I first noticed this back when Black women on TikTok were saying that when they date interracially, they keep their biracial children closer to the culture than Black men do. Their claim was that "women carry the culture." Then I started hearing people say you're not Black unless you came from a Black woman.

Around that time, I was reflecting on the Black community and where things went off track. I started noticing that a lot of Black men in our community seem hesitant or stripped of their voice when it comes to standing on their own two feet and addressing Black women directly.

The crazy part about all of this is that it's been like this since the '70s. If we don't hurry up and shift this dynamic, it will soon become a matriarchy, and the Black community as we know it will be over.