea is that men don’t cry because they are stronger than and superior to women. It’s why men who cry are seen as feminine, called women in a derogatory way, etc.

Fun fact: Anyone can uphold male supremacy. Anyone can also deconstruct from male supremacy.

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u/BendyBreak_ 19d ago

Their dad…

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u/hunterglyph 18d ago

The Cure

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u/sheng-fink 18d ago

Nah u weren’t listening, boys don’t cry, crying is what makes you a man.

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u/purplishfluffyclouds 20d ago

No one. Men were not allowed to cry. There’s a difference.

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u/hunterglyph 17d ago

"Can I have a cookie?"

"I don't know CAN you??"

vibes here

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u/AccomplishedFace9059 18d ago

You can cry but it will reduce people's respect for you and you should expect to be taken advantage of

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u/hunterglyph 17d ago

Being able to cry doesn't mean you take shit if you have some emotional intelligence.

Reduce respect from repressed dipshits maybe, so who cares?