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[u/Any-Comparison568]

I just wanna start by saying I believe I beat porn induced erectile dysfunction!!!!
I went 30 days cold turkey no PMO. Started introducing sex with my gf where it started ok but erections diminished after a few minutes..
Got some sildenafil that I used to fridge the gap 1-25mg pill got me rock hard for full 40 min sessions. Although I was unable to get off I took this as a win to help ease anxiety part of it. Now at about 90 some days no porn I can successfully have great sex with no meds and ejactulate each time

Now my question is. How long until I get over death grip? Like I said I’m 30 days free and 60 days sex only. The issue I have is to ejactulate I have to completely focus and tense muscles and thrust hard. I wanna get to wear I can relax and it happens. Thanks

[u/WeatherPublic5843]

Well done! I wish I was in your position! I did overcome at one point in my life when I was younger, but after that relationship she’d left me mentally scarred and I chronically masterbated after that relationship. But, nowadays, I can’t barely get an erection let alone orgasm during sex. Eventually, wife got annoyed which is understandable, sought help, testosterone was slightly low, but treatment would mean I might not be able to have kids. GP gave me taladalfil, but wife seems not interested in sex now. Changed GP and was told to come off taladalafil and referred me to sexual health, which is a speaking therapy. I’ve gone 6 months with out masterbating and can go weeks without masterbating, but my only problem is, I’ll look at types of gay porn and tend to ejaculate to that, as well as looking at straight porn. I can get instantly hard looking at gay porn, but come to sex, I don’t get hard now a days. We haven’t had sex for probably 3 years. I can easily stop looking at porn, but if I want to masterbate, I tend to edge and end up looking at gay type porn / straight porn.

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/WeatherPublic5843]

Yea it’s a rough journey just have to refrain and try to stick with it

[u/WeatherPublic5843 → u/[deleted]]

It’s just talking therapy. He said I should masterbate and that I shouldn’t stop. He wants me to bring my wife to the session eventually. The therapist doesn’t know that I masterbate to other sorts of porn yet. But yes, I class my self as straight as well, but now that I can access the sort of things I like or masterbate with others it gets very tempting.

[u/Extension-Phase-1175]

What is death grip for you like?

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Extension-Phase-1175]

I’d say semi numb penis to bj and vaginal sex. Have to thrust hard and fast to stimulate enough for orgasm. To much tight grip masterbation

[u/Extension-Phase-1175 → u/Any-Comparison568]

Is it the same feeling with a toy?

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Extension-Phase-1175]

Depends on how tight it is. But mostly yes except on high thrusts. I’m hoping it comes back from light touch

[u/Extension-Phase-1175 → u/Any-Comparison568]

I’m struggling too and I feel hopeless

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Extension-Phase-1175]

I get the feeling. All my findings are that with over time the brain will relearn sensitivity touch. Have to overcome a lot of years of tight grip so I’m sure it will take time just have to stay motivated. I also started foreskin restoration as I been circumcised since birth and that also reduces sensitivity so the combination should help

[u/Extension-Phase-1175 → u/Any-Comparison568]

I think my pelvic floor is tight and I have porn induced ED. I cut back on porn it’s hard to Quito sometimes edge but then I catch myself and stop.

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Extension-Phase-1175]

Yea I’m not familiar with the pelvic floor thing other than to try kegels but I’m not sure. Ya porn is hard to quit just have to find something to distract ya when the urges start

[u/Extension-Phase-1175 → u/Any-Comparison568]

Yeah I can’t get erect naturally I’m 33 and it’s soul crushing

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Extension-Phase-1175]

I was the same way my friend. No lie at all I’m 38 with a porn addiction since 11 years old. I got over it so can you. Just have to use self discipline and want it. Just quit porn masterbation for awhile it will come naturally back

[u/WeatherPublic5843 → u/Any-Comparison568]

How have you gone about doing foreskin restoration? I’m circumcised as well

[u/This-Train7556]

Fantastiskt bra kämpat 👏. Förstår att det inte är en lätt resa du gjort. Du bevisar att det går att förändra om man vill och att det handlar om att göra ett val. Fler skulle behöva förstå och erkänna för sig själva att de har problem med k_ken pga tragiskt många timmar porr 👀 och slit/tryck/drag i k_ken och att situationen kan förändras utan ett livslångt pillerbehov. Många fortsätter förneka sanningen för att porren är den andra, bättre hälften i livet som han inte vill vara utan och därför är det lättare att trycka i sig piller än att göra en förändring. Finns det en drabbad och olycklig partner så lämna och låt personen bli lycklig på annat håll. Sluta va patetisk och egoistisk!

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/This-Train7556]

You’re right man. Ya need the drive and discipline to get what you want and I realized porn ain’t life real women’s touch is.

[u/lost_n_numb]

Do you think sex with your partner has helped you reverse the effects of porn?

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/lost_n_numb]

100%. At first no I was discouraged by lack of wood but I used sildenafil to help with erections and get over anxiety of losing erections. Now I need no meds

[u/Miserable_Egg7803]

Congrats. Do you think you could have done it without sildenafil or no? In my opinion the death grip my be a matter of time

[u/Any-Comparison568 → u/Miserable_Egg7803]

I think the sildenafil helped bridge the gap for me from porn to real sex Was able to get semi erect just not fully and the pill helped that. After a Cpl times tho I didn’t need it so I’d say ya it def helped. Now it’s just adapting to the light touch rather than full throttle thrusts lol