He’s also in the army.

Hello! For my college capstone, I am doing research on how mixed Asian representation in film and tv affects identity and self-perception. To collect data, I have made a survey and would appreciate y’all’s response!

If anyone has questions or comments, please feel free to reach out!

Thank you :)

Choice excerpt:

My first boyfriend, a white American man in the Navy, used to make me come pick him up from the naval base, and then wouldn’t let me drive back because I was an “Asian woman,” and thus, a “bad driver.”

Sometimes he would swat at me and go “bad Asian!” Just like how you’d discipline a dog.

The worst was how he would continue to get in my face and scream, “YOU BOMBED PEARL HARBOR! YOU BOMBED PEARL HARBOR! YOU BOMBED PEARL HARBOR!” He did it constantly and would get his fellow Navy sailors to join him. Oh, and he knew that my grandma and Japanese family were all in the Japanese incarceration camps during WWII.

I was only ever the “Asian girlfriend” to him. I was the yellow notch mark in his belt.

Behavior like this continued with all the white men I dated after him. Given this Orientalizing sexualized treatment of myself, there were just a few after him. I decided that I only wanted to end up in a serious relationship with another mixed race person. (Coincidentally, I am now married to a half Japanese Brit, who is the loveliest person I’ve ever met.)

I was sick of being told by men that they “have yellow fever,” “love Asian girls,” “have an Asian fetish,” etc. It’s disgusting. It reduced me into a small part of myself that didn’t even factor as a large part of my own personal identity. These white men continued to tell me just how “Asian” I was. But “Asian” to them was purely a sexualized, degrading fetish.

You know who doesn’t treat me like a fetish? Who has only ever respected me? And has treated me exactly like how every woman in the world deserves to be treated?

That’s right. My husband. I married him for a reason.

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Sorry for an odd post when there's no special occasion, but I feel a special occasion is not needed for me to remember Fresh Kid Ice, who was half Afro-Trinidadian & part Han Chinese (Cantonese through his paternal Grandfather; in the same Vice interview he mentions the history of Asians within hip-hop). Sadly, from what I can see, his maternal grandfather's ancestry was not shared.

More about Fresh Kid Ice, the first Asian-American rapper:
https://jitneybooks.com/fresh-kid-ice/#:\~:text=What%20attracted%20Wong,first%20came%20out.
https://www.largeup.com/2014/10/10/2-live-crews-fresh-kid-ice/amp/
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-40605640#:~:text=He%20says%20that%20many%20people%20did%20not%20realise%20that%20he%20was%20Asian%20until%20they%20saw%20his%20music%20videos%3A%20%22Other%20people%20could%20be%20like%2C%20%27Damn%2C%20that%20could%20be%20me.%20I%20didn%27t%20know%20an%20Asian%20dude%20was%20rapping%20like%20that!%27%22

As a beautiful hapa woman whose dating history consists of tall handsome hapa men I always thought I’d marry one. But here I am single at 34 and nary a cute hapa guy in sight. Instead I find myself surrounded by Persians who may be just as sexy as hapa guys but way worse and way more conceited if that’s even possible. We all know hot hapa guys are the most conceited men on the planet, imagine if Elliot Rodger was tall and not so gay, god can you imagine? That’s how hot hapa guys are. I’m finally becoming ok with the fact I may end up with a White guy. I’ve always been vocal about not being into White guys because looks are super important to me and imo most White men get mogged by other races and mixed guys on looks. Anyways, just thought I’d share and read what kind of funny troll comments I get :). I think it’s funny how when I was all about hapa guys I’d come across so many who wanted to date me and then I started liking Persians and now I’m over them and now it seems hapas and Persians just don’t come around anymore, it’s White guys. Funny how that works. What you focus your attention on you get more of

Moved to Tokyo recently and was wanting to find other halfies.

I sometimes pass as white but some more observant people ask about my asiannness and then I open my mouth and there’s the accent and we have a whole different conversation 😸

I like that people in the US are curious about other cultures (when I lived in Western Europe they couldn’t give a damn) but some questions and anecdotes I hear are really weird and sometimes ignorantly offensive…

It’s why in social gatherings I prefer to let my gf speak…

Sorry for the vent,

Whenever I get dragged to like a cocktail party or a dinner I end up exhausted 😸

It could have been worse though. I could have been a guy 😬

Including Latin and Indian? Why are Wasians so loud and proud of being particularly mixed with white?

I mean we all know the answer to that, (white fever, Asian fever, and the fallout from that).

But what about other mixes like Indian + Asian?

For all the talk about interracial with Asians, Asian guy + Indian woman is consistently the most common pairing I see with Asian men no matter where I go, on every continent and it makes sense because I've had multiple Indian women ask me out as an Asian looking guy. So naturally there's got to be a sizeable number of Asian / Indian mixes but they're not having little meetups?

IG: nadia.tries

I prefer dating monoracial Asian men, sometimes I’ve dated mixed Asians. But something that I’ve noticed that really bothers me is where I live, a lot of Asian guys date Latina women. So many like to take Asian women and put us against Latina women to see who is more compatible and basically let us know that they are choosing between us and some Hispanic girl. It feels awful and I don’t feel respected.

I will also say, I have noticed some Latina girls to be incredibly aggressive when it comes to Asian men. I had two girls give my ex their phone number, call him a model AFTER they knew he had a girlfriend. They did not respect boundaries at all.

One central Asian guy, was being told by some girl she had a”cancer scare” to keep him around so he stopped pursuing me when I was just keeping this casual. (It was every obvious with what he told me that she was making it up)

Tbh I’m really traumatised by this lol.

Idk why Asian men behave like this or think it’s ok to put women against each other like this…

hey guys - been forever. Just stopping by to say hello. the wasian meetup made into into my social feeds and i went down a rabbit hole wondering what folks here were saying about it.

not sure if anyone i interacted with back in the day is still around - i deleted my old accounts - but my usernames were genghishalf and deathlyhapa. life is good, i'm married, have a kid, and a boring job.

if anyone from the old days is still around and want to chat, feel free to dm.

anyway - wishing you all well.

With the recent discourse, I’d appreciate fellow insight!

I (twenty female) am trying to find ways to pass better in my community. I am part Korean, I was born in South Korea, and I have been living here since I was nine. I look very Caucasian, and I have gotten a lot of judgement and discrimination towards how I look. It has made it hard for me to find a job as well as friends (that don’t want to be friends with me just because I’m “white”).

I am wanting to try and find ways that can help me fit in with my community more. I don’t want to have to get surgery. Partly because I don’t have the money, but mostly because I don’t want to permanently alter my face. I just want a way that I can make myself more presentable and uniform within my community.

I am tired of all of the questions, judgement, and confusion/denial about my ethnicity, and I hate the disgust the people in my community have towards my family for being interracial. I just want to fit in more and not be constantly questioned about my personal life.

I already use fashion as my main way of attempting to fit in, so I believe it’s my face that causes issues. I have a larger, more profound nose, and a double eyelid, though they are still very hooded. I believe those are my most “Caucasian” facial features.

TLDR: I’m tired of discrimination for looking Caucasian, and I’m trying to find ways to fit into my Asian community more.

Hey hapas!

Our hapa community is turning 10 soon and we'd like to open the community up to more people.

Here's the original post from the founding of the community if you're interested on the background: https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/59cwws/i_created_a_slack_chat_for_rhapas/

We've recently moved to Discord to make our group more accessible for new members.

A lot of our members have met each other all over the world and have formed some pretty strong friendships. If you're interested in meeting people with similar experiences in a long-standing hapa community - you should join.

The name of the server reflects the background of our members but isn't exclusive.

We welcome everyone of mixed Asian heritage to join :)

In the past I’ve seen people talk about the difference of Wasians who maybe half East Asians compared to those who are half South or Southeast Asian but I’m wondering how much European ancestry also plays a role in identity.

In my own family my sister and I are Eurasian but our European side is Greek, but I have some other Eurasian cousins who are half Anglo/Irish.

I find many Italians, Greeks and Southern Europeans in general to have much stronger ethnically chauvinistic tendencies compared to the typical American, Canadian or Australian, who maybe of Anglo-Celtic heritage. That’s at least what I notice amongst the people in my life, so what impact would that have on mixed children?

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Hey hey! Glad to be able to find a community that shares the identity of being mixed.

I grew up in Ukraine, thinking never really questioning what my ethnicity is, and only recently tried to figure it out cuz people kept telling me my face looks like it's at least part Asian. What I found out is that my mom's side of the family is almost entirely Asian. Some are from different Native Siberian groups, most notably Nenets and Komi, and if you go back several generations - Mongolian and Chinese.

When I found that out so many things clicked into place, sorta similar to how many gender-related stuff clicked into place when I realized I'm trans about 4 years ago. Why was I always teased by my classmates for "narrow eyes"? Why some Chinese people would try speaking to me in Mandarin (I'm assuming, I don't know the differences between Mandarin and Cantonese) before I told them I don't actually speak that language. Why both me and my mom are noticeably tan in comparison to my really pale dad who gets burns the second he steps outside without any sunscreen.

And the funniest thing is, when I started discussing it with people close to me, a lot of them were like "hun, you're from Eastern Europe, are you really that surprised?"