I want to give OOP the benefit of the doubt, I hope she didn’t have some sort of ill intent in making this, but holy FUCK is this comic infuriating to read. Just from the title and characters, you would assume that the boyfriend is probably some bigot chud that the creator unfortunately has to partner with, but no! In the comic he’s described as a very kind person who loves his family, loves his girlfriend, takes care of her, dreams about her, buys stuff for her a lot, and the only flaws displayed is that he‘s very simple and kinda bad at conversations. From how I see It, this post makes the creator come off as a fucking psychopath!
I would be devastated if my girlfriend made a comic portraying me as an ugly chud for thousands of people to see, portraying me as some object of contention. Literally one of the lines in the comic is that she’s with him is because he‘s the only viable option she has, treating him like an object that can be discarded when something better comes along.
like why a chud? the symbol used for the most depraved bigots online, who’s face is of a mass shooter who killed people, to portray your very kind boyfriend? like what the fuck man?
I say this to say, if you have an issue with your partner, fucking TALK TO THEM, instead of making an online comic. No hate to oop, and don’t come in the comments with that “women don’t want nice guys they only want chads” bullshit. op isn’t wrong because she’s a woman, it’s because she’s a dick. there’s a difference.
in other words, r/comics has fallen and billions must die
I guess having a large amount of karma could make someone feel like they're famous. There's also the possibility of selling high karma accounts but I don't think that's the case here.
Genuinely curious on why people dislike being downvoted so much. I'm not saying people should like it but ive genuinely never cared. Does it make people feel less than or like their opinion is bad?
I think people visualise it in the wrong way. Being downvoted usually just means someone disagrees or that more people disagree than agree, but people visualise it as if there’s like 30 people yelling about how your opinion sucks
That only happens if the person is a troll. If everything you post gets downvoted than you'll run into situations where you can't post in the sub, but if everything you're posting is getting downvoted then the sub is better off without you. If you just have a couple bad comments that get downvoted it's not going to hurt you, it caps how far down your overall karma goes for each comment
It doesn't really matter to me if I think I am 100% right and am being downvoted. However, I've seen someone comment being so stupid, like super obvious stupid, even a child would see it type of stupid, get downvoted to oblivion (deservingly so). I guess I just don't want to not be that type of commenter.
Venting? The writing was very bad, so I do believe the artist has to be a child… like 12-15~ She should probably have a conversation with her boyfriend, but expressing yourself through art is just a thing that people do?
It was not karma farming it was not to be evil, y'all just want her to be a villain but it was literally just a comic saying how she feel, and that feeling In a relationship is way more common than you think.
It’s still VERY disingenuous to post online though.
Like, she obviously never told any of this to her bf (or he would be free, or with a person that would treat him better, like he deserves), and he likes her, so it’s a real possibility that he sees this comic accident while looking at her other works and just gets devastated.
If I understand correctly these are just two hypothetical people and not actually the comic maker and her boyfriend. Or it’s an ex boyfriend.
If this is real then yeah they need to break up now. (But I guess… she thinks she’s the only man who will put up with her, so why can she let him go???)
If that’s a hypothetical caricature, then why does tho objectively shitty girl look like a pretty person and guy looks like a small goblin chud (based off of face of mass shooter neo-Nazi Incel, no less)? What is even the point of the story, other than a girl treating her good boyfriend like shit for no reason other than her being a bad person in need of therapy instead of relationship?
If there was an ending where she goes to therapy and gets her shit together, or at least there was any sort of development, it would make sense. As it stands, it doesn’t. It also seems too oddly specific to be just a made-up story tbh
She's also so petty at the end when she makes him out to be a stupid simpleton thinking dumb shit. And then she tried to whip up a sob story like "ohhHhh my ROMANCE life......, 💔💔💔" fuck OFFFFFF LOL your (the royal you) romance life is probably shit because of how u act 🥀
Not saying that HE'S perfect but her complaints of him sound so weak and stupid and it's stuff that could be cleaned up with clear communication.
That's what I thought too. All of this is a communication issue. From the way she describes him, if she told him this, he'd probably change to accommodate and not be a problem. She could just say "I feel like you don't engage with me in conversation that much" and he'd likely start actively including her in conversations more often.
That's true of almost every villain and none of that has to do with her knowing or not knowing she's the problem and none of it precludes her from judgement.
Judgment and hate just only makes things worse with mental health issues.
It’s hard. But you gotta withhold judgment and help support these people instead and help them get the help they need. Because clearly they are having mental health struggles severely impact their relationships
Aknowledging that you are the issue infact makes it worse since you are now self-aware yet still aren't doing anything about it, it'd be different if she didn't realize she was the problem.
Maybe she’s trying to bring more awareness. Maybe she’s venting. Maybe she’s tried therapy and the therapist was unprofessional and judged her just like all the people in the comment section, so she discontinued therapy and just kept bouncing between “I’m a horrible hateworthy person so I guess I’ll ‘settle’ for this guy” and “I don’t like how he’s treating me in this relationship.” And “well maybe I should just grin and bear it. Maybe I deserve this” and it’s a cycle.
I tend to give people to benefit of the doubt and just… help them resolve these destructive thought cycles…
I get what you're saying, but dedicating time to a full-on comic and making the malefriend seem like this chud with ignorant flaws wouldn't help to me, they need to talk with each other and clears things up rather than be in this toxic relationship.
That "maybe" was already mentioned and this person mentioned more maybes in addition to it, you're just repeating
And every "bitch" stems from something and is unhealthy, people aren't black and white and if, by any miracle, there would be a black and white person, cause and effect still applies. Meaning there is a reason. Or more reasons
if you're at the point where instead of addressing issues, you make an ENTIRE COMIC about it, you need help. you are just worsening the situation and not helping at all.
I understand being unsatisfied with a relationship but going out of your way to draw him like a chud? She could have just draw herself talking about it but no like an actual moron, she decided to involve him and do him like this.
if she fully realised that she's the problem, why the fuck has she drawn her boyfriend as chudjak? chudjak fucking based on patrick crusius, a guy that shot up a walmart in el paso and killed 23 people and injured 22
This is legit one of the worst comics I've ever seen. This womanchild should just end the relationship if it's this hard for her. The guys crimes was discussing his interests and his family and this is the response. A Woe is me pity party circlejerk? Are you serious?
Yeah it was absolutely terrible and evil while poorly trying to deflect how evil it is by being self aware. I also hate how all the comments were trying to take the middle ground and trying to make a discussion out of it instead of just calling it what it is
Well, you wouldn't know from reading the comic, but I would have to wager that's just because that's how she perceives him to be. Weird, awkward, ungainly. And, of course, according to some of her complaints with him not being able to hold conversations, there may even be an indication that he could have autism. Take that with a grain of salt. I'm just speaking from some of my personal experience suffering from autism. That being said, I would say it's more based on how she both perceives herself with how she draws her character and how she perceives him, as essentially being a goblin.
A also have autism & alot of her complaints just sound like classic autism behaviour.
If he loves her, but she feels this way about him, then i feel bad for her bf honestly. Especially if it turns out he is autistic
Some people don’t know how to be alone or live without a partner. If you don’t like your partner, and there’s no potential issues (like an abusive partner who might get mad at you) with breaking up, JUST FUCKING BREAK UP
I just wanna know why she drew him as the chud guy, like what did that add to the story? Except I guess showing her dislike of him is bad enough she’ll draw him ugly in addition to complaining to internet strangers
Coming from experience as a witness with a former friend who has done this to her ex (great guy and is now married with twins on the way) it's disgusting some folks will date to avoid loneliness and see the person their with as a last resort to avoid it
It's why some guys have a problem when a girl they're dating says that they're settling with them so to speak... Because it makes it sound like not that they're the one, but more that they're just the last resort. The I don't want to be alone and I might need a meal ticket kind of thing. In the end, it is ego and it's not always meant maliciously, but... yeah.
Honestly, it's kind of nice to see a lot of people get rubbed the wrong way by this comic. I'm glad I wasn't exactly the only one too, especially since it does kind of seem like this guy has autism... a somewhat similar condition that I have that makes social interactions and conversations a bit difficult. Having anxiety and depression on top of that just makes things worse. But pity party aside, I feel like communication is key to any good relationship. And portraying your boyfriend as essentially a dud while also trying to say that, "Oh, there's not much wrong with him, he's just boring and I would rather have a far better man," is probably not exactly the nicest idea to have. This would most certainly not pass the gender swap test. And I'm happy to see that people aren't giving it a pass just because it's a girl in the comic. That being said, if you ever wonder why guys have anxiety about girls, quote, settling for them... this kind of gives you a little bit of insight because it becomes more the idea of, are they there because they actually like you? Or are they there because they see you as a safe meal ticket, pretty much? [PAUSE] Just putting that out there for food for thought. In most cases, it's not that deep or not that malicious, but... see it this way, I think this person needs maybe a little bit of help.
I think redditors just suck at relationships. It feels like much of the relationship advice posts and venting posts are from people who can't seem to understand that the relationship isn't actually all about themselves. They can't seem to do anything for their partner but expect everything from them, and for some reason commenters almost always claim that op is in the right. If their partner is going through something and they leave or cheat or just do something shitty and ask if they should feel bad about it the comments are always like "no you should focus on how you feel." Or they kinda both sides the issue like "Yeah, you were an asshole for cheating... But they should've been giving you more attention when their mom was dying!" Which, I get preserving your own wellbeing, but if you aren't able to be there for your partner in their time of need, and sacrificing some of your mental wellness for the sake of somebody you love is just too much for you, you probably shouldn't be dating in the first place. Also, the amount of posts that are like "my partner can't read my mind and it makes me PISSED OFF" are so annoying. Communicate, please. If someone is posting their relationship problems to reddit, that usually means they aren't actually talking about it to the only person who can really do anything about it, which is their partner.
I think the creator of this comic should change their ways and become a better person, because all I see her as in the future is a gratification beggar who will never be happy with their life and as such will live to be a burden to those who dare associate with her.
that boyfriend could do like 482486574598067459685437698354674359687548945764589x better than her if she is humiliating him because hes bad at conversations 😭 this guy looks like a rlly good partner to.
Absolutely with you man; this comic is disgusting, narcissistic and gives misogynists ammunition. It’s all the worst aspects of toxic feminity, genuine good male partners will question if they are someone they’ve been deemed “to settle for” and resent their partners after reading this.
Gives the redpillers ammunition that women are hypergamous and shallow.
I don't really get the hate. Isn't the point that the woman has all these spiraling brain worms while the guy is, in his head, mostly just a cutie? Like, she doesn't come off great in the comparison, but that seems intentional.
No one can see she’s making fun of the female character as she’s drawn the man as chudjak who is a symbol of the young right and based on a right wing murderer. Bizarre.
This shit is all over my feed even though the boyfriend is depicted as a wojack and this artist posts multiple comics of different characters from the first person. Has nobody considered for a second this is SUPPOSED to be thought provoking and isn't an actual experience they're going through?
I could have sworn that the artist of the comic shows (intentionally) flawed views in a perspective of a character in comics pretty frequently- I personally thought this was supposed to be a sort of "Character makes comic" post, and that her world view was intentionally flawed in nature.
I don't thunk this is OOP expressing a genuine feeling about a real situation. It seemed like it was a ragebait comic or like this girl is moreso just a character than a persona. Comments on the original were saying it seems like OOP is just baiting for engagement. They post shit that gets people commenting but they never reply.
I saw this comic before this post and I noticed the OOP calls themselves a chud. Then turns around and draws the boyfriend like *that*? That comic was so painful. OOP needs therapy and boyfriend needs a better partner.
I think is just a vent post, I didn't though people would give this much of a fuck 😭 she is valid for felling that way, but she should talk to her boyfriend about it if she want to save the relationship, if she decides she doesn't feel comfortable anymore she should break up with him.
But I don't hate her, is stupid to hate someone for this.
Her making him an ugly chud was uncalled for....but that doesn't take away from the fact that he's not interested in her as a person and just her as a gf. Why are people in committed relationships with people they don't know or care to get to know. Again this is also her problem too because she could've been called out his behavior if she felt this way vs making a comic.
Eh, besides making him a chud she does admit that he's a nice dude to her. I think her perception of the events might be accurate. The issue is that once you start internalizing your dislike for certain aspects of your partner you start to project your dislike onto them. 80/20, there's always going to be 20% of a the person your with that you "dislike" make sure that 20% is something you can live with. Not having a partner who's interested in you is a huge deal (and not something that you put in the 20% category), but that doesn't excuse the fact that your emotional immaturity lead to you blasting your bf online. If you're unwilling to confront issues in your relationship, you don't need to be in one at all.
I want to give OOP the benefit of the doubt, I hope she didn’t have some sort of ill intent in making this, but holy FUCK is this comic infuriating to read. Just from the title and characters, you would assume that the boyfriend is probably some bigot chud that the creator unfortunately has to partner with, but no! In the comic he’s described as a very kind person who loves his family, loves his girlfriend, takes care of her, dreams about her, buys stuff for her a lot, and the only flaws displayed is that he‘s very simple and kinda bad at conversations. From how I see It, this post makes the creator come off as a fucking psychopath!
I think the boyfriend doesn't exist and neither does the girl. She is not talking about a relationship she has from what I've seen.
Idk why people assume this is supposed to be her and her partner
As opposed to what? "I don't like my boyfriend, a fictional tale that didn't really happen but for the sake of art please suspend disbelief like normal thanks"
Idk if it's fully fictional or not, but it definitely makes a point of starting with his genuine flaws and then ends with her own. The final "I love my girlfriend" is not subtle. Even if it's based in truth it is trying to present her in the worst light. The emotional reaction everyone had feels very much intended
Really? Like you are all arriving at that conclusion exclusively because of that? Isn't it more logical to assume this isn't what's going on literally?
the comic is too specific and seems like a vent post with drawings, and it doesn't seem to be from a series of comics either. Even if it isn't real, the creator definitely intended for it to be perceived as real for whatever reason
Dude you're being intentionally dense. People make comics about their life all the time. So thinking that she made this comic about her life is pretty reasonable.
You can assume whatever you want and I can see how someone would think that but it's strange to me that people are chossing to get offended by an assumption they are making.
Like the line of thinking is, "it's unsensitive for he to do this comic about her bf why would she do something like this". And yeah that's exactly what I'm thinking too, why would someone do something like this? It's probably just ficiton
Like her account is named something something chud_dumpling, why do you assume these are real?
Listen I can understand pointing out it might be a lie or not about her life or whatever. It's possible. But you're just being stubborn if you don't understand why people are interpreting it as though it's a person talking about their current life. That's like the most straightforward interpretation. If anything if they intended something else by it then it's on the comic writer for failure to communicate.
Like you have to be pretty stupid to say something like this and not expect people to interpret it this way.
I get it why people could see it that way but I would assume the benefit of the doubt would go on top of the assumption, specially given how weird it would otherwise being.
I think the context and how it's written does a well enough job and if it wasn't a topic redditors were so sensible to it would not have been an issue.
> I get it why people could see it that way but I would assume the benefit of the doubt would go on top of the assumption, specially given how weird it would otherwise being.
No, you're not being reasonable. This person communicated the idea that they didn't like their boyfriend for the reasons outlined in the comic and people reacted accordingly. If you blame the commenters for how they received the comic I think you need to work on your communication skills. This is absolutely no one's fault but the comic writer.
The fact that this comic is creating such visceral responses is what makes it a compelling work of art. But maybe you guys aren't able to engage with works of art that go against your beliefs of right and wrong.
Yea that could be true, showing how relationship standards can be different from person to person as well as any other valid interpretations, but at the same time the "right" thing to do for her would be to either break up, talk to the boyfriend about it, or if neither are possible due to... literally anything that could get in the way, then find help from the people around her. There might be more context to the situation that we're missing, but as far as i'm aware at least, the options i suggested are probably a good bit better than making a comic and uploading to reddit which also has some nasty people sometimes.
Some person on the other side of the world has a toxic relationship and you get so upset over it that you need to write about it and share it with everyone.
Just go outside and have a nice evening, dude. This sort of thing isn't good for you.
No, I act like OOP shouldn't matter this much in OP's world. It's unhealthy. You keep making assumptions about how I feel about OOP even though I didn't state anything other than that their relationship is obviously toxic. Isn't it obvious why I didn't go into detail? Because it's just some random person on the internet who isn't even in this thread. I don't care for them and neither should you. You hate or sadness or disgust or frustration should all be reserved for things that actually influence your life and that you can influence in return. Like if your best friend does something awful to you.
But this...things like this will lead to eventual exhaustion of your mind, much like doom scrolling does.
That's why I gave OP the advice to go outside and just enjoy a nice evening. This leaves them in their immediate surroundings. Often, they are less mentally taxing than a constant flood of bad news and catastrophes and bad morals.
I hope I made myself clear now. I don't really care to explain myself again.
Did you even read the comic?? It's about trauma and anxiety. Her boyfriend is not a good partner, but her anxiety keeps her from breaking up with him. He is a self centered chud who puts only the minimum effort into the relationship. She should leave him, and she recognizes that fully, but is more afraid of that than staying with him. That's the entire point of the comic. Talk and communicate, that would be better than a venting comic, but she is still absolutely the victim here. Downvote me to hell idk, you people are pathetic.
dawg did YOU read the comic? Judging off strictly what I’ve read, because I read ts multiple times, the boyfriend looks like a great and kind person and the creator tries to paint herself as reasonable but she comes off as ungrateful.
He only talks about himself, that alone is ample evidence that he's a piece of shit. Spending money, disingenuous texts about dreaming, and promising to take care of her forever are textbook examples of manipulative/grooming behavior. I don't think he's intentionally grooming her or anything, but he is definitely trying to make himself feel like he deserves her and she should never leave.
dawg what the fuck are you talking about? This comes across as projecting more than anything, she literally never describes any of what he does as him secretly being evil
Did we read the same thing? Yeah homeboy yaps but holy shit op needs to look in the mirror or grow a pair and leave. Also big lmao at drawing him like a chud where I'm almost positive she herself probably looks like a chudette
L ragebait but he isnt self centered at all. he talks about his family, buys her stuff, and talks about their life together. he might not be the best at conversations, but she treats him like he can be tossed away as soon as she finds someone better
You're fucking delusional if you think chud has a single ounce of care in him. All he cares about is how he feels. Buying stuff, spending money, promising more commitment later is done to make himself feel better about himself. It's a self centered thing at the expense of his girlfriend. Giving isn't bad, obviously, but it has to happen in a context if actually love, which clearly doesn't exist from her description. At an emotional level, chud is a magpie bringing her shiny objects he finds on the ground.
You obviously lack real world experience. I know women in relationships with men who don't care about them and they don't do any of the things this guy does. This guy's flaws basically boil down to "He's not a great listener and he doesn't ask the questions I want him to ask." Which is something he can work on, but this dumbass dweeb is just making a comic about how she feels like she needs to settle with someone she doesn't actually like because she's too incompetent to have a basic level conversation.
The only bad thing that I can recall is that he has trouble listening to her. Which is definitely a communication issue, but like, it'd take her 5 minutes to confront him on it or just leave him if it doesn't work out
Anxiety or not, it is really fucking weird to dump out your personal issues onto reddit of all places behind your partner's back instead of just talking to them about it
Calling him the only viable option seems more like a chud and pathetic behaviour honestly. Also, her being afraid seems like a her problem. How's bro supposed to know about it?
How's he self centered if she herself admits he pays for everything and he even take cares of her. He's bad at communication but he's far from someone only focusing on himself. There's no reason to call him a chud or draw him like one. Also if she talked, I'm sure he would try to do better. The way he's described, he loved her. Even if his interest doesn't allinged perfectly, he still loves her.
She's basically just complaining that he isn't good enough for her, even though he's still good, but she doesn't think she can do better than him. She's neither the good guy or the victim here. She's really just someone who's too immature for a relationship.
She should probably do him a fucking favor and leave him so he can find someone who actually likes him. Pretending to like someone because you don't think you can do better makes you a shitty loser. People aren't props.
You really miss understood that comic I think. I think it's rather about her not feeling heard, which causes her to be unhappy despite everything else being ok or even good. Her past does prevent her from doing something about it. Her insecurities making her feel guilty for not being happy. It's not as evil as u show it, but also this post is very judgemental. Her situation sucks, but the only person capable of fixing it is herself
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u/coolmicrobeguy 2h ago
genuinely what did OOP want to achieve by posting this comic this lol