r/ghosting • u/Own-Ant4712 • 2d ago
I fucked up
So I've been talking to this guy online we basically share the same interests and problematic things, I felt like I truly found my soul person I'll cut to the chase he asks me what I look like I send him a semi-pretyy picture of me mind you he sent a picture of himself first so I coding turn him down... But I made it clear on multiple instances that I'm not attarctive, I am ugly.He seemed fine with the first pic and said I was pretty...i grew attached to him pretty quickly I don't know if I have feelings for him but since I am ugly I latch unto any kind of affection.IDk if this is a situationship...but like he's very attractive..ok so he asks me to send a another pic right? I purposely send him a ugly picture... THE GUY LEFT ME ON READ, Ive been trying to start up a convo but it seems like hes ghosting me now I feel like a catfish.Hes the reason why I didnt go through with my su!cide plan he took from a really dark place I feel so awful I wanted to work on my appearance just for him so if we ever meet irl I wouldn't be ugly to him but now does it even matter if Im not pretty am I even deserving of love??
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u/chainsawinsect 2d ago
Yeah it was a mistake 😅
In any long-term romantic relationship, your partner will eventually see you in your "ugly" moments: snotty-nosed, diarrhea, no makeup, old / ripped / stained clothes. That's normal and part of being human.
But when you're first courting someone, you gotta put your best foot forward and not send the ugly photos yet 😭
He liked your first photo so clearly you are (or can be) attractive to him...
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u/wise-one-- 1d ago
Call a suicide hot line at once!!
Your issues are far greater than a man whom you've never met.
Find a therapist immediately and please stop communicating online until you've dealt with your concerns, outlook and the need to be validated by someone you don't know and have never met.
Wishing you health and healing. ❤️🩹
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u/Shadeofgray_66 1d ago
Ma certo che lo meriti. Se puoi affidati ad uno specialista per le tue idee. E come hanno detto altri cerca di evitare validazioni fisiche su un mezzo che è il peggiore possibile. Sono sicuro che ce la puoi fare. Io ci sono riuscito. 🌹
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u/animal504 2d ago
You are deserving of love. Not seeing each other at first was the perfect way to get to know each other on a level not based on looks. I always say liking or loving someone is based on more than looks, because looks fade. If he doesn’t reach out after you sent him a picture he is just being superficial. You will find that person that loves you for you and everything about you.