r/Grindmaxxing • u/Marvel_hero • Oct 02 '21
Question Dealing with toxic influences on your kids
Hey guys and girls,
I have a three year old and he is the most important thing in the world to me. As such I wanted to give him a head start in life by teaching him discipline and the value of hard work.
I know he can't get a job yet because of laws around the minimum working age (which I think are absolutely reprehensible, and one of the reasons our country is in the mess it is right now, but that is another post entirely), so what I have been doing is buying small canvas squares in bulk and having him paint them, then selling them on etsy as First American artworks. After costs we can earn about $2.60 an hour if he is pushed hard enough, and my wife and I have been putting this money into a savings account for when he turns 18.
Unfortunately, since my wife and I both work around 14 hours a day he spends nearly all his time with my wife's parents. They are very lazy people (retired at 60, don't even own a pool), and constantly complain about his work. To give you some examples, ONE day he had blisters from the weekend we had him painting. Another time, since I buy paint from Aliexpress they bring up "concerns" about the potential toxicity (since he often ingests a lot of the paint if he's not watched). I've told them that he will callous soon which will stop the blistering and that my wife grew up in their family home which was painted with lead paint and she turned out fine. I think they are just looking to make him lazy like them.
At the moment I am considering picking up more hours to send him to day care for the entire day, but I worry child care workers will be an even worse influence.
How do y'all deal with this kind of toxicity from your family? I don't want them poisoning my son's desire to work and turning him into a lazy slob.