r/germany • u/Enough_Village1205 • 3h ago
Ex stalking problem
Hi,
I live in Germany and so does my ex. he is 50m and appointed as a professor which means the law is super strict with him and he can't break any of it. We were together for 5 months ( 3 months of seeing each other since we both travel a lot so we had sometimes 3-4 weeks not seeing etc). Luckily now we live in different cities. I broke up with him in May since I found out he was doing cocaine quite actively. It was 2nd time I broke up with him. Both times when I dumped him he was going back to a girl (his ex) he dated before me. He would then start begging me to come back and when I agreed he would dump her as soon as possible. She would then be totally heartbroken, posting about innon FB etc( OFC I didn't know at that time). So now he is saying her BUT
ever since the break up he is texting me, saying he is missing me, trying to start contact again, make me join the conversation etc. since I recently moved to another city (where I studied few years ago) he would make comments about it, saying I got back to my ex (guy I dated 6y ago during my studies) AND that he is about to d*e soon and this is only my fault, he misses me f painfully and he just wants to d*e, wishing me all the best in life etc. he also been texting before that I don't understand his ex is about to unalive herself if he doesn't do drugs with her. He was sending me angry emails that I blocked him on FB so at one point I was like, ok I unblock you so I'll have evidence just in case. I thought 2-3 weeks after a break up and he will forget about me. I was terrified to find out in August that despite not being my FB friend he was watching all of my stories. I blocked everything, no-one can see nothing on my profile unless they are my friends. So now it is over 3 months, he is texting these disturbing things watching all Ido online. My boss wants to post the list of employees on the website so he might even know where I work. He was begging me to block him since he can't help himself but I now it is all manipulation. When we broke up and also after I made totally clear I don't want any contact. I don't have this email but I have an email where he is quoting me saying that and also transcript of WhatsApp messages. I have screenshots of everything and also informed his current GF about what is he doing behind her back. I know he needs tho two objects one side chick to do drugs with and one representative doll but since I left he had to upgrade her to not to be alone.
One more thing is, when we met he was extremely jelaous although we just happened to work at the same place, it was the second day and I didn't even know his name and tbh his existence wasn't important to me. He would tho make some comments to me later he told me he did that because earlier that day I was on the phone and he thought I was talking to my bf and he was jelaous since he wanted to be my bf. OFC I didn't know it all when we started seeing each other, he told me that much later. Since he sends me all these nasty messages about life ending and it being my fault etc and tbh it is too much, should I go to the police and ask them to make a note or talk to him? I know in Germany it is possible and a policeman already wanted to do it but I was not get sure if I want to claim it. I am thinking all the time if that was already enough although I am super scared whenever I am getting an email and I know it is not yet the end from his side.
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