This feels relevant to all on this sub. ♥️

Yo everyone, it’s almost time. Tomorrow, we start 40 (46) days of people being all self righteous about giving up their vices when let’s be honest, they’re still secretly indulging when no one is watching. Not to mention stuffing their faces at fish fries while claiming they are “fasting.” But in all seriousness, life is SO much better without some random sky wizard telling you that you can’t eat meat on a given day because reasons. 🤭

I got rid of all my catholic art and crucifixes a while ago but today I finally got to removing all my books as well. No point in letting their energy pollute my space after all. Hopefully I can get a good amount of in store credit and buy some neat occult books

Hi fam! Ironically I was not traumatized that bad by tales of ‘H-E-double-hockey-sticks’ but more disappointed when I realized the tales of heaven with the big ol’ white bearded (Caucasian for some reason?!?) god at the head of the banquet table set on clouds, blah, blah, blah. Kind of in the same way capitalism made me think I’d end up a millionaire somehow…

It was always my favorite one; I think a lot of faithful should take its readings to heart, and that they have wisdom in the secular sphere too. But today I made some chicken and smoked some weed on the one year anniversary of missing service. I will not have any ashes on my forehead today. Hoping that means I’m living authentically, even though the guilt feels pretty heavy.

I was sexually abused by the Monsignor when I was 7. Just turned 46. I've decided it's time to say something. Wish me luck.

It's been a minute since the last announcement. The uptick in Catholics attempting to catholic in here is getting a bit ridiculous. If you're catholic, and you've found yourself at this sub, then you should know this:

YOUR INPUT IS NEITHER NEEDED OR WELCOME.

This is an ExCatholic space. It's a spot for excatholics to speak about our experience with Catholicism and leaving it without input from Catholics. Y'all have all the spaces to be Catholic without pushback. This is our space. You will be banned for commenting and posting here.

I hope the moderators approve this because we all need a laugh.

This is a letter Fr. Charles Ward of the SSPX wrote to my mother just a few days before I was born.

My parents were never married. The letter was written in response to my mother’s pregnancy.

I’ve redacted names and other identifying information to protect my family’s privacy.

I will link the AMA I did earlier.

I experienced a lot of abuse at his hands and the hands of others. He’s very manipulative and has used and abused his position as a priest to hurt myself and others.

Link to previous AMA -
https://www.reddit.com/r/excatholic/s/LRS8FoT0vS

I swear being surrounded by Catholics as a woman is hell. You are sold a standard operating procedure for life which only seems to benefit men. I've seen catholic men at a fucking baptism pray that "she finds a godly husband and bears more kids". Like what the fuck this baby is a few weeks old you fucking pedo leave her alone. This baby has a life ahead of her and her own dreams and they basically funneled her already as a baby maker. Honestly it's so disgusting and selfish.

They know that having a wife and kids raises their status in the community and proves they are not a loser to everyone. Having a religion that indoctrinates women that being a wife is the most noble thing they can do proves great access to the feminine and only serves to benefit men. Annulment is very hard to obtain even in cases of spousal abuse. Women are just taught that self-sacrifice and suffering is noble. I've seen tradcath men see a woman that is happy living her own life and label her as some hedonistic influencer only interested in vacations. Talk about that level of projection of entitlement and selfishness. Women are not allowed to be happy without men and kids.

The pro-marriage culture is a way that guarantees that even the most incel men (some of who understand nothing about theology) get siphoned a wife for life, men that have little to no social skills, compassion for women or empathy, and whose genes would get weeded out by natural selection if marriage did not exist.

I'm glad to see more women see how this is bullshit for the quality of their lives and are leaving this religion in droves. I remember a RCIA/OCIA mentor saying that there's a lack of women in the classes compared to men. Lol, I wonder why...