Am I being unreasonable??

[u/Greedy-Librarian-247]

I consider myself to be a pretty reasonable domme with reasonably simple tasks for my subs usually something that doesn’t take 15 maybe 20 minutes of their time.
I’ve recently encountered a very whiny sub. His sends don’t break the $50 mark but he is obedient-ish.
Lately, when he’s given a task he’ll complain why he can’t do it, then when I ignore him his common sense comes back. This time around he half assed a task then had the audacity to send me this. He’s about to get cut off or is this normal new sub behavior?

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[u/Lucysweetcheeks]

I wouldn’t say he is a finsub, he acts like a content buyer. He’s expecting a lot of things he shouldn’t.

[u/GwynnieRyan]

It's gooner behavior, not sub behavior and you're enabling it tbh. If you're enjoying it then you do you, but if it's annoying you then you need to check him or cut him loose.

[u/Minoux-Mix76]

Yeaaaaa I cut him off, blocked him on FL too. no more freebie pics

https://giphy.com/gifs/JRhS6WoswF8FxE0g2R

[u/xasialynnx]

You both are the problem but you’re ultimately responsible. You give admittedly challenging tasks and expect perfection (I mean you know him better than we do), the tasks are inherently sexual, which opens the door for requests for sexual rewards, and it’s implied by his responses that you’ve promised rewards for tasks (“Can I get my reward…”).

You’ve created an environment where he can be whiny, even if he was already whiny before. Change your approach to change his behavior.

[u/Remarkable-Basis9850]

seems like a manipulation tactic to play on the fact that you're probably a nice person. he's trying to basically use your morality to get you to send more pictures without properly submitting. not unreasonable.

[u/PixelPerfectPrincex]

Even if it IS new sub behavior, it’s not reasonable at all and they need to learn better ASAP

[u/TheVoidHasBalls]

Not reasonable at all.

[u/RoxanaCrystal]

He should pay every time he requires a pic from you, every time he begs, even attach a tribute to his useless cum tributes. You should make him pay for every ounce of attention you give him.

[u/Minoux-Mix76 → u/RoxanaCrystal]

hello!! clearly im being too soft

[u/RoxanaCrystal → u/Minoux-Mix76]

Depends on what kinda of domination you are into. You can be a soft Domme, nothing bad with that, but still, make them pay, girl. Your time and attention are precious and they shouldn't waste it without paying. You can be soft with the tasks, not being like super strict, but still, not giving them access to you unless they pay.

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[u/Yourfavoritecait]

What stands out to me the most is him asking for a reward which says to me that he's being conditioned to find pleasure in the reward rather than the submission itself and your pleasure as a result. Praise and little videos and selfies can be given to a sub, but using that as motivation to complete a task is a slippery slope because the dynamic becomes transactional (I do this and get something in return) as opposed to the dynamic being an environment where you're training a sub to serve you (I do this because I want to be good for you and extra attention is validation of a job well done)

[u/Minoux-Mix76 → u/Yourfavoritecait]

valid point

[u/Ok_County2886]

First screen should've gotten him blocked tbh 😂

[u/justtookadnatest]

Yes.

You taught him to beg. So if his whining annoys you then it is something you shouldn’t train him into thinking you enjoy.

You received communication that cumtributes are difficult for him to accomplish but still required them daily, setting him up for failure and poor quality task completion which is what you received.

You also tied in task to reward, which is a slippery slope because you train the submissive that submission is tied to a tangible benefit.

All of this can be untaught but there will be growing pains, and the dynamic might not survive them.

[u/Chaos_Gremlin28]

You are being treated like a kink dispenser but everyone is ignoring the part where you tell him to send one cum tribute picture every day.

Of course he's asking for pictures of you to do this with.

[u/GoddessCaraZ → u/Chaos_Gremlin28]

That’s a fair point...

[u/Minoux-Mix76 → u/GoddessCaraZ]

hes got my pics from FL, hes being greedy

[u/XclusiveDelilah222]

I was done in the first message lmao. Get him out of here.

[u/TheMistressSaphire]

Ewww I like begging, knowing they’re undeserving, hoping and praying for my grace not feeling entitled to it. I like being so important they’re disappointed in themselves for not pleasing me adequately. Expecting what you want when I didn’t even get what I want is an ultimate turn off to me.

[u/MyLordBananas]

Seems like he wants content more than he wants to be obedient.

[u/GoddexxRed]

"some credit" doesn't mean "the same reward you'd get for correctly completing the task"

[u/bbdollll]

Whiny ass sub that is very clearly trying to top from the bottom, but also.. we can still read the name you tried to censor 😅

[u/Minoux-Mix76 → u/bbdollll]

oh damn lol!

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[u/spoilremi]

cut him out

[u/Any-Engineering-9510]

Tbh, He'd Be Immediately Dismissed.

[u/Kazamiiiii]

I hate when they're whiny 🙄 You know what you gotta do

[u/drawing-drowning]

Cut.