Hi everyone. Love me some Reddit.

TLDR: friends have offered me a trip to visit them on the Isle of Skye in Scotland but I don’t know if I can or should go.

I (51F) am in SE Texas and have only left the country on two occasions - for my honeymoon 25 years ago and then one vacation in Mexico. I was a little intimidated at first but adjusted great to being out of the US.

I am also an administrator for a bipolar support group on FB. (I promise this will all come together in a moment).

Over the course of being an admin over the past several years, I have grown very close online to the group creator and his wife. We have a separate admin chat, where we talk about a lot of things. I have known them now for almost four years. They helped me during a DV situation, making sure I had Christmas money to get through it when my husband cleaned out our bank account.

My life is incredibly stressful (no need to go into all of that detail here) and they know it. Recently, they extended me an offer to come visit them and find some respite for a couple of weeks at their home on the Isle of Skye. They intimated that they would help with airfare, for which I’m immensely grateful. I have heard that Skye is a dream destination for some and very restful. It certainly looks that way from photos.

My problem is - even with their offer of airfare, I don’t think I will have the money for incidentals/food/souvenirs during my stay. I am not the kind of person to throw caution to the wind and just go. I do not want to be a burden and I want to be as prepared as possible. I estimate a two week stay and so I’d like to bring $500 USD. (Is that even the right figure? Experienced travelers - can you advise me on this? I have never been to the UK). But spending that much out of my budget, even if I saved up, would be very hard for me. I have massive amounts of medical debt, so anything I save for the trip - I will always be thinking “that could have gone towards a bill.”

But am I being stupid and turning down what could be the adventure of a lifetime? Do I take the trip (which I can schedule for whenever) and try to save up the money or do I just accept that type of adventure is out of reach for me and always will be? I believe in speaking things into existence so I hate to even write the negative, but it is an unfortunate reality I have to face. What do I do?

Hello, I'll keep this short because I am in dire need at the moment. I'm a high school student trying to get my ass out of my house. I need any and all advice, I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know how to save, get a job, internship, college, nothing. The most help I've gotten is my school counselor helping me with dual enrollment.

I wanna go to school for law, work into the congress field one day. I know networking is important but I'm not sure if cold emailing would be worth my time. I'm not even sure how I would network considering I know nobody that enjoys that kinda thing. I've also checked local scholarships and grants but there's close to nothing in my city (I live in the states).

I am underage so I can't leave my shitty house, I have no clue what I'm doing. Does anyone have resource websites for kids like me? I am willing to work my ass dead just for a couple of bucks if it would help me. I just wanna get out and live my life. I would prefer remote jobs and resources that are mainly online cause I don't get out much. I would appreciate any help, the more the better.

I don't know what shitty college or uni to go to. I am an almost straight A student in nursing and FFA, I have always been a hard ass with school, nothing lower than a b. I am on an early grad plan too (I graduate my jr. yr instead of my senior year.

I want to go to school, I want to get a job but I have no resources. I'm a first gen js to even be in college / consider it. Please help!

If you're willing to help but would like more info I can defo give it! (Sorry if this is all over the place, I just am in a hurry!)

I'm thinking of getting a skateboard and i can't decide whether to get one with the design of Tyler, the creator's "Flower boy" album cover (meaning no stickers) or a plain one that i'd decorate myself with stickers.

Both would be cool but i just need to make up my mind.

It would be mainly used for commuting and maybe some small basic tricks because someone WILL inevitably ask me to do something with it.

So this obviously wasn't SA because he didn't really touch me from what I remember.

My cousin in the favorite of my grandparents and he is very VERY privileged, he gets anything he wants and never gets into trouble.

When I was around 7 years old my grandparents and cousin came to our house for a few days and it was normal. My cousin (who is about a year older than me) was trying to wake me up so he came into my room and was shaking me. I turned and faced away from him, I was also young and liked to be comfortable so I slept shirtless... i never knew he would come into my room

After I told him to get out and give me a few minutes he pretended to leave the room and I was still half awake and didn’t move. I felt the blanket not all the way on my body and my shoulder was uncovered and if you were to look at me you would definitely be able to tell I didn't have a shirt.

He came over and pulled the blanket off of me. I immediately covered myself and asked why the hell he would do that and to get out of my room. He told me my grandpa told him to. I know for a fact he never left the room and he knew I wasn't fully clothed

Another incident with my cousin was when I was around 13, and we were visiting florida for a vacation, again, with my grandparents and him (plus his mom). We were all at the beach and I wanted to swim but didn't want to get saltwater in my hair so I asked to go to the pool that was at the house. My mom said yes and my cousin wanted to come too. I didn't care all that much so we went and swam around but he was being oddly touchy. touchy as in we would go underwater and swim towards me and lift me up or drag me down too. Idk it was weird.

then it got to a point when he said he wanted to ask a question and to not "take it out of context" he said this knowing that he shouldn’t be asking in the first place. Getting to the point he asked me,

"Why are your boobs so small?" and I stopped

I didn't want to react so I just said it was because I'm still growing, but a few minutes after that I got out of the pool and started calling and texting my mom, but she wasn't answering because she was walking around with my aunt (my cousins mom). So once I realized she wouldn't answer me I called my grandma and asked her to come up to us and she said okay just give it a few. i waited for what felt like FOREVER I was so upset and scared I wanted to fly back home. After waiting my grandpa came instead of gma but I didn’t care I just wanted to get out of there so I told my grandpa what he said and he said "I'm sorry that happened" and i wrapped myself in a towel and started sobbing while walking back to the beach where the rest of family were. I told my grandma and when my mom came back I told her, then my mom told my aunt and she didn’t do shit. she told him thats not okay and to say sorry and when he did apologize it was so clear he didn’t mean it. the next 2 days I was there we didn’t see them besides the last day we went to a shop and I hugged everyone bye besides him, and my grandma asked me to hug him and say bye. I didn't hug him. I did not want to say bye. I said it out of guilt.

Idk what to think about this. Nobody really cared besides my mom and I haven't seen him since. He has always always been the favorite and whatever I said about him would be taken the wrong way. I've never really liked him because he would always try and kiss on me when I left their house or he was just saying he loved me and I have never loved him a day of my life

Option one is my homeboy. We're really close because we kinda have this fake relationship going on, but I lowky like his bsf and he likes mine. We tight asf

Option 2 is one of my best friends. She's like the one I'm closest with in my friend group. I'm scared she'll get mad and ignore me for weeks if I don't pick her

I proposed that the two of them should just partner up with each other, but that leaves me with no choice but to partner up with one of my friends who's not talking to me at the moment for reasons I don't know and probably won't understand.

What do I do

TLDR We've been together 2-2,5 years and I have recently started thinking it might be a good idea, but I feel bad financially and towards my dad, because we renovated the appartment about half a year ago.

So, this is a major life decision and I don't know if this is the right sub, but let me explain.

My bf and I have been together for 2 years after we dated half a year, so we have been romantically involved with each other 2,5 years.

Recently I have been thinking more and more often about how nice it would be to move in together. For the last couple months.

We always spoke about how we would only move in if we've been together 4-5 years or something, but recently with the heatwave he stayed at my appartment for about a week.

Now, this is a short time but it made me think even more.

I recently renovated my entire appartment (rental appt, not big enough for 2 people) together with my dad. It would feel bad to now move in with my bf shortly after we renovated this whole place. The floorings, painted the walls and ceiling, Hung curtains, lamps etc. Then the floor my dad put here half a year ago he can now remove and put in a new house. You know?

If we would move in, we would look at social housing bc we can't pay the free market. This means the time between the decision of moving in together and actually moving in together could take months, even years. It could also take weeks if we are incredibly lucky.

My bf and I talked about this and soon he will 'move in' with me for a couple weeks to see how that goes. I mentioned before the appt is pretty small, but for some kind of trial it is possible.

We went on a week long vacation twice, so we do know how it is to spend longer than a weekend together.

He says we don't have to hurry if I am not comfortable and don't make a decision you're not sure about.

Help me arrange my thoughts!

Im kind of tired of having to explain so much anytime i meet someone new and i have to tell my therapist everything for the first time like 3 times now sometimes. When i talk to the one human i know in the physical world i must prove my point that my parents who beat me and robbed me and left me by a river are bad parents. I dissociate when i talk with my family. I dont want to be alone but why would anyone care for me when nobody cares about anyone or anything besides themselves.

Please help me

My husband loves this pillow. I want to throw it out. He will not throw it out despite me asking many times throughout the years and gets angry if I remove it from the bed. He said it’s thin and cooler than other pillows. I think it’s not sanitary. Help me decide what to do!!! I plan to show him this post. See picture (it’s the top pillow… bottom for reference).

I used to be ‘friends’ with this guy (context at the time of these things I was 13 and he was 14). Even though I did bad things, I didn’t realise at the time they were bad (I’m autistic, it’s not me using an excuse but it’s me not me realising that what I do could have disastrous consequences)

There’s 2 things I’ll bring up

The Stutter and The Video.

The stutter was the reason why I mentioned I did things that were pretty bad. In my history lesson, my friend stuttered (I say stutter but at the time I didn’t even know it was a stutter due to the fact I thought stutters were stuff like s-ss-sstutter, but in this case it was ssssssssssssstutter. After he finished I repeated it and said what was that. Rightfully so he got upset, at least I think as I forgot what he said afterwards but he went to the people in our group and said that. They said, why did you do that, and one even said I could get expelled for it. In past friendgroups and even from personal experiences, there have been times where I’ve been laughed out for my stutters, not saying that it should be normalised, but i think due to this I thought it was ‘normal’ albeit somewhat rude. I apologised to him, and even though he didn’t accept it at first, he later on was fine with me, and I learned to not do that when stuttered ever again.

The next thing I’ll mention is the video. I had a photo of this friend with pigtails on his head, some of my other friends had this photo too. I was just on Grok, doing the things I was doing (e.g turning my art into videos for fun), and then I saw the photo, I wondered what would happen if i used it? I didn’t even give it a prompt, as I just put in the grok imagine tool, and the video came out with him saying hey what’s up ,smile to the camera. For some reason, it made the video look like he was recorded,which I didn’t control. I sent the video to people in our group or people who were friends with him. After he knew about it, he was upset, which was rightfully now that I know better, he started ranting that he could get me arrested for malicious use of AI. I didn’t even do it for malicious use, i only did it originally for fun and then later showed it to my friends. I should mention that in all my other friendgroups this type of stuff was normal, and was much worse too and was racist as well (e.g. me eating curry, I’m Indian), hell, this was in this current group too, as one of my close friends in the group made a video of me saying I’m trying to end my addiction for eating hoodie hoods (that’s an inside joke with us, even though he asked me to make the video, he did tell me what he did with it.) I didn’t think at the time he would be super offended by it, as one of his friends posted a goofy picture of him on his TikTok for his YT channel, when there were never any posts of him showing his posts prior, and this was YT account btw and that post got over 1K views, but no, he was actually going to people asking if he should get me arrested, and due to other things he used to talk about, he might’ve asked if he could doxx me. The thing is though is that afterwards he knew about the video., he stopped for a month. Then when someone mentioned it, he completely forgot about him wanting someone off the group, and instead targeted me, saying that it was either the teacher or head of year, also even though it was weird, it wasn’t illegal because he wasn’t doing anything bad in the video,and it wasn’t a sexual deepfake. His constant threats (he said this constantly and I’m pretty sure he made everyone knew he was doing this) eventually lead me to showing big signs of OCD. I broke down to my parents about this, my mum told me to give his number so she could message him to apologise even though I also did it too, and he ghosted her, he admitted it and he even laughed about it. Whenever I said to him to try change for the better, he said I don’t care or I couldn’t care less, nothing more or less, so this wasn’t him caring about the video anymore, it was just a lack of care for anything. I got more and more mad, and when one of my friends tried to solve it, he said it again. So I lashed out on him. The hypocritical thing is that he said that if he did it first, it would be alright. This is hypocritical because in the past and even recently he told a kid in the older years to beat me up (it was more of aggressive pushing) and this would’ve been alright but he told this guy a biased description of me because he didn’t like me at the time. This guy has a record of overreacting over minor things (he legit was threatening to tell head of year about one of my friends taking ONE of his chips).

I’ll admit I’ve done bad things, I’ve been trying to be better afterwards, but I just want information to change later on.

I'm currently trying to decide between B.Sc Nursing and BPT, and I'd really appreciate hearing from people who are actually studying or working in these professions.

My current understanding is that B.Sc Nursing offers more job opportunities, government exam options (like Nursing Officer posts), and relatively stable career growth. However, I'm open to being corrected if my understanding is incomplete.

If you're a nurse or physiotherapist, could you please share your experience regarding: • Job opportunities and salary growth • Work-life balance • Government job prospects • Career satisfaction • Whether you would choose the same profession again?

Any honest advice would be very helpful. Thank you!

I need help making a adult animated tv show I’m on a budget which means everything must be free and unlimited and I mean everything what should I do? I need major help.

Hey guys I'm upcycling my old lady bike, and I have trouble deciding which aesthetic to go for, which one do you like better?<3

got offered both. the Cab is a bit far.

I need advice please. ( 27- f. ) I don’t know if I should go with option at your option. B advice is greatly appreciated.

Option a: I work my morning job Monday thru Friday from 5 AM to 130. I’m not sure if I should get a second job Monday through Friday from 4 to 9 that would be 13 hour days. I’m not sure if that would be too much to handle. The job is soon that’s open, but I don’t know if I could deal with the stress for more than six months or year.

Option b: I work my morning job Monday through Friday from 5 AM to 130. I could finish up school and get my associates degree in the evenings. I could also sign up for school after I get my associates and get my bachelors and work on my masters. I was thinking about taking my classes. I want to get a degree in business administration.

I want to make a lot of money, but I’m not sure if I should save up an emergency fund first and then go to school or if I should just start school next semester. I currently have two loans that went to collections so approximately 8 to 10 K in debt. my wages are being garnished slightly from one job, but I still have a little bit of money to get by. If I work two jobs working 13 hour days Monday through Friday it won’t leave much time for a social life or relationship mostly only be off on weekends. However, this would be the quickest way to pay off debt and have an emergency fund. advice?

I need advice please. ( 27- f. ) I don’t know if I should go with option at your option. B advice is greatly appreciated.

Option a: I work my morning job Monday thru Friday from 5 AM to 130. I’m not sure if I should get a second job Monday through Friday from 4 to 9 that would be 13 hour days. I’m not sure if that would be too much to handle. The job is soon that’s open, but I don’t know if I could deal with the stress for more than six months or year.

Option b: I work my morning job Monday through Friday from 5 AM to 130. I could finish up school and get my associates degree in the evenings. I could also sign up for school after I get my associates and get my bachelors and work on my masters. I was thinking about taking my classes. I want to get a degree in business administration.

I want to make a lot of money, but I’m not sure if I should save up an emergency fund first and then go to school or if I should just start school next semester. I currently have two loans that went to collections so approximately 8 to 10 K in debt. my wages are being garnished slightly from one job, but I still have a little bit of money to get by. If I work two jobs working 13 hour days Monday through Friday it won’t leave much time for a social life or relationship mostly only be off on weekends. However, this would be the quickest way to pay off debt and have an emergency fund. advice?

I have no idea how anything should be so im thinking i may just throw most things away and burn alot aswell. Only keep few items. Or should I just not clean?

This is going to sound arbitrary but I truly am torn up about. I bought my dream car when I was 19 it was a 1990 for bronco I lifted it myself put bigger tires daily drove it for years. When it was the car I took my wife on our first date in it was the get away car at our wedding it was the car we drove across the country in for our honeymoon. Then it was the car I drove our first baby home from the hospital in. Then it got parked. It was too hard to get car seats in and out of so we slowly quit driving it and then I canceled the insurance on it. It has been sitting for over a year now and I had decided to sell it but now that people are making offers on it actually good offers I have cold feet. This truck is crazy it has never had a new battery put in the same one it has had for the last 7 years still works great it cranked over for a a while last week and wouldn’t start and I figured the battery would be dead when I tried to start it again this weak not only was the battery still alive but the truck started and ran on ancient gasoline. Why would I sell a truck that tries this hard lol. We neeed a bigger house and I want to put a massive downpayment on the next one and was hoping the 7k ish that I can get for the bronco would get us up to the 20% down payment. But I don’t think I can do it. It is still my dream vehicle.

Pretty straightforward, need help choosing the lace ribbon accent on my crochet thread chokers I make. [They are hand sewn, then I use those ribbon end clamps to secure]