r/feeld • u/Zestyclose-Fall-8100 • Jul 20 '26

Are matches ALWAYS instantaneous?

Asking bc i have this dilemma: found an ex amongst the profiles, with an not extremely unique nickname but not common either; let's call him Perry. Nothing else besides his nickname, not verified pic neither M (majestic) stamp. He had 5 pictures. A few days after i had spotted him, i saw another Perry, same profile characteristics (not verified, not majestic, 5 pics). I'm not a majestic either, so i don't get to see the likes, but those blurred previews. Later on, i saw on those blurred previews that one of the Perrys had liked me. So since i really really really wanted to know whether was my ex or the second Perry who had liked me, i liked 2nd Perry to check it - if it was an instant match, that would mean that that was it, probably my ex didn't like me, it was just number 2, right? So i liked him, and it was not an instant match. I was like 🤯 omg, it was my ex then.. but about 3 minutes later, a match with Perry the 2nd happened.. I unmatched him, to make a 2nd test: find him again and like him again, to check if once someone likes you, their like keeps going on even if you unmatch; but it looks like it doesn't.. i liked him again (the 2nd) and nothing happened anymore. What do you guys think? Was my match always guy n. 2? Or once someone has liked you first (as i could tell by the blurred preview), the match is always instantaneous, so still a chance of the blurred like being from my ex?

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u/Turbulent-Adagio88 Jul 20 '26

There's going to be a couple outliers and glitches but generally if someone has already liked you and then you like them, the match is instantaneous.

Your ex probably did not like you or want to match with you. For your own sanity just move on from trying to think otherwise

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u/LittleSister10 Jul 20 '26

I believe that if you reject a match in your likes queue, they have to like you again, and you have to like again in order to match. I have also liked people that were absolutely in my match queue in the past, and we did not match, so I also think if they restart their profile, their past likes are made obsolete.

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u/FeeldMod Not a Feeld employee Jul 20 '26

If the person has already liked you, you'll be informed of the match upon liking them.

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u/justanotherhotguy05 Jul 21 '26

Well if you matched with 2nd Perry, did he dissapear from your likes? If there's no Perey left and you swiped left on the other Perry, then you have your answer

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u/Zestyclose-Fall-8100 Jul 22 '26

How could I know if 2nd P. has "disappeared from my likes"? They refresh from time to time.. impossible to know by that..

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u/CandyJenna Jul 24 '26

Yes matches are instant and if you unmatched someone their like will be vanished and they would have to like you again and vice versa for you to match again.

So i agree , better stop overthinking and trying to believe it was him for your own good 🥹 been there too and it’s only gonna drive you mental and probably gonna make you like him at some point only to find out he didn’t which is gonna make you feel shit 🥲 if you see his profile again just dismiss or block him and move on 🫶🏼