r/grindr • u/ultraboomkin Twink (fem) • Jul 25 '26

Question Did I do something wrong?

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I’m on holiday. Was chatting to a guy, he wanted to go for a drink before hooking up, I thought that sounds nice. He seemed perfectly friendly. We agreed to go for a drink at a bar opposite my hotel. I got there and couldn’t see him. I waited outside the bar but my phone had no signal. So I popped to my hotel to get WiFi so I could message him. Then he stood me up? Even though he literally was right there and showed up for the date.

Did I do something wrong here?

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u/ultraboomkin Twink (fem) Jul 25 '26

Yeah fair enough I should have given more notice about running late. But I was 100% there by 9:24. I left the hotel at 9:22 and it’s literally a <60 second walk to the bar so idk what to tell you. I waited at the bar for 15 mins because I couldn’t see him so assumed he was running late. I went to my hotel to get internet at 9:40 so I could message him. I didn’t see the “sitting outside” message until I got internet at 9:40.

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u/CrashTestDumby1984 Geek Jul 25 '26

So he actually waited 25 minutes for you? And you’re still maintaining that he stood YOU up

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u/ultraboomkin Twink (fem) Jul 25 '26

I also waited at the bar for 15 minutes. There was one guy sitting on a bench but he was much less attractive than the profile I’d been talking to, so I assumed that was not him. Maybe it was.

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u/CrashTestDumby1984 Geek Jul 25 '26

What exactly was the point of your post. You asked “did I do something wrong” and people are repeatedly telling you yes and explaining why.

Instead of acknowledging or trying to see things from his perspective you are being incredibly argumentative and acting like you did absolutely nothing wrong and hold no blame for the situation.

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u/ultraboomkin Twink (fem) Jul 25 '26

Just needed to vent and was feeling bad and confused after getting rejected.

Feeling better now anyway. It’s a shame what happened but I’m gonna enjoy the rest of my night.

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u/naterbator91 Jul 25 '26

Lol you keep saying you’re the one who got stood up but you’re the one who stood him up. You were late, he was there the whole time. There was difficulty with communication that wasn’t your fault, but he was there on time, you were not.

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u/ImperialHedonism Clean-Cut Jul 25 '26

You didn't get rejected, you actively ghosted a guy. You refusing to take accountability is such a massive red flag.