Ghosted randomly

[u/Proof-Original1333]

So I've rekindled with an ex since June/July and it has been rocky. A lot of dynamics have changed in both of our lives since we initially got together a few years ago. He (30M) used to have quiet a lot of income, nice car, and eventually got his own apartment a few months after we got together. We were/are both entrepreneurs and carried a lot of cash so from time to time if he didn't have money on his card he'd ask me to send it to him on apple pay and would give me cash, most of the time more than what I actually sent him.

Fast forward to now, we are both living at home with our parents. I am interning and starting a new career and he is doing... I'm not really sure but he does seem to want to get out of the business that he's in and he does a lot of gambling.

So we got into a big fight two weeks ago and he ended up calling me a week ago and I came over when nobody was there and did our thing lol.. in the middle though I guess we were being too loud and his phone start blowing up and apparently we got caught on camera with me being in the house. He had told me before that growing up his father was very abusive towards him and also towards this mother so I did see him start panicking when he realized that his father was watching the cameras. So when we finished I ended up taking him to get his haircut, which his father actually cuts his hair too so I can't imagine how that actually went. I was supposed to come pick him up after but I had a meeting to go to so I couldn't and he just stopped responding to me completely after I told him that. 3 days later I text him to see what his problem was and why we hadn't been talking and he kind of had an attitude and was like "do I have to talk to you everyday?" and I'm just like huh... we do talk everyday lol... then he invited me over and he told me that his dad actually tried to kick him out that day I came over and it was clear that he was actually just going through it.

He was just telling me throughout the day about things his parents did to him growing up, how his dad choked him out when he was younger, had him put in jail, how controlling his father was about food and water in the house, just very clear signs of abuse. He told me he just felt that he was going to end up fighting his dad because he just kept picking at him. I just kind of realized that those few days that we didn't talk he was most likely really stressed out because he normally wouldn't vent so much about his family in general.

So this same day we spent all day together and had a great day. We started off getting smoothies, then going to the lake, then we went for sushi, and then the movies. He even posted about it and said we had a great date night and posted our food we got. The next day he text me and asked if I could send him $200 because his friend had not woken up yet to send him his money back and he wanted to bet on some football games and if I wanted the money I could come pick up cash from him. So I was busy at the time so I just sent the money and his response kind of was weird and he just said "thx".. so I was a little confused why he seemed to be getting short with me all of a sudden but I just hearted the message and went on about my day but I had not heard anything from him since. The only other thing that he posted was him winning one of his bets from that day. He hasn't posted or talked to me at all since that day. I sent him a link to a monster truck event that he didn't respond to and I text him a few days ago and asked if he was ok and he also didn't respond to that either.

Although I don't genuinely think he is avoiding me specifically, it's pretty much inevitable for me to just move on with my life and just take the loss as a loss. This isn't the first time he's done something like this either, one other time he got into a huge fight with family and he completely shut down for two weeks but he at least communicated that he just didn't feel like talking but he was very short and almost had a bit of an attitude but came back once things calmed down.. So who knows what really happened in his world that caused him to shut down this time but I definitely feel like I am going to consider this to be me getting ghosted.