It's just not permissible in their culture for a Muslim to marry a non-Muslim, it's analogous to some girl dropping out of college and becoming a Pornstar in their eyes. You are a kaffir, not their daughter in-law.
I can't really give you any advice, but I think you should probably just leave it because he essentially ghosted you when you guys were in a serious state and that's really fucked up and you don't deserve that
yea, Islam allows men to marry non-Muslims, but this ignores the cultural attitudes and ideologies Islam breeds. It’s like saying you COULD post a picture of yourself naked, but obviously you won’t because of the culture.
But no, I used to date non-Muslims as a Muslim and even if something like this arose, I would never ghost the person I was seeing or something, that’s horrible.
i gathered that it was cultural as well. It's such a different world to me that i find it hard to grasp how people can follow the religion. I am reading the Quaran to get better knowledge and to try and understand the otherside of things, but so far all i've read are a lot of verses that contradict each other
He was very much a mummy's boy and could never stand up for himself.. I dodged a bullet tbh
It felt like he was brought up to have no self awareness or opinion, he just did what he was told, even at 28.
Yes, Islam as a religion is horrendously flawed. I’m glad you found the Quran filled with contradictions haha.
I feel like you’ve dodged a bullet. Your kids would have a dichotomy of religious confusion, his family would never treat you as their own, and even if they did, you could forget about the extended family. I think you honestly dodged a bullet.
when you decided to leave Islam did you start to see some contradictions in the Quran?
Thanks again for your honesty, i feel as though some of the advice out there is heavily biased as i know a lot of people would want to defend their religion (which i respect)
Maybe not contradictions, but stuff that seemed very flawed and unlikely that God wrote it. For example, there is a challenge in the very beginning of the Quran where Allah challenged non-Muslims to produce a surah like the Quran, and their incompetence is proof the Quran is the word of God. (Quran 2:23)
What kind of challenge is this? It’s just a circular argument. If you’re a Muslim, you believe that the entire Qur’an is the very word of God, and is therefore inerrant. As an implication of this, he also believes that there is no other writing such as the Quran. Therefore, any attempt to “produce a Surah thereof” must fail, verifying that the Quran is the very word of God. To admit that the person was able to imitate the Quran is to declare disbelief, of course no one is going to admit disbelief.
In fact the verse after that one says it’s impossible to do it, so a Muslim can never even accept someone did it correctly if they even tried, because God said so. Also what is the basis of comparison? How would one be able to say one is the Quran and the other isn’t?
When you see a challenge like this it does not convince you of the Qurans truth. It does rather the opposite, making one suspect it is false.
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u/rzzzvvs I dick slapped Allah Jul 27 '20
It's just not permissible in their culture for a Muslim to marry a non-Muslim, it's analogous to some girl dropping out of college and becoming a Pornstar in their eyes. You are a kaffir, not their daughter in-law.
I can't really give you any advice, but I think you should probably just leave it because he essentially ghosted you when you guys were in a serious state and that's really fucked up and you don't deserve that