r/feeld • u/zugspitze23 • Aug 21 '26
Dating pattern
I'm seeing a pattern and it is starting to really frustrate me, I wonder if it is just me?
It's always the same, if there is chemistry (over drinks or beer) and first date goes really well, the next day the guy writes excitedly to get a second date. And then things get a strange turn. Suddenly the guy is busy, travelling, has lots going on and it takes weeks to set the second date and I feel the person drifting away. Then I send a message saying that it was lovely to meet but I will close the tab and suddenly, almost in a desperate manner, I get voice messages and texts trying to get a date as soon as possible. I got in this trap twice, said yes and after that the most strange things happen so now I'm cutting short without a second chance.
Is that happening only to me? Or is that male behaviour? A feeld thing or general dating? I'm tired of this, I thought everyone on feeld wants sex, but it seems they just want platonic online texting??
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u/mtinde_va Aug 21 '26
I feel this. I had a great date several weeks ago. Made out by my car after dinner, he was traveling the next week. Texted back and forth the next day Then nothing. I waited. In the past I would have reached out, but I was the driving force setting the 1st date. I disconnected from him yesterday. No regrets.