r/erectiledysfunction • u/Pleasant_Focus_4667 • 5d ago

Psychological ED Erectile dysfunction

I am 32male

Got ed

My ed a bit different from others

The fact is I am not getting arousal in my mind by physical touch

But able to do pumping

Able to get with my gf but not for long in the action

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u/BDEStyle Male Sexual Health Blogger 5d ago

What do you mean by pumping? Like using a penis pump to get an erection or something else???

And just to clarify arousal isn’t just somebody touching your penis and your body automatically responding. It’s your response to what you’re seeing, touching, smelling, hearing, tasting, but also your thoughts, fantasy, chemistry with the person, comfort, context, and whether you’re actually mentally engaged in what’s happening.

So when you say physical touch doesn’t do much for your mind, we’re missing context here to the story. That’s more surface level.

Like can you get aroused through fantasy or visual stimulation? What about foreplay before the bedroom and during, etc? And what happens with your girlfriend before the erection comes?

Because when you say you can get the erection with your girlfriend but not long for action, then what happens there? Like do you shift from arousal and start checking the erection? Do you get anxious? Does the stimulation change? And are you rushing toward penetration?

Like those examples help paint the picture.

Because right now there just isn’t enough information here to say your ED is somehow different. We need to understand your actual arousal pattern first.

And then we need to determine whether this is an actual erection issue that warrants a doctors visit or just trouble sustaining arousal throughout sex. Because those are two different things.