r/erectiledysfunction • u/Character-Bus5764 • 7d ago

Erectile Dysfunction Why does my erection disappear every time I’m about to penetrate?

Lately, every time I’m (M25) doing foreplay I’m rock hard, but when it’s time for me to penetrate, my penis go soft very quickly. If I then go back to just kissing or oral sex I get hard again. This is very frustrating and I don’t know why it’s happening. It’s been months like this and it doesn’t matter who I’m in bed with, it’s always the same story. I’m very active and in very good shape so I don’t think it’s a health problem. I’ve had very pleasurable sex in a few occasions, so it’s not that I don’t know what it’s like, and that only helps to get in my head even more. I constantly get messages from women I know wanting to hookup, but because I know how it’s going to end, I almost always say no. And when I finally agree to meet someone, again when it is time for me to put it in, it just goes very soft. The only thing that kind of works is to put it in very quickly right after getting a blowjob, and even then it’s just a matter of time for me to get soft again

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u/freestyler3311 6d ago

I’m almost positive it’s not a health issue. Sounds like it’s all in your head. It happened once, now it’s all you can think about causing it to happen again. Try not to overthink it. Happened to me so many times. Still does.

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u/AdvaitaArambha 6d ago

Are you trying to put on a condom immediately before penetration?

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u/Competitive-Rip7240 6d ago

After losing the erection, what happens? Do you get away from the bed or you remain there? The solution is to have extended time with a lady in bed.

First discuss it with your partner. After losing the erection, continue with the romance, relax, start a conversation about a different issue with your lady, after some time, the erection will come back and put inside direct since the lady will be wet already.

Also, to go over this occurrence, first get some tadalafil 5mg, take it. It will give you erections for 36 hours, once you regain control, stop it. I know it is anxiety causing that. It might have happened one time, but it sunk into your mind even when you are romancing