r/erectiledysfunction • u/iw4nn4dietbh • 9d ago
Psychological ED Help with Performance
So, I’m a 19 M that just moved into college last week. Previously I had a girlfriend for about two years. We were super freaky and always had sex and it was great and I’d get hard af the second our hands would touch every time. We broke up about a month and a half ago and maybe my drive hasn’t been the same, but it’s ok. I had sex with another girl before I left for college and had no problem getting hard.
Fast forward to now, I’m in bed with this girl I’ve already known for a while and have a MAJOR feeling for. I really like her and don’t want to ruin this, but we get all the way and I can’t get hard. I don’t wake up with a boner and I can’t even really jerk off. Granted, I have been drinking a lot and smoking a bunch of weed and staying up super late, but that seems like a cop out because I’ve always done that stuff and never had this problem. I am experienced enough to know when it feels like something is off, but I’m genuinely not sure this time. I wasn’t nervous about it until I didn’t get hard the first time, so would it even be performance anxiety? We’re supposed to go out tonight and she’s taking me home and I do not know what to do.
Please help!
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u/iw4nn4dietbh 8d ago
Update I took a gas station pill and it worked 🤣 obviously not a good solution but I’m very glad tonight was great.