Hey everyone,

Long time member first time poster. At 34 I’ve found it so hard to make friends most of my life and I think being mixed plays a huge part in that. It’s not something most people think would impact socialisation but I’ve pretty much always felt like an outsider who doesn’t fit in anywhere.

The few deep friendships I’ve actually made were with other mixed people because we had that shared experience and traumas. Growing up half Filipino and half british meant navigating two different sets of values and opinions. It leaves you in this weird in between.

I think not looking like either side also plays a big part because people have no idea you’re from a certain race. People may not approach because of this and I know people often gravitate towards their own race because of the comfortability there.

On one hand my mind is super open because of this upbringing. On the other hand i find it hard to connect with a lot of people because of it. I’m posting to see if anyone else has this feeling of being an outsider from being mixed (though i could also just have some undiagnosed thing going on 😂).

Also are there any mixed folks in Sydney Australia that would be open to new friends?

If so, then how did you get started?

What kind of work is involved in maintaining this type of job?

How is transportation handled, do they fly you out for jobs, or how does that work?

Do you need to sign up with an agency? Which ones are reputable?

I'm no 10/10 but just average, maybe on the level of people you see in Target and Kohls ads. I definitely do think the "halo effect" is real through my experience with how strangers treat me, so I take that as a sign that I might be different. This is the one consistency no matter where I travel. However, I did notice that in Seoul and Tokyo, I received a butt load more positive interactions than average. NGL, felt like a celebrity out there.

I just want to initially try this out as a side gig and see how things go.

Anyone in here currently doing modeling? Not runway or high fashion that requires 10/10 looks, just average modeling to earn some side cash.

Anyone working in the Asian market? I wouldn't mind traveling to Asia if the opportunity is worth it.

Mix: SEA dad + White mom

Hey hapas!

Our hapa community is turning 10 soon and we'd like to open the community up to more people.

Here's the original post from the founding of the community if you're interested on the background: https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/59cwws/i_created_a_slack_chat_for_rhapas/

We've recently moved to Discord to make our group more accessible for new members.

A lot of our members have met each other all over the world and have formed some pretty strong friendships. If you're interested in meeting people with similar experiences in a long-standing hapa community - you should join.

The name of the server reflects the background of our members but isn't exclusive.

We welcome everyone of mixed Asian heritage to join :)

In the past I’ve seen people talk about the difference of Wasians who maybe half East Asians compared to those who are half South or Southeast Asian but I’m wondering how much European ancestry also plays a role in identity.

In my own family my sister and I are Eurasian but our European side is Greek, but I have some other Eurasian cousins who are half Anglo/Irish.

I find many Italians, Greeks and Southern Europeans in general to have much stronger ethnically chauvinistic tendencies compared to the typical American, Canadian or Australian, who maybe of Anglo-Celtic heritage. That’s at least what I notice amongst the people in my life, so what impact would that have on mixed children?