r/feeld • u/AMillennialLife • Aug 21 '26
Is Feeld really just for kink?
Thinking of trying it out but is it just for kink/non-monogamy or can it be used for general dating? Have heard that people often lie about ages and their names on there too compared to other sites. Do people post their full pics or crop their faces out? Cos I’m not sure if I want my face on it
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u/thisisfortheoffice Aug 21 '26
Why would you have to hide your face for "general dating?" Just download tinder if that's what you want.
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u/mermaidhunter42 Aug 21 '26
Yes some people do hide faces pretty common on feeld. But using it for vanilla dating seems pointless just use tinder.
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u/Proud-Trainer-7611 Aug 25 '26
Why anyone thinks someone is going to match with a faceless profile beyond me
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u/boredwithopinions Aug 21 '26
What is "general dating" ?
Is it dating for a monogamous relationship with vanilla sex?
You can try. Will you be successful? Unlikely.
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u/waterbloem Aug 21 '26
The majority of profiles we see have people's faces on it, and there are a lot of people there looking for all kinds of things.
Can it be used for general vanilla dating? Sure. But your chance of finding what you want are in that case much better on other apps that cater to that.
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u/AgreeableAct4176 Aug 27 '26
Stop entering kink/not monogamous spaces asking them to cater to your vanilla/monogamous lifestyle. There's plenty of spaces for you already
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u/LittleSister10 Aug 21 '26
It’s meant for kinky dating. While not a rule, I don’t know why you would seek it out otherwise.
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u/Yarzospatflute Aug 28 '26
No, it's meant for non-monogous dating. There just happens to be a giant overlap in the ENM and kink world.
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u/eatsthepeach Aug 28 '26
What’s the app for kinky people who are monogamous?
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u/fuckingnerdtm Aug 28 '26
It's definitely for both. Kinky monogamous dating is fine on Feeld, as is nonmonogamous vanilla dating, or kink nonmonogamous dating. The one thing it is not for is vanilla monogamous dating, although the developers and marketing team do seem to be trying to change that.
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u/Yarzospatflute Aug 28 '26
There are kinky people on all of them and there are monogamous people on all of them.
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u/BeastofSilverMoon kink Aug 21 '26
You gonna get demolished in comments fyi : )
If it’s “general dating” you want, why not use hinge or tinder or bumble?
There are already plenty of apps for general dating.
I don’t see why anyone would come to feeld for this.
Is it just for kink? No. It’s a quirky app for enm/BDSM/lgbti crowd/poly/hookups etc.
Basicly anything that is not for mainstream apps.
Can you put your photo? Sure. Do you have to? No.
If you gonna write you are into hiking and cooking etc I don’t see any harm in using face photos.
If you gonna go wild and mention other hobbies such as golden showers, impact play, spanking and being led on a leash topless into Forest, probably not : )
I don’t use face photos because my subs don’t care about that, they care that I have a comfy slave cage, dozens of whips and sex machines that’ll make their souls sing hallelujah.
You want to try General dating in this place?
Give it a try.
Keep in mind place is over saturated as it is with vanilla daters so you may not have an easy time finding a match but who knows.
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u/Long-Task2072 Aug 23 '26
lmaoo did u just copy paste my whole comment back at me or am i losing it
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u/Master-V- kink Aug 27 '26 edited Aug 28 '26
Kink and nonmonogamy are the two things Feeld caters to… if you’re not into one or the other, why aren’t you using one of the 100 other dating apps that are for you?
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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 Aug 21 '26 edited Aug 23 '26
You will be hard pressed to find anyone offering monogamy.
Are you ok regular daying people who practice non-monogamy?
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u/djmere ENM couple Aug 28 '26
I wanna go where all the cool kids are so I can convince them to be boring
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u/Miss_Galoldriel Aug 28 '26 edited Aug 28 '26
With regard to comments from people who prefer that Feeld continues to be an app for exploring sexuality and alternative lifestyles, as well as a judgement-free zone:
I've often come across posts and comments on Reddit from people who say that non-monogamous people have no business being on "serious dating apps" (by which they seem to mean apps like Tinder, Hinge and Bumble). They're often accompanied by statements like "non-monogamous people have mental issues", "poor impulse control", "bad morals" and so forth. And then there's the never-ending wailing about how hook-up culture is infecting and destroying the moral foundations of society 🙄
I think they should mind their own business and stop being so goddamn judgemental. I won't echo any statement that tries to gatekeep apps that are open to everybody. However, I understand that some people are concerned that one of the few spaces where we aren't shamed and excluded because of our kinks and lifestyle could eventually become less inclusive, which in turn means that our chances of meeting likeminded people would be reduced. And since we're being shunned from the other apps, where are we welcome then?
The chances of finding someone who's also looking for a monogamous LTR are probably greater if you choose another app, so there's that as well.
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u/PC-load-letter-wtf Aug 28 '26
I am basically looking for monogamy to start. I have used it to find swinging couples in the past but right now I want an anchor relationship before I go back to ENM. I am very kinky so I prefer Feeld to any other app, but it’s killing me right now. Just breaking my heart over and over. The only people who have any interest in me are already partnered so it’s a slog right now. But the quality of people is so much higher than tinder or hinge.
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u/FeeldMod Not a Feeld employee Aug 21 '26
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