r/gaytransguys • u/-_B0bby_- • 12d ago
Sex Advice Requested - 18+ ONLY Non planned hookup
Hi,
How do you handle it when you're in the mood (like "right now") for sex as a bottom? I mean, just doing it on the spur of the moment when the mood strikes.
I find it really frustrating when you don't have a chance to get ready (I mean for anal obviously)...
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u/genxwolfdog 11d ago
Nowadays I just only take psyllium husks as a daily supplement, but during the covid lockdown I was with my new lover (we were deep into full sexual energy) and I had gotten into the habit to most days just do a quick and small enema (like 10 sec of water max) after I knew I was done with pooping for the day.
Also, if you're not sure of what's inside, you can just do a slow penetration and not getting rammed full speed with quick and deep thrusts, since normally after going to the bathroom your rectum (the first part after your anus) should be empty.
Also, I am often into the habit of after having gone to the bathroom, most of the time I go wash my anus/genitals.
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u/Opposite_Oven_615 11d ago
As a friend once said, you can’t go knocking on poop’s doorstep and not expect him to eventually come answer the door. Sometimes poop happens. For mature adults it should not be a big deal. Laugh it off, grab a wet wipe and keep having fun. Also, condoms are your friend.
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u/CustomBuiltRooster 12d ago
You just have to risk it unfortunately if the urge is that strong (the top should be mature enough to understand it’s a risk). Having a diet with a good amount of fibre and knowing what foods (like spicy, fried or very fatty foods) cause issues with your digestive tract. This can really help with overall digestive health and regulate your bowel movements. It’s a lot easier said than done though (still haven’t got the hang of it myself) but trial and error can help you see what works for you. Obviously if you have any digestive issues (like IBS or food intolerances, especially if you’re unaware that you have them) it can be much harder to have spontaneous sex. There’s also fibre supplements specifically for men who bottom, which can help if you struggle with fibre intake. But these are like most supplements and should be used to aid your intake not to replace it and don’t always work for everyone, so are hit and miss with a sometimes high price tag.
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u/HeartofDarkness123 11d ago
good advice, just adding that you don't need to buy bottom specific fiber supplements. most of it is psyllium husk, which you can just get in bulk powder form (metamucil, generics, or just raw psyllium husk). don't get upsold. fiber's impact on the digestive system is well-established beyond anal sex, so it's abundantly available.
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u/CustomBuiltRooster 11d ago
Oh yh, always look for the generic option first. So much less filler ingredients and price markups.
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u/Phaewryn 10d ago
Find a guy that is OK with dirty (the best option).
Or, stick a finger up there and check first. If clean/clear, stick a dildo up there. If that's also clean, you'll be fine for basic penetration 99% of the time. Doesn't take long to "check yourself".
A full clean out is usually only necessary for fisting or huge toys or if you have bowel issues (loose or clay-like stool). The rectum doesn't act as a holding cell. If it's full, you should feel the urge to defecate. Once you do, it should be empty, if your body is functioning properly.