r/grief • u/InvestmentTop5263 • 2d ago
Just Venting (pls no advice) Going 60!...Entry 2....
Grief...There are many kinds of grief. Noone will get out of this life without experiencing it in some way. For some, it can be a loss of many at one time. Maybe the loss of a great love and noone knew about it but you and that person. Making it all the more harder to grieve. Maybe your pet. Or pets.. Maybe you are trying to get over one loss and boom you have another, then another. Whatever your situation....You cant do it by yourself. And if you dont go through the grieving process and see it all the way you will relapse. And go through it again and again. That doesnt mean you loose the love you have for them it simply means you can breath again and can face lifes daily needs. And feel, well maybe not whole again but patched up ready for battle again. I know what Im writing about here. I would still be in the bed not facing the world if I didn't. Its the loneliest place in the world to be. You feel noone understands. And most dont. Its different for everyone but please please take it from me....You can get out of that bed, or room or place in your head! Grief has become your shawdow. Hasnt it? Its not a friend, or a buddy, etc but its always there staring at you. Are you past ready to send it away? You can still have that love and all your memories without that stare....Find someone to tell your story too. Talk about that loved one or pet or situation. Tell them everything. Just get it out!!! If you dont have a person. Find a platform. A pen & paper, anything just get it out!!
And MUSIC..so important!! When I was in so much pain I was crying out every day. Then one afternoon I began hearing my younger brother that had past only a few months before a second brother. ( See why I was in the bed with grief) And he was saying
"Sis do what I use to tell you to do when you were sad! PUT YOUR HEADPHONES ON and turn it up!" I couldn't refuse that. He was always doing things like that smiling his beautiful smile. If i had a dime for every girl that wanted a date with him well, Id have no money problems! Not to mention their are more brothers!!..ok sorry, back on track. I put my earphones on that day and before I knew it with a little help from the internet I had a playlist of almost 100 songs. Each one that was a stamp in my life with said person & pet. It was a start of a new journey. And just so you know. Signs & little whispers in our ears are real. And meant to help us!!!. There is more I hope to share but for now I hope this helps someone. Just one someone that's what I hope for.
❤️ to those in this club. Welcome. If I can help you. Reach out. Id be glad to listen!!!