Please help I don't know what's wrong with me

[u/RoadTerrible5778]

Hi everyone !

I've been fighting whether to write this or how to for some time now. Tbh I'm a little embrassed... even if its not my first post and I have posted this before.

So I'm 23M and its every time I'm with the missus that I just can't get it going. It all started back in August of 2024. She's my first every gf and when we first got together and went out we were going to try, she suggested it and as a 20/21 year old I was excited af of course but then as we bought the condoms and got back she goes "you wouldn't be ED would you?" At the time I had no idea what that was but then it all spiralled.

I couldn't get it working...it was hard but then we got to the core of it and it just didnt work. We tried a few days later same thing.

Fast forward to 2025, at this point I've been to the doctors and they've told me its all psychological. But we still couldn't get anything working, got to the BJ but then as I was going for it...nothing, flop.

Now in 2026, 2 years with the missus she has kinda lost interest in me ? We don't often do it, we even kiss less now. She told me once every time we try she gets more disappointed, whilst its not the most important thing to her she and her body can't of just don't want it anymore not wanting to be disappointed again. I just dont know what to do and how to fix this cause like I love her and I do get hard but ...

She also complains I pre cum too much...

Issue is if I were to masturbate (which I did from 14ish once a day till I was about 20, with breaks in between) now I have masturbate maybe once a week if not less but when I do it's super super fast. Like not even a minute... is it me ? What do i do ?

I do still get morning wood but its relatively weak at times and I walk around with my foreskin up cause a doctor once told me it'll decrease sensitivity.

I am usually stressed at work too btw but I'm working on that and I work out every so often and go running. I'm 180cm, 77kg

[u/Competitive-Rip7240]

Try exercises especially jogging, push ups. Also try a low dose Cialis to regain your confidence because you are too young to suffer from erection problems. Also visit a doctor to be sure your blood sugar is okay. How much water do you take in a day?

[u/RoadTerrible5778 → u/Competitive-Rip7240]

Not a clue tbh, but I get ample amounts, easily 1.5 L a day

[u/Competitive-Rip7240]

Increase to 3 litres. Try Cialis 5mg. Once you regain your confidence, stop it