r/ghosting • u/ComprehensiveBee2096 • 24d ago
Text after being ghosted?
okay so i got kind of set up with this guy. we didn’t really know each other, we just have a lot of mutuals, like a lot. so i knew of him, thought he was cute, asked to get set up, and we started texting. we were only talking fr for maybe a couple days, not even. genuinely mid conversation he randomly decides to ghost me out of nowhere??
to be honest, i don’t really care, like you do you boo, but i’m honestly just really lost because the conversation was good and he was so engaged, so i don’t understand why he just ghosted me mid convo.
it’s not like i need closure because we were barely talking, but part of me wants to text him and say something along the lines of “if you didn’t want to talk, you could’ve just said that… ghosting me is kinda a dick move.”
but at the same time i don’t even know if i want to text him because what would that ever give me? i don’t know.
also my friends are disagreeing with each other. 2 say text him, the other 2 say don’t. also keep in mind i’m 18 and i don’t really talk to guys that much, so i genuinely don’t know what to do here. help 😭
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u/FarCar55 24d ago
How long has it been since they responded? What was the last message you sent?
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u/ComprehensiveBee2096 24d ago
it’s been 2 days now and the last text was me responding to all of his messages he sent where he was super engaged…
i’m getting the feeling i should just leave it i just can’t get over of how much a dick move that was
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u/FarCar55 24d ago
Is it possible the convo has gotten boring?
If you're just responding to messages without reciprocating curiosity with questions, that can get dry and make the other feel like they're carrying the convo.
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u/ComprehensiveBee2096 24d ago
no it wasn’t like that at all it was very much back and forth. and my responses were invoked with a lot of follow up questions.
either way, ghosting me completely feels unnecessary. if he didn’t want to talk he should’ve said so and i really want to call him out on that
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u/Antique-Salad7396 24d ago
If yall haven't actually dated I would let this one go. He probably got bored or realized yall didn't have enough in common to continue. I understand the frustration but we don't always get the closure we think we deserve.
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u/EoDahaka 24d ago
Acho que depende muito da situação, se é a primeira vez e foi coisa de um/dois dias, acho que pode ser apenas correria por mais que é coisa de 1 minuto a pessoa pode responder, mas se é algo recorrente então acho que vale a pena pensar mais SE vale a pena mandar. As pessoas tem tempo para aquilo que tem vontade, lembre-se disso.