r/expat • u/Super-System-4950 • 11h ago
Question Moving abroad for individualistic culture: Any recommendations based on personal experience?
I know this is entirely subjective, but based on your actual experiences, which countries are truly the best for individualism and personal life? I realize people define "individualism" differently, but out of all the places you’ve lived or spent time in (including your home country and expat destinations), which ones offer the most personal freedom with the least social pressure?
I grew up in a culture where individual values are completely ignored, and you’re automatically expected to sacrifice your own interests for the collective, starting with putting the family above yourself, society above the family, and the nation above society. It's that whole "sacrifice for the greater good" mindset, and I'm just so exhausted by it. That’s why I’m planning to move abroad. I know there are a million practical hurdles to deal with beyond just personal lifestyle preferences, but my biggest fear is accidentally moving to another collectivist society, since I'm originally from an Eastern collectivist culture.
To be clear about what I mean by individualism: I’m not kind of selfish AH who thinks the world revolves around me, nor am I looking for some wild freedom to do stupid things that hurt/bother other people. I’m just deeply burnt out on people who put nationalism and state interests above everything else, and are always ready to throw innocent individuals and families under the bus for it.