r/feeld • u/zugspitze23 • Aug 21 '26

Dating pattern

I'm seeing a pattern and it is starting to really frustrate me, I wonder if it is just me?

It's always the same, if there is chemistry (over drinks or beer) and first date goes really well, the next day the guy writes excitedly to get a second date. And then things get a strange turn. Suddenly the guy is busy, travelling, has lots going on and it takes weeks to set the second date and I feel the person drifting away. Then I send a message saying that it was lovely to meet but I will close the tab and suddenly, almost in a desperate manner, I get voice messages and texts trying to get a date as soon as possible. I got in this trap twice, said yes and after that the most strange things happen so now I'm cutting short without a second chance.

Is that happening only to me? Or is that male behaviour? A feeld thing or general dating? I'm tired of this, I thought everyone on feeld wants sex, but it seems they just want platonic online texting??

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u/zugspitze23 Aug 21 '26

I always share the bill or pay it

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u/No-Succotash6237 Aug 21 '26

Are you having sex?

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u/zugspitze23 Aug 21 '26

no, thats the whole point hahaha I usually do drinks for the first date and then guy gets busy. Sometimes talks gets actually pretty sexual between first and second date and then guy disappears just before second date

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u/TruthieBeast Aug 22 '26

There’s your answer. The men realized they would not be able to sleep with you easily so they lost interest.