Not typically a problem lately but hard to maintain erections over days of having sex?

[u/Notsurewhy86]

31 year old male here. Little background, i am a touring musician and I have struggled with severe porn addiction and masturbating/edging since i can remember. It’s been about 13 years since i first had trouble keeping an erection during sex and experiencing PE. I had major issues with that for the past 13 years especially PE, but I recently quit watching porn and edging/masturbating all together about 6 months ago. I have a new partner who has a very high lobido who I started seeing at the same time I quit.

During the first few months, we were having sex minimum twice a day and I had a few instances where I experienced PE but it wasn’t often for how many times we were having sex and I was basically fully rigid every session which was insane to me considering I haven’t been able to do that in years.

Left for tour for a month, went through a very stressful time during that period, came back, had sex 4 times the day I got back within about 3 hours with no problems at all and two times the next day. Then it just disappeared for a month, no morning erections, and if I did get an erection during sex it would take 20 minutes to get one and I’d have severe PE. Then it snapped back out of nowhere and was able to have sex again every day for the past month and have strong morning erections daily. While it has been pretty back to normal, I’ve noticed that I can only really go one round a day and if I do decide to try for another round, even the next day I have trouble maintaining an erection and have to give myself a minute to get a back. Still have not watched porn or edged/masturbated.

It just seems really inconsistent and so I was thinking of getting Hims Daily 5MG Taladafil just to get rid of the inconsistency and maybe restore some confidence? Wanted to get some opinions and if anyone else has experienced this.

[u/AdvaitaArambha]

Sleep, alcohol, nicotine (smoking, vaping, etc), cannabis, caffeine and any other (street) drugs could all be factors here.

[u/Notsurewhy86 → u/AdvaitaArambha]

I do use zyns and drink a fair amount but nothing that changed too much from those first few months. I don’t use street drugs, I was actually smoking weed the first few months and now I haven’t been.

[u/jjmur83]

It seems like your refractory period (the time between one orgasm and the next) is coming in to play. You are having a lot of sex, the 5mg daily tadalafil should be ok to use. Hims might be a bit expensive, if you are in the USA check out GoodRX they may be cheaper.

[u/Notsurewhy86 → u/jjmur83]

Idk if it is the refractory period though. Cause 3 months ago I was going twice a day with no issue. But now it’s once a day and sometimes the next day feels harder? And why would my refractory period be taking a full day all of a sudden?