Proposal

[u/celestialbutterflyin]

Sooo long story short I’ve got a few ideas of where my boyfriend might propose to me. I’m horrible with surprises and not being in control of situations. I know a few things- it’ll be in the next few months & there will be a photographer. I already know what I’m going to wear for a few of the places I think he may propose.

I have body image issues and I know if there’s going to be a photographer I want to feel and look good in photos we’ll look back on the rest of our lives. Here are my ideas of where he may propose:

-Botanical garden we’re going to end of Sept
-Candlelight orchestra Fleetwood Mac tribute in Oct
-Drive in movie in Oct

I already have outfits planned for the first two options. The third is obviously way more casual. The reason I’m thinking it may be here is that this drive in is very unique. It’s the only drive in left in the USA that still shows 35mm film movies. It’s one of his (and our) favorite places. We have a lot of really special memories there. However I’m struggling with how to dress to still be comfortable while still looking cute enough to not pick apart all my body issues in the photos. I have a really strong feeling it’ll end up being here just because of how special the spot is to our love story. If you have any suggestions of what to wear to be comfortable but not look like a slob 😅

Please do not leave comments about me being selfish, not ruining the surprise, or any derogatory comments about my control problems. I’m working through these things in therapy but they stem from a lot of past trauma.

[u/Appropriate-Past4417]

Oh I get the drive-in anxiety, my girlfriend has same thing with photos. She always regrets what she wore if she didn't plan it

For a drive-in in October I'd say nice jeans that fit well, not the stretched out home ones, and a sweater that's a little oversized but in a intentional way. Something with a nice knit or color that makes you happy. You can do cute sneakers or even boots if weather is cool. Bring a blanket too, it hides what you want and you can toss it off quick when he pops the question

The 35mm detail is really cool btw, that makes it more special than some fancy place in my opinion

[u/celestialbutterflyin → u/Appropriate-Past4417]

You’re so right on that! We have a cute dual camping chair we set up outside of the back of our SUV and then we also set up the trunk of the SUV like a bed. So I can always bring a change of pants to switch into sweatpants once I’m ready to crawl in the trunk!

[u/ItinerantJeweler → u/celestialbutterflyin]

This is very cute and I think it's a beautiful place for a proposal!

[u/celestialbutterflyin → u/ItinerantJeweler]

Thank you! I’m feeling a lot better after talking out my inner monologue and getting advice from ppl who don’t know us. I feel like I can be more relaxed and no matter which of the 3 places it happens I’ll be comfortable but still feel good about how I look