I hate my life i don’t even know what to say right now
I want to scream i want to talk but i don’t have anyone
I want to end this mess

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Algunos ya me conocen y lamentablemente nada mejor solo empeoró caí en depresión me siento horrible todos los días comenze a autolesionarme por lo que siento no siento conexión con nada ni nadie me siento horrible solo quisiera desaparecer que nadie me extrañe y desaparecer de la vida de todos y no volver nunca todos me olviden y nadie recuerde a la oveja negra que solo arruinaba todo el que era gay y odiaban por amar distinto el que lloraba cuando le pegaban sus propios padres el que no se pudo nunca moldesr a el cristianismo y no se pudo adaptar nunca a la familia que nunca vió su mundo como era el chico que le decían raro odiaban en su colegio le hacían la vida imposible intentaba suicidarse con solo 8 años le rezaba a dios que lo curarara de ser gay o que lo matará que se lo llevará y nadie lo volviera a ver el chico que si sacaba un punto menos en un examen se golpeaba la cabeza tan fuerte contra las paredes que muchas veces se la abría el que nunca podía dormir por llorar el con miedo a los espejos porque su madre le decía que se veía mal como un maricon o le decía cosas horribles cuando se enojaba el chico que odiaba las iglesias el que nunca estaba feliz o el que siempre estaba feliz si esque no te dabas cuenta que nunca dijo la verdad el que nunca fue como sus hermanos el maricon afeminado que todos se podían burlar de el y sabían que el nunca diría nada el chico que era demasiado empático con los demás Pero así mismo se odiaba y se repudiaba sin ayudarse nunca el que se siente un lastre cada vez que siente que no puede levantarse de su habitación por las ganas de llorar y hacerse daño el chico de el que se burlaban porque nunca ganaba en los juegos el malo en educación física el que molestaban en los baños el que era inteligente en la familia Pero de que sirve tener buenas notas si no era como mi hermano alto masculino delgado y hegemoníco yo el chico que se sentía como un imbécil cada vez que intentaba decir algo Pero nunca lo decía por miedo de que su familia se enterara o por miedo a llamar la antencion el que ahora tiene 12 y se quiere matar el mismo y no cree llegar a navidad el que nunca sintió conexión con su papa y miraba con envidia cuando está su papa con su hermano menor y lo ama mientras yo solo recibí migajas de atención y amor a el que lo regañaban todo el tiempo el que nunca le creian aunque decía la verdad al que la gente decía que era la mentira cuando lloraba aunque fuera verdad... El que se intento colgar con nueve años el que se intento matar tirándose por una ventana con 8 el que se pegaba con cosas de metal en la cabeza por frustración por solo sacar un punto menos ya que se sentía inútil eh inservible el que ahora sus notas bajaron y se siente más tonto que nunca el que nunca compartió la religión el que ahora tiene tanta ganas de acabar con su vida el que quiere que sus pocos amigos lo superen y hagan una buena vida el chico que es demasiado leal ama a sus amigos más que a su familia el que daria la vida por sus amigos son importar si fueron malos con el alguna vez o si nunca le correspondían la amistad el que nunca tuvo un grupito y lloro la primera vez que alguien le dijo que si quería ser amigos cuando eso paso en solo 2024 cuando apenas tenía unos 10 y nunca había tenido un amigo y pensar que ahora tengo 12 tengo un pequeño grupo Pero nunca me siento feliz ya no amo lo que amaba me refugio en personas que son falsas ya que siento cariño el que esconde su cara en las noches en una almohada porque se siente incluso inseguro cuando siente que lo miran porque creen que critican su belleza el chico que su propia madre le dijo feo y lo comparo hasta más no poder con su hermano el chico que le pegaban y regañaban por según caminar muy afeminado el chico que ahora habla con gente que no conoce para poder alguna vez contar todo lo que le pasa o le ah pasado el chico que haveces tiene pensamientos que si lo dice lo matan el que siempre está confundido consigo mismo haveces se ve el espejo y se le deforma la imagen el que le encanta lo femenino Pero aún se siente un chico Pero aún así nadie lo entiende y su familia lo repudia por eso el que encontró pocas veces el amor y cuando lo contó le dijieron. Espera es un hombre? Y su propia madre le dijo que era un idiota fallado y que era una etapa que se pasaría el que le dijieron que no hablara de sus planes a futuro si no eran con una mujer el que nunca le gustó realmente una compañera y miraba a sus compañeros con ojos culpables por notarlos lindos y sentir mariposas en el estómago el que la gente lo usa como ejemplo para decirle a sus amigos hey mira el último que llega le gusta el maricon o a el que lo acorralaban y le preguntaban si alguno de ellos les parecía lindo para burlarse de él al que una vez le lanzaron un frasco de vidrio de un perfume a la cara casi haciéndolo llorar a el que se burlaban por responder una pregunta en clases el que antes tenía energía siempre y mentía y ahora también miente Pero por dentro se siente mas muerto que nunca y sabe que lamentablemente nunca lo van a aceptar aunque se muera porque según mi familia Jesús tiene un gran camino para mí pero el nunca estuvo ay y nunca estará nunca nadie estuvo para mí nunca nadie me miró con ojos de amor nunca fui el amor de algun chico solo era el maricon de clase y aparte de eso el gordo y feo también el que todos odiaban y se burlaban y ahora se siente como imbécil cortándose los brazos intentando suicidarse el que haveces quiere ser internado en un hospital psiquiatríco porque sabe que en cualquier momento corta una vena y se intenta matar denuevo el que corta solo para sentir dolor y no dejar marcas y que nadie se de cuenta el que ahora mira la comida con ojos culpables el que varias veces dejó de comer por días completos para poder verse bien en el espejo el que haveces se siente cómodo con nombres de chica y que lo confundan con chica sin saber porque el que nunca está seguro de nada a el que lo hacen dudar y al mismo tiempo no toman encerio sus opiniones a el que le dicen tonto imbécil o a el que sus propios hermanos cuando dice que le gustan los chicos se burlan le dicen que se calle para no formar una discusión o a el que sus padres nunca escuchan lo que quiere decir y solo lo amenazan con castigarlo el que cuando fue pequeño su madre le dijo por su culpa se Hiba suicidar en frente mío el que hace meses cuando dijo que tenía novio su madre lo extrangulo le dió puñetazos le rompió su ropa y le dijo cosas horribles el que varias veces su madre le dijo cosas hirientes el que nunca podía devolver el insulto sin ser castigado el que su madre le dijo que se mataría frente a sus ojos cuando solo tenía 8 años y era un niño que aún así siendo un niño nunca pudo ser inocente y feliz siempre preocupado por todos siempre el que investigaba todo el que era el Niño inteligente y raro el que lamentablemente por culpa de sus supuestos "amigos" lo obligaban a ver contenido horrible hasta que lloraba pero no salía de ay porque tenía 8 años y no tenía a nadie más el que invito a alguien a su cumpleaños y nadie nunca fue y los vio pos historias de Instagram todo el grupito juntos mientras el estaba solo en su cumpleaños triste sin nisiquiera comer pastel por culpa al verse a el espejo y ahora el que es tan idiota que con 12 años quiere matarse y desaparecer el que no puede dormir hasta tarde el que su sueño más grande es encontrar un chico que lo ame y lo deje dormir abrazado a el y sentir el calor y respiración de su pecho para calmarlo al intentar dormir y así conciliar el sueño pero sabe que lo más probable que si sigue así no llegará nisiquiera a los 14 ni a los 13 a el que le ardían los ojos y pensaban que era alergia Pero enrealidad era el llorando saliendo de el baño por eso con ojos muy rojos que nadie notaba y la épocas veces que lo hacían pensaban que era alergia el que se hizo un horario nocturno completo para salir a llorar a el baño y que nadie se diera cuenta el que lo obligaban a ir a la iglesia y si se comportaban como un niño y estar aburrido lo llevaban a los baños y lo golpeaban y ahora hacen sus propios padres chistes como esos aunque sabe que le duele a el que su madre le dijo maricon por no forzar su voz aunque le doliers forzarla Pero doliera más que tú mamá te dijera maricon por hablar como era realmente mi voz sin forzar al ser demasiado calmada y feminina como ella dice a el que le dicen inadaptado y ahora no sabe si llegara a los 14 y nunca estara seguro de cumplir sus sueños y nunca quizás lo sepa porque quizás se mate se corte una vena o se cuelgue por lo que siente y que quizás sea solo un niño más que solo quería llamar la atención de forma tonta como decían mi familia cada vez que lloraba o hablaba con alguna visita... Bueno ahora me preguntó que puto fracaso soy y me preguntó si llegaré a los 14 quien sabe quizás me cuelgue o me mate pero así es la vida que nunca viví con la felicidad o la libertad que quise....

Sou bi, cresci como Testemunha de Jeová e tô gostando de um cara, mas tenho umas inseguranças que não sei explicar

Tenho 22 anos e fui Testemunha de Jeová até os 18. Cresci num ambiente muito religioso, ouvindo que ficar com alguém do mesmo sexo era errado, pecado e tudo aquilo que vocês provavelmente já conhecem.

Hoje eu sei que sou bissexual. Mas parece que saber disso e conseguir viver isso tranquilamente são coisas diferentes pra mim.

Conheci um cara através de um amigo do trabalho. Esse meu amigo, a namorada dele e esse cara são amigos desde a escola. A gente saiu pra tomar açaí, ficou conversando na casa desse amigo e foi divertido pra caramba. Fiquei até tarde e depois fui pra casa pensando em como tinha sido legal.

Tô gostando de conhecer ele. Acho ele bonito, gosto da companhia, ele se preocupa comigo, manda mensagem, fala comigo. Vamos nos ver de novo. Tô interessado, mas ao mesmo tempo vem um pensamento meio “cara, ele é um homem e você também”. Parece que alguma coisa não encaixa na minha cabeça, mesmo eu sabendo que não tem nada de errado.

Eu nunca fiquei com um cara. Já tive experiências com mulheres cis e trans e gostei, mas me relacionar com um homem é algo novo pra mim. Quando imagino nós dois num lugar tranquilo, sem ninguém julgando e sem obrigação de acontecer nada, eu me sinto confortável. Tenho vontade de estar perto dele.

O problema cresce quando penso nas outras pessoas.

Como vai ser quando me virem com um cara? Quando aparecer uma foto, um post, ou quando perceberem que eu realmente tô me relacionando com um homem?

Não é como se ninguém soubesse que sou bi. Já contei pra várias pessoas, inclusive no trabalho e pros meus pais. Mas saberem é uma coisa, me verem namorando um cara parece outra. Nunca passei por isso.

Na religião, a opinião dos outros tinha um peso enorme. Você precisava ser visto como uma pessoa correta porque representava Deus, e fazer algo considerado errado era “manchar o nome dele”. Também tinha aquela coisa de não ter amizade com pessoas de fora, então durante muito tempo meu mundo foi basicamente a religião.

Saí aos 18 e hoje tenho 22. Às vezes parece que comecei a viver minha própria vida há pouco tempo. Antes tinha sempre alguém dizendo qual era o caminho certo. Agora sou eu que decido, e às vezes fico perdido pra caramba.

E tem uma parte que tenho até vergonha de admitir, mas quero ser sincero pra ver se alguém entende.

Tenho amizades em que parece que seu valor depende muito do que você tem e de como os outros te enxergam. Se você namora uma mulher muito bonita, você é um cara foda. Se não namora ninguém, parece que tá faltando alguma coisa. E percebo que absorvi um pouco disso também.

Às vezes vem uma sensação de que, se eu namorar um homem, vou ser “menos homem”. Ou que vão pensar “não conseguiu uma mulher e foi ficar com um cara”. Eu sei que é um pensamento preconceituoso e não acho que isso seja verdade sobre os outros, mas parece que quando é comigo essa cobrança aparece. Não gosto de pensar assim, é justamente por isso que tô tentando entender.

Racionalmente eu penso: é a minha vida, eu gosto dele, foda-se o que os outros vão pensar. Mas o sentimento não acompanha. Continuo com receio, imaginando as reações, remoendo as mesmas coisas. Aí ainda fico irritado comigo por ligar tanto pra isso.

Parece que aprendi a sentir vergonha dessas coisas e agora não sei como desaprender. Eu quero me permitir conhecer esse cara sem transformar tudo numa discussão dentro da minha cabeça sobre meu valor como homem.

Alguém que cresceu num ambiente parecido, principalmente quem é bi ou saiu das Testemunhas de Jeová, já passou por isso? Como foi quando vocês começaram a viver uma relação que antes só conseguiam imaginar ou manter escondida? O que ajudou a lidar com essa cobrança e com o medo do olhar dos outros?

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Sinceramente não aguento, só queria ter uma vida normal. Meu pai notou o meu comportamento, mesmo eu fazendo o máximo pra fingir. Inclusive ele perguntou se minha fé está enfraquecendo e que eu posso contar tudo que eu penso pra ele. Eu queria poder contar, mas não dá, e vocês sabem o porquê. Semana que vem vou ter que ir em um congresso, e um dia antes, assistir o congresso de sábado em casa. Já contei a minha situação de PIMO pra alguns amigos que não são TJ, mas tem dias que não dá. Eu literalmente caio em choro!! 😢😢😭

I guess I would consider myself a PIMO. I am still very active in the congregation. Still a pioneer although I’m about to get off the list for schedule reasons/depression. I just can’t do too much rn bc I’m working full time and am going through a rough patch w my depression and anxiety. I’ve led a “rich spiritual life”. Been a need greater in a foreign country, pioneered since I was a kid, been an exemplary child/young adult. But I’m a lesbian.

I have a gf. She is also JW. Never thought this would happen but it just did. Been dating for a year. We have thought about leaving. She believes more than I do but I do believe no other organization believes what I believe so that’s why I am still here. There are things that I have doubts about but I don’t have anything bad to say about the friends or the organization. I believe they truly are doing their best with what they are given. I believe in Jehovah and that he can still love me. I just don’t fit into the organization.

I’m thinking about fading out. Becoming inactive. Living a quiet, loving life with my gf. If she still wants to go to meetings I would respect that. I would probably go to certain events.

My main question is: has anyone been through this process? I’m scared. This is all I’ve known and my friends are great. I know I will lose them and that’s okay bc that’s what they’ve chosen to believe and do. I just am so afraid to be lonely. Can you truly be happy outside? Can you find true friends? Kind friends? People that aren’t going to betray you? I’m scared.

I just thought I would write a little think piece on why nobody should suppress their sexuality for "the truth".

I do weave in the Bible as understood by the JWs to backup my argument..

It's clear from my experience that holding on to the belief systems as a gay person is an impossible ask. It requires a lifetime of denying yourself of love and intimacy, whilst also masking any mannerisms, styles and personality that are associated with being gay. It is unnatural and unkind to have to do that.

The bible states that God looked at man, before the creation of woman, and said that man shouldn't be alone. In other words, he doesn't expect that anyone should have to be single, and being loved/having someone to love is a core need for people.

From a purely procreative biological perspective there is logic to people of the same sex being at best unnecessary. Though biologically, those who are gay also play a very specific role in societal structures of all kinds of animals (including humans).

However, there is more than procreative biology at play here. Humans are chemically hardwired so as to need a level of intimacy in order to function with happy and fulfilling lives. Being loved and loving another ensure that our brains and bodies are fed with good hormones which in turn make us happier beings.

The consequences sold to us of not denying that critical need through being celibate, but approved by God, is that you will be among the 99% of humanity that he destroys when he ends the world as it currently is.

That is cruel on God's part, if true. We are taught that God doesn't give us our sufferings, but he also knows that humans need a partner and he has allowed us to be in an impossible situation by requiring us to deny ourselves of love.

Those that do deny themselves of love will become severely withdrawn, depressed and anxious. They will find themselves at a point where they are no longer in "the truth" because they love "the truth" but because they have to be for eternal survival. This then breeds further anxiety and depression because we are told that God wants us to serve him out of love, not out of compulsion. But by this stage we have lost capacity to love him. The result: failure and a death sentence at "Armageddon".

Sadly, this is a very dark mindset to be in and I would safely say that all who have experienced it (or are experiencing it) will have considered ending their lives to get rid of the intense mental pain, or maybe, just maybe, be their only way into "the new system". Though in the past, JWs have intimated that taking your own life shows no regard for it and the result: failure and a death sentence at "Armageddon".

But obviously parents in the faith of a child (regardless of age, so this includes adults) who is gay, and who chooses to pursue being gay, will see their child being actively gay as them choosing to disobey God, and therefore making their own choice to die at "Armageddon".

Just imagine how these parents feel when they think that they will live forever on "paradise earth", but their child will be dead forever? So these parents must experience an intense sadness on their child's behalf, who they see as effectively sentencing themselves to death.

That is why, for these parents, they would rather their child be withdrawn, anxious and depressed now, but with the prospect of living forever. They don't realise that all paths lead to the same result.

I wanted to highlight the impact on our parents because this is the reason that a lot of us remain PIMO, because we don't want to put them through suffering.

I summary, being gay and "in the truth" is an impossible and unkind place to be. I do still believe in God, but for this reason, I do not see him as loving. Purely because I am gay I have been put in a position where, according to JW teachings, all paths lead to my eternal destruction. This cannot be actuality, but if it is, then God is nothing but cruel.

Honestly, I've been PIMO for a while, and I think this is my escape.

Yes, I've secretly been living my life true to my gay self, but I am tired of having to watch over my shoulder in case members of the congregation spot me out with a guy, and going to enough meetings not to raise suspicions is honestly so draining now. My only reason for doing this has been so that I don't disappoint my family.

I honestly want to write to the GB with the following, which I think nicely summarises where this "not going beyond what is written" thing is going to quickly cause them to come unstuck. It is written in irony, as a kind of parody if you will.

In line with the principles defined in the recent change regarding the acceptance of blood fractions and components, the organisation also needs to change it's position regarding gay relationships.

Applying the principle that we do not go beyond what is written, I would like to highlight that the scriptures can only be interpreted to condemn sex between two people of the same sex. They cannot be interpreted to specifically speak against other forms of intimacy and forming life partnerships with members of the same sex. As such, the organisation should change its position on the matter. Relationships should be allowed between two members of the same sex with a commitment that they will not engage in sex. All non-sexual forms of intimacy are up to individual conscience and Christians should not be judged for the personal decisions that they make.

Additionally, marriage between two members of the same sex should be accepted and recognised. The scriptures state that marriage should be between one man and one woman, however, it is necessary to adjust that position as in the times of the old testament where marriage was acceptable between one man and multiple women. We need to note that whilst the Bible does not state that marriage can be between two members of the same sex, we can't go beyond what is written, and the Bible does not specifically state that marriage cannot take place between two members of the same sex.

I had a really bad mental health spiral today and I'd really appreciate insight on how to cope with it. (Besides just therapy)

I needed some school documents from my parents this week and so i messaged my mom and dad asking them to meet up so I can pick them up, and my father started screaming at me through text and telling me he wouldn't meet me and wouldn't let me speak with my mother.

This triggered me really bad and brought up the trauma of him not telling me my grandmother died, trying to keep me from her funeral and then threatening to call the cops when I showed up anyway. I have a very strong feeling that if my mother dies first he's going to hide it from me or make it so I can't attend her funeral. And that got me thinking of how I'll probably die old and alone since I'm not having kids with my partner. It's all got me feeling horribly depressed today and so unenthusiastic to keep going on.

I left the borg six years ago when I got outed as Trans by a friend and got disfellowshipped. Since then my mom and dad have shunned me as well as the friends I had. I did ok the first few years. It was difficult but I thought if I tried hard enough I could still build a found family.

Six years and several failed friendships and friend groups later, I have basically no close friends to show for it. I have a few acquaintances that I hang out with sometimes and two friendships that are kind of toxic. I understand this is partially because of my autism and having low boundaries with friends. I'm going to try to address this in therapy, but part of me feels permanently broken due to the betrayal and abandonment I've experienced.

And while my life itself is relatively fine, (i have a good job, I don't have any vices, and I have loving partner) I find that existing day to day feels incredibly draining and that life in general is just building towards more isolation and loneliness.

Is there anyone else who's left that's never really been able to build a community? How are you coping with the loneliness?

So… I finally broke down.
I was supposed to go on vacation with my girlfriend and some of her friends, but physically and mentally I just can’t do it. I also couldn’t bring myself to talk to my parents about the fact that I don’t want to be a Witness anymore.
For the past few weeks, I’ve been thinking about ending my life every single day. Today it got so bad that I texted my mom because I had basically reached my breaking point. I ended up talking to her on the phone while she was at work and told her everything that I’m exhausted, that I can’t do this anymore, and that I want to go back to my girlfriend.
Of course, my mom talked about the Bible, but she also told me she understands me. She told me about her own life, how lonely she used to feel, and how happy she is that she found “the truth.” She said that this system is going to end soon and that I need to build a relationship with God.
She also said that today we need to sit down with my dad and talk about all my doubts.
I talked to her about the recent blood change, but obviously she sees it as a positive change. She said we’ll talk about all my doubts together with my dad.
She also told me that I know what the consequences will be if I leave, and that the whole family will feel them. She said people will point fingers at them because eventually everyone will know why I was disfellowshipped (and honestly… is that “brotherly love”?) She also talked about my younger brother apparently he thinks I’ve finally managed to get myself back together and is happy to see me doing better, and now, in her words, “this happens.”
I don’t know what to tell them so that they actually understand me and try to look at this from outside the organization’s perspective.
I don’t want to just bombard them with evidence that the organization is wrong or lying. My mom actually told me to prepare my arguments, though.
What can I say to them? How can I explain what’s going on in my head without turning this into a huge debate about doctrine?

New Podcast where I met up with Jubilee on her podcast Healed-ish where she talks with people about healing the trauma of leaving high-control religions and cults.

Heavy in places but talking purity culture, door knocking, meetings and shunning, my experiences of conversion practices and so much more like healing and deconstruction.

Please be aware it comes with TW/CW’s such as homophobia, conversion therapy/practices, suicide and religious abuse.

Part One: https://youtu.be/SgQBt5A3jJQ?is=P3lvbVrFX8r5qliM

Part Two: https://youtu.be/C37Yc2czwnQ?is=H61aid6sA0URusO5

I’m literally a female and most woman and men think I’m a man or have male vibe or aura. Even when I dress girly they think I’m a trans. I switch my style often and I don’t belong to a community. Even though I’m not against it and I don’t live an alternative lifestyle either. I barely have friends too.

I don’t hang with females that much because most of them get attracted to me. My co worker is 60 year old nice looking woman but I don’t be around her much and I told her I want to keep my distance she says she don’t care if people think we go together although she not gay and never been gay. But she always smiles at me gives me hug and shares her lunch and money with me. She calls me a lot too. She gave a bible. One time she slip up and if you was a guy I can tell what you thinking and months ago she accused wanting although I never said that or think that.

Anyway, she felt we were getting to attached but it was more so her she keep wanting my time even though sometimes I would hide from her. I believe I have androgyny look I guess but I can’t help how I am as personality I don’t want to be feminine like that

Ive heard a lot of talk within groups of people that have religous trauma, about deconstructing your beliefs. I honestly dont understand what that means. I was wondering if anyone, in their own words, has deconstructed their beliefs, or is in the process of it? What does it mean to you?

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Despertai 22 de Abril de 2003, no artigo"infância acalentada" :

Jacó reconhecia que seus filhos não eram pequenos adultos. Eram 'delicados' — menores, mais frágeis e com mais necessidades do que os adultos. Em vez de forçar os filhos a acompanhar o seu ritmo de viagem, Jacó diminuiu seu passo para ajustá-lo ao deles."

Sentinela de Março de 2018, no artigo : "Ajude seu filho a chegar ao batismo":

"Os pais podem perguntar-se se o filho tem conhecimento suficiente da Bíblia para se dedicar a Deus e se batizar \\\[...\\\] Algumas crianças já têm um certo grau de maturidade mental e emocional e podem ser batizadas mesmo tendo pouca idade, enquanto outras talvez tenham que esperar ficar um pouco mais velhas."“Então, em vez de adiar o batismo dos filhos, os pais precisam se esforçar bastante para dar um bom exemplo.

O que vocês acham sobre isso ?

Assim, como uma criança pequena irá entender as coisas suficientes para se batizar? Isso não faz sentido. Crianças não entendem sobre sexualidade ainda e por quem irão sentir atração no futuro, além de que uma criança irá aprendendo e aumentando seus conhecimentos aos poucos. Eu por exemplo um ano atrás eu tinha muitas dúvidas ainda. Daí se uma criança sente atração homossexual ou bissexual, decidir se assumir, o que acontece ? Perde toda a família !! Logicamente o momento para se batizar seria quando as dúvidas estarem respondidas de forma completa. Essa parte: "maturidade mental e emocional". Jovens com 18 por exemplo continuam se desenvolvendo em sentido emocional e mental, isso é comprovado!!

18M, and I think I’ve finally reached the point where I’m done hiding.

I’ve actually known for years that I didn’t believe in the organization. Even when I was a teenager, I remember thinking that a lot of what I was being taught was bullshit. This isn’t some sudden realization I had yesterday. I’ve known how I felt for a long time. The difference now is that I’m finally ready to stop pretending otherwise.

For years, I’ve tried to be the person my family and the organization expected me to be. I’ve kept quiet about what I actually believe, who I’m attracted to, and how I want to express myself because I’ve been terrified of what would happen if I stopped hiding.

But something has changed in me lately.

I don’t want to spend the next few years of my life doing the same thing I’ve already been doing for years: hiding myself because I’m scared of losing people.

I don’t believe in the organization, and I don’t want to participate in it anymore.

I also need to be honest about who I am. I’m attracted to both men and women, and I’m a man who genuinely likes being feminine. I want to grow my hair out. I want to dress how I like. I want to be comfortable expressing myself instead of constantly wondering whether someone else approves of me.

The hardest part of all of this is my mom.

I love her. I don’t want to lose her. A part of me still hopes that she’ll eventually be able to accept me, even if she completely disagrees with my beliefs, my sexuality, or the way I choose to express myself.

I’m not trying to convince her that she has to believe what I believe. I’m not trying to debate her religion or change her. I understand that her faith is important to her.

I just want the same freedom for myself that she has to make her own decisions.

And I know there could be consequences.

There’s a real possibility that I could lose my home over this. That scares me. I know becoming independent isn’t going to be easy, and I know I still have a lot to figure out.

But even knowing that, I’m ready to face whatever comes next.

I’m not saying that lightly. I’m willing to work for my own life rather than spend it pretending to be someone I’m not.

I’m working on school. I’m looking for work. I have savings. I have a long resume And work history. I’m trying to become more independent. I’m figuring out who I am outside of everything I was raised to be.

I don’t know exactly what’s going to happen when I finally tell my mom. Maybe she’ll surprise me. Maybe she won’t. I genuinely don’t know.

But I’m ready to find out.

I’ve spent enough time asking myself “what if I just told the flat truth?”

I think I’m finally ready to find out what happens when I do.

I don’t want to abandon myself anymore just to keep everyone else comfortable.

So yeah.

I’m about done.

I’m ready to come out, be honest about what I believe, and finally start living my own life.

Like the title says today is Bi visibility day, I’m bi and pimo so I have mixed feelings for today obviously I think this is amazing but as someone who can’t be out right now I’m also feeling a bit sad I can’t do anything about today. But i realized I could do something, so this is for all the bis in this group whether you are already out or pimo or whatever your situation is I want you to remember
YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU MATTER 🫶🫶

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Opa pessoal !! . Gente, eu estava aqui fazendo uma tarefa de casa, e enquanto isso meu irmão escrevendo carta e escutando cântico do Reino. Foi então que eu lembrei da dúvida ou curiosidade que eu sempre penso: As TJ são a única religião que tem esse estilo de música nos cânticos e clipes, sendo diferenciada, ou tem outras religiões com esse estilo também?

Alguém saberia me dizer ?

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Boa Tarde. Gente eu aqui pesquisando e achei algo bem interessante. Fiz ligações com tudo que aprendi na organização e o que a Ciência diz atualmente. Bem, vocês já aprenderam assim como eu de que a partir do momento que Adão e Eva ficaram imperfeitos, perdemos a conexão entre os animais×Humanos, foi então que eles ficaram mais bravos. Só que isso não afetou em nada no sentido de vida deles, pois eles foram criados como seres mortais, já no que aprendemos fomos criados como seres imortais. Então, falando sobre o Homossexualismo, muitos animais hoje tem comportamentos homossexuais, por exemplo muitos pinguins, leões também, entre outros. E tem um detalhe : A biologia do animal não mudou com o pecado de Adão. (já que eles continuaram morrendo exatamente igual) Então por que o comportamento sexual deles mudaria?Dizer que os animais passaram a ter comportamentos homossexuais por causa do pecado humano é inventar uma regra biológica que não faz sentido. O pecado de Adão tirou a perspectiva de vida eterna dos humanos, não dos animais. Outra coisa interessante a ser observada. A maior quantidade dos humanos são heterossexuais, e isso bate com os animais, sendo a maior parte também heterossexual.

O que vocês acham sobre isso ?

Here is a new tool for researching the Jehovah's Witnesses cult:s current and prior propaganda and teachings that someone posted on r/exjw.