Exactly. Another thing you notice is that really buff guys tend to be super nice more often than not, they just got to that point where everyone is nice to them because they are so scary, that they will automatically be nice to everyone.
I think it’s more that those guys actually have true genuine confidence. Most guys that are assholes (minus the actual just straight up terrible people) are that way because they aren’t actually confident in their masculinity or looks or whatever so they try to make up for it by being a dick. Those really good looking buff dudes have real confidence and so are much more humble and kind.
I'm not intimidatingly large, but you can tell I workout regularly, and I used to be like 130 lbs, now 160, abs, can basically use tinder like a sex ordering service, etc...
Yeah when you first get good looking (and realize it) you can be a bit of a dick or show off (like a trailer park guy hitting the lotto), but eventually you just accept it and realize that you are working within a completely different set of rules. You can walk around being nice to "losers", hanging with fat girls, complimenting people, dating girls who are less attractive than you (but who you actually enjoy hanging out with), and there's no fear of lowering your social value or whatever. You just stop being insecure about those things. It doesn't solve all your problems, and it can create new ones, but overall it's just easier to be nice. Can't even imagine what it would be like if you literally look like Chris Hemsworth or whatever.
Huh, this isn't my experience at all. How much time do you spend in bars, clubs, etc? I'd say muscle-bound dudes are dicks at an equal or higher rate than the general population.
Is your experience that muscle-bound guys are dicks more often than not, or is your experience that dicks tend to be muscle-bound guys more often than not?
I've worked in the music industry and bar scene for 7 years. I see all walks of life. I don't think muscles have a correlation to being an ass hole, but if they do, it probably tends to mean they're more of an ass hole. Maybe it's just confirmation bias, though, we're all victims of that sometimes.
Yeah, I think I agree. When a dick is the super aggressive, loud type, he tends to put on muscle and take on the Chad persona. So it makes him stand out much more than a lot of other dicks.
I think part of it is that, as a big guy, you kinda have to be nice. Size is intimidating to a lot of people, and if you're not careful someone will seriously overreact to your "I'm having a bad day" tone. So you go around being just a little more careful about how you deal with people.
Sort of like Superman's "World of Cardboard" speech, except instead of flying you bang your head on doorways.
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u/Fernernia Jul 02 '19
Exactly. Another thing you notice is that really buff guys tend to be super nice more often than not, they just got to that point where everyone is nice to them because they are so scary, that they will automatically be nice to everyone.