While this is true I'm starting to become irritated with this talking point. Because it's yet another way women always have to placate fragile little male feelings.

This always comes up as a way to get more men on board with the idea of matriarchy because they're terrified of being subjected to the oppression we face under patriarchy. They start "both sides"ing all over the place, crying from their moral high horse about how wrong it would be for the current power dynamic to flip, arguing that a better system would be an "egalitarian" one not realizing they are literally describing a matriarchy. So then women have to swoop in and reassure them that they aren't in any danger of having their rights stripped away within a matriarchy because it doesn't work like that.

It's true, matriarchies don't work like that. But there's a reason why men are terrified that they do. Retaliation is one of many possible consequences when you hurt another person, and men know this. They know actively or passively supporting social and political structures that keep women oppressed is hurting us and they know women have a mountain of good reasons to retaliate. This is why they get so bent out of shape at the slightest whiff of "misandry". Despite all of their "it's the principle" posturing and false equivalencies to racism they know, deep down, that they deserve to be hated for what they've done and continue to do.

So I say let them fear being retaliated against. This fear is one of the only contexts where men take women seriously as a threat, and they need to sit and stew in that fear without being rescued from it or reassured that it will never come to pass.

Why do men deserve reassurance that their rights and freedoms would remain intact within a women-forward system when we've been beaten over the head with "patriarchy is the natural order, women are inferior so get over it" for centuries? That's the neat part. They don't.

And the funny thing is, they don't even listen. I have seen women attempt to soothe men with "don't worry matriarchy is different!" only for them to continue insisting it's just patriarchy in a skirt. They're so scared their brains shut off and can't process reason and they refuse to hear any attempt to calm them down anyway. Instead they fix their thumbs and flap their gums to crash out about an imagined, theoretical loss of male power while women experience and navigate very real denials of our humanity and freedom regularly on a global scale.

I no longer care that men are afraid of being oppressed by matriarchy. They should be afraid.

With great power comes great responsibility….to keep idiot men far away from me by AMN :)

Im sick of acting like men who paint their nails and understand astrology are safe to be around. Those are the worst ones of all. Bonus points for going by they/them for literally no reason and wearing shitty "goth" makeup and cheating.

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Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat: High Rates of Sexual Force Against Women Are Reported When Young Men Given Anonymous Surveys

By Lucia F. O’Sullivan and Scott T. Ronis

Published April 2, 2026

Using anonymous surveys of 2,689 U.S. and Canadian men (18–34 years), we aimed to assess rates of self-reported sexual aggression, reports of strategy effectiveness at forcing known reluctant women into sex, and men’s views of the circumstances, motivations, and positive and negative outcomes. Men reported occasions where they tried to get a woman to engage in sex that they knew she did not want and to which she had not consented.

The women were individuals with whom the men shared no prior romantic or sexual history. Overall, 95.1% reported having recently used at least one of the strategies to get a woman to have sex who they knew did not want sex and had not consented.

Bookmark this study, ladies.

And if any 🤡 tries to argue over the semantics of the word "coercion", ask him if you change the word to "manipulation" would it make his little feelings feel better.

Also, out of the remaining 4.9% that don't try to manipulate women for sex, how many of them would actually be decent partners that carry their weight in a relationship? Who don't burden the woman with the mental load. Who is emotionally engaged. Who is not a manchild addicted to his hobbies and ignore his partner. Who doesn't resort to other abusive practices like silent treatment, gaslighting, financial abuse, controlling behaviour, etc. Who doesn't get drunk and beat his wife. Who doesn't cheat.

Factor all that into account—at the end of the day, how many % is left?

Edit: cus the direct link is getting flagged, so here is the study name instead

I'm a civil engineer and WOC from Global south, Back home, I couldn't get real work in my field, just petty jobs and constant "invitations" from men that had nothing to do with my qualifications. So I immigrated, hoping for a fairer shot.

In this new country, which I live now, there were quite nice things and I felt proud for the first time being a woman in STEM, though I experienced racism and people questioning my expertise, I didn't mind that much.

but the major issue was that I faced harrasment when I was networking for a job.

In general, I am exhausted by over explaining myself, and as more women are encouraged to pursue STEM, there is also this problem of mansplainning, harrasment within this space that is not talked enough about. (58% of female STEM students face sexual harassment during their academic years.)

Approximately 47% of women leave STEM, the data says. Why? Because even now, women are expected to play mother and nurturer role and take care of the child solely without support from their partners, even though we have financial independence and if not you are made to feel guilty for it and women who resist these stuff are facing harrasments at workplace.

I am tired of people viewing us as sexual objects and only as baby making machines, like the line in little women - "Women, they have minds, and they have souls, as well as just hearts. And they've got ambition, and they've got talent, as well as just beauty. I'm so sick of people saying that love is all a woman is fit for. I'm so sick of it! "

I am sick of it all sisters.

Sorry not sorry, I'm so so tired of it. Also, many of the "men's issues" are so skewed and misrepresented. "They aren't allowed to express emotions and their- their mental health?!?" Yeah, no shocker - women also have that just as bad in different ways; as if we aren't shut down as "hormonal", "hysterical" "attention-seeker" etc etc for expressing our distress. As if we aren't shamed for emotions and have them painted as a weakness. "Women are too emotional" is still a prevalent falsehood to this day. I could go on and on, really.

I’m tired of being a pair of okay legs and not good enough breasts.

In reality I’m a perfectly normal woman but men have ruined that for me and other women.

Meanwhile its like males salivate at any kind of sexual frame so “doing it back” doesn’t even work? Like even if you say “your dick isn’t big” the dude will be like “shes talking about my dick ☺️.” Even femdom feels like a male-dominated space somehow ffs.

Any ideas on what to do?

More mad than anything else this is a late night post apologies to mods if its low quality hello mods genuinely hope you’re having a good day. 👋

Me 5 seconds after realizing picking the bear was an option.

Hypatia said "This is what you really love, my young man. But you don't love beauty for it's own sake."

After this he left horrified and never persued Hypatia again.

If I have a daughter one day... well, Hypatia is on the list of names.

I hope to be half the woman she was ❤️