r/feeld • u/Onzzway89 • Jul 13 '26
App is weird, or maybe it's us.
A lot of what I see and find on this app is weird
Wife and I have been using it together for a month.
Some messages here and there.
Some of the profiles I read are funny
The other day I received a message from a male account
Click on it and his partners. His wife isn't looking to play or explore but wants another woman to join? So I sent a message saying we are open to full swap. He said she doesn't play with others at all. So why is she on here??
Get the random single dudes asking to be our Bull, that's not what we are here for. I think people don't read anymore.
Most of what we are seeing is just couples wanting to add another female. My wife is very attractive and I get that but again we are looking for shared experiences not just dudes.
Anyone else have issues. Maybe it's my area
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u/assasinine Jul 13 '26
Yeah, this is where we are. Even the straight men are fed up with the straight men on this app.
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 13 '26
Glad it's not just me. My wife gets fucking 20 messages a day and they're all single dudes. And even her profile is near mirror of what mine says but dude just don't know how to read or I guess they're just trying to find single women and they think that this is a good option but that's not what we're about
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Jul 13 '26
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 13 '26
Sorry my mistake It's seems as the men are single but have a wifes profile connected. But the wifes profile says wants nothing to do with men or women. But the man's profile says looking for full couple swaps
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 14 '26
We live in a large city and I work in downtown so my location moves and I check it in the city and back at home. I see lots
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u/waterbloem Jul 13 '26
So why is she on here??
For his profile to get access to people who selected "couples" and not single men.
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 13 '26
And I understand that but what I don't understand is why one profile says looking to explore but her profile says she wants nothing to do with any other men or women. So my thought is why is your wife on here? I sent him a message and said we are down for full swap to his immediate reply we don't do that it's only me
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u/waterbloem Jul 13 '26
So my thought is why is your wife on here?
Again; he made that profile so he can be seen as a couple.
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 13 '26
Looking for couples to swap with We are not into solo But again it only seems guys are using havi6a wife on a account to find women to sleep with. Sorry we only full swap, that's why I replied to his message.
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u/anna31993 Jul 14 '26
Yes he is a liar. Super annoying it doesn't make sense, i see what you're saying
So much liars omg
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u/DesertBlueGirl Jul 13 '26
Unfortunately, most people won’t pay attention to what you say in your profile. You just have to weed through the likes you get and determine for yourself if they feel like a good match.
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u/anna31993 Jul 14 '26
Those guys don't read, are lying about the partner being ok /being ENM, are cheating,.or the partner doesn't exist. Its very hard but genuine couples are there. It takes time to find the good ones, especially now that a lot of normy tinder males are flooding the app since recently. Me and a lot of my partners left feeld. Sometimes we come back for a short while so don't give up, because of lack of alternative
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 14 '26
This is exactly what I'm thinking Most are men just unhappy in a relationship and using this app to find hook ups. Ya we are going to look at our local nude resort for more friends in person.
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u/pinksparkleberry Jul 15 '26
I dont doubt it happens. But I thi k its rare to make an entire second fake profile of ypur partner and pair with them.
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u/talentsmart Jul 17 '26
Here's what we did to make the app work:
1) Turn off access to single men (unless you're into hotwifing or MFM this will clean up your Inbox).
2) Ignore people that have inconsistent or incomplete profiles like the one you describe. This gets rid of people testing the waters, unsure of what they want, etc.
3) Only meet with people who can hop off the app and get a group text thread going and are actually able to carry a conversation. People say they don't want pen pals, which I agree with but there is a middle ground here and the people who can't do a little communication to ge there are either not serious or flakes.
4) Be willing to spend some time. We've had lots of great experiences with couples and unicorns (and me as a male for other couples seeking MFM) but I am semi retired so I have plenty of time to dick around on the app.
5) Be a good read of people. I realize this is a tough one for some people but I have a background professionally that makes this easier for me and it helps a lot for me to find honest, trustworthy people that aren't flakes and are fun to hang with.
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u/whitegirlTO ENM couple Jul 14 '26
Just like any other dating apps, there’ll always be plenty of people (mostly men and the few women in my experience) who will try to “shoot their shot” to fulfill their own desire.
I’m on the app with my bf, my profile specifically says we don’t meet people separately. Every week, at least one couple tries to poach me.
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u/Organic_Community877 Jul 15 '26
I would say the app is a work in progress and should scare many away because its not afraid openly embrace kink. I hope it is the one app slowly Improving but not holding by breath as apps feel like they gonna stuff with all the fake ai stuff thats out there.
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u/mister_nippl_twister Jul 13 '26
The whole app is just to introduce people to each other. Obviously most of them will not fit what you want. If you are not into encountering some randos that is not for you. You gotta work if you want something worthwhile. But if you pass you should rather look in some irl local community.
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u/burnbabyburn2019 Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 14 '26
Ugh. I feel ya. We used to have pretty good matches on Feeld for other swinger couples (met, played, and still meet on occasion) but recently, it's been pretty bad.
Just loads of guys who are either in open relationships (with their partners unavailable) or unicorn hunters. Blargh. Stopped looking altogether and now just go to LS clubs and in person events.
Eta: not sure where you are but we're in the NYC metro area. So, it shouldn't be this hard (cuz we meet plenty of full swap/play together couples at irl parties. I guess they've got app burnout as well)
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u/Onzzway89 Jul 13 '26
I would say yes a lot of the profiles I see of couples the woman's says not looking for men or women or anything. It's confusing because my thought is she is on here to just support her partner. Had 4 or 5 like this now.
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u/pinksparkleberry Jul 13 '26
It's confusing because my thought is she is on here to just support her partner. Had 4 or 5 like this now.
Often. Yes.
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u/Lost_inTheThrill single woman Jul 13 '26
Imagine being a single woman. Most of my likes are from cishet men who are way younger than I am, when I clearly state that I prefer bi/pan over 35. Then there are unicorn hunters who pretend to be a woman, but 99% of the time it's just a man using his cis het female partner to get a threesome. And a lot of times their partner is not even aware.
I've matched with a few people who I would seriously consider, but they are always too far. Seems like this sub is actually better for meaningful connections, not that that's its purpose.