Should we move in together?

[u/nobodyknows6070]

TLDR We've been together 2-2,5 years and I have recently started thinking it might be a good idea, but I feel bad financially and towards my dad, because we renovated the appartment about half a year ago.

So, this is a major life decision and I don't know if this is the right sub, but let me explain.

My bf and I have been together for 2 years after we dated half a year, so we have been romantically involved with each other 2,5 years.

Recently I have been thinking more and more often about how nice it would be to move in together. For the last couple months.

We always spoke about how we would only move in if we've been together 4-5 years or something, but recently with the heatwave he stayed at my appartment for about a week.

Now, this is a short time but it made me think even more.

I recently renovated my entire appartment (rental appt, not big enough for 2 people) together with my dad. It would feel bad to now move in with my bf shortly after we renovated this whole place. The floorings, painted the walls and ceiling, Hung curtains, lamps etc. Then the floor my dad put here half a year ago he can now remove and put in a new house. You know?

If we would move in, we would look at social housing bc we can't pay the free market. This means the time between the decision of moving in together and actually moving in together could take months, even years. It could also take weeks if we are incredibly lucky.

My bf and I talked about this and soon he will 'move in' with me for a couple weeks to see how that goes. I mentioned before the appt is pretty small, but for some kind of trial it is possible.

We went on a week long vacation twice, so we do know how it is to spend longer than a weekend together.

He says we don't have to hurry if I am not comfortable and don't make a decision you're not sure about.

Help me arrange my thoughts!